ryta Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 I've been separated 5 months. We live next door to each other in separate houses. I want to move away. He pays my bills and buys my essentials. I'm disabled and can't work or drive. He does not give me any money. I think he knows I will use it to get away from here. I was stupid and trusted him during the marriage so everything is in his name only. I don't even have an ID card to cash a check. When I asked to sell this place so i could move and get a place somewhere else he ignores me. I have no friends. I've lived here 20 years secluded and have never met anyone to make friends. My family is gone. I'm all alone. I need to move to a place where there is public transport so I can build some kind of life that does not depend on him so I can move on. Since we have been separated we have not one time discussed getting back together. Neither of us seem to want that. But he has said he wants to be my best friend. I don't need friends like that. I want out. I can't move without selling this place & he isn't going to make that possible. So I'm stuck. I feel like a captive and he is my kidnapper. The only way out I know of is death & that is looking more and more inviting but I'm such a coward I'm too scared to do it. This life isn't worth living. How do I escape?
CC12 Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 I don't even have an ID card to cash a check. Wow, that's pretty serious. Have you ever had an ID card? What about a passport or anything like that? Do you have a copy of your birth certificate? Are you in the US? If you have a disability that makes it impossible for you to work, you should try to get disability benefits or social security. I'm sure there are many organizations that can help you. One that comes to mind is the YWCA. They provide credit counseling, budgeting, help with social security, etc. Maybe you can try emailing your local YWCA office. Since you have internet access you can start researching how to take advantage of any social services available to you. How feasible is it for you to travel to the nearest town? Would your husband give you a lift into town and drop you off in the morning and pick you up in the evening? That should give you enough time to visit some of the offices where you'll need to apply for an ID, etc. Plan your day wisely. Also see if you can set up a few free consultations with divorce lawyers. You might be able to get consultations over the phone. It's time to get the ball rolling on the divorce, so you can divide up your assets and disentangle yourself from the marriage. Don't be stuck. Dig yourself out. You can do it.
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