OW Gaslighting? Future faking? OR?

[jlola]

No, thank you all Alot of interesting perspectives I've never considered... I'm gonna just take it for what it is... a group of words, I dont know why I got all excited looking back, the rush of the drug i suppose

 

Apparently it is a drug and you must look at it realistically.

 

He lacks character, is a liar,manipulator,looks really not up to par As his friend even says. So what exactly is it that makes this man so great? Oh yes, his words. You are looking beyond everything and listening to the words because of how they make you feel. YOU are addicted to the feeling.

 

You must look for someone who is equally yoked. But you accept so little. Why? perhaps you feel safe with a man you feel can never do better than you. Therefore he may feel grateful and never cheat because he fears losing you.

 

Reality is, there are a lot of good looking women that get cheated on. It is about the man's character. Not because he feels you are too hot for him.

[The Way I Am]

First, let's think about why he would be telling this particular friend about your relationship. This friend thinks seducing women is high 5-worthy. That's not the kind of guy someone talks to for emotional support. That's the kind of guy you brag about conquests to. This disgusting MM was bragging about banging you to his equally disgusting friend. How sweet.

 

He cleaned up the conversation for you. In the midst of bragging and high fiving about nailing you, his friend made him insecure that you might also be screwing other people who aren't him. (You know, like MM himself is screwing someone who's not you.) He wants to be the only one who's sleeping with other people. He wants you and his wife to both be faithful to him.

 

So he throws out the idea that you won't "commit" to him even though he's actually offering no commitment at all in order to manipulate you into sticking around and having sex only with him.

[2sunny]

He STILL has not changed a thing.

 

He still lies and you still want to believe it so much that you don't see what's real = he's married!

[canuckprincess]

He STILL has not changed a thing.

 

He still lies and you still want to believe it so much that you don't see what's real = he's married!

 

Oh yes and let's not forget he lies to the person he is married to.

Lets face it the be and the ow are more alike then either would like to admit.

[canuckprincess]

Well...except for the glaring fact that one is a PARTY to the deceit and the other is being kept in the dark about it.

 

Dday was 20 months ago so trust me the only reason she is in the dark is because she chooses to be treated like a mushroom ( kept in the dark and fed bulli*****). Not my fault she has her head up her a$$. I have done what I can to keep her in the loop but somehow she convinces herself that I'm just some bunny boiler chasing her poor defenceless husband. Again my situation may be different then most.

[sweet_pea]

Dday was 20 months ago so trust me the only reason she is in the dark is because she chooses to be treated like a mushroom ( kept in the dark and fed bulli*****). Not my fault she has her head up her a$$. I have done what I can to keep her in the loop but somehow she convinces herself that I'm just some bunny boiler chasing her poor defenceless husband. Again my situation may be different then most.

 

Are you sure she's the only one convincing herself that you're some bunny boiler? I would bet a lot of money her husband tells her things, too...

[canuckprincess]

Are you sure she's the only one convincing herself that you're some bunny boiler? I would bet a lot of money her husband tells her things, too...

 

I would say your probably right, judging by what he tells me I'm sure he tells her plenty. I just don't have any concrete evidence. Trust me if I had proof, I'd be done and gone!