clerm27 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Hey guys, So I was hoping someone could help me out here, I'll keep it short and sweet as possible haha. Lately I've been having unfounded thoughts or concerns about my relationship with my girlfriend. We've been together for about 9 months, and we were very close friends before we transitioned. She had never been in a relationship before, and I realize the whole process for her has been very strange and different. We have a fantastic relationship, we get along great, we spend loads of time together, her friends have adopted me as their own, and I've never been happier. We're both the same age, 23, and I've been through enough crappy relationships to know when I have something great and someone I love (I'd never been in love up until this relationship). She never shares feelings, and is very bottled emotionally when it comes to this kind of thing, but I know she cares about me, and while she hasn't said it herself, I suspect she also loves me (I told her for the first time about two months ago, and when we spoke about it she wasn't scared or wanting to jump off the boat). However, lately, she's been acting very strangely. She usually texts me first thing, and lately, unless I text her, I don't hear from her. She used to text me all day every day, and now I won't hear from her for hours. Her text messages have been very short and uninterested. She hasn't been very interested in sex lately either. Like for instance, I accidentally elbowed her in the boob the other day, and typically a cheesy "I could kiss it better for you" puts her in a humorous mood, but her typical response has been "I bet you could". Like isn't that the response you'd say to the guy friend constantly hitting on you? She used to spend the night a TON, and now it seems like it's rare (she's getting ready for a trip for a month, so that has a lot to do with it I'm sure). I've made a comment on how I feel like she's been pulling away from me and she got defensive and stated I was worrying too much and she hasn't changed at all and that I was worrying too much. But to me, this is all very different attitude from her in my opinion. I feel like I may be overthinking a lot of this, if she says there's nothing wrong, then I trust her. However, I don't understand where all of this is coming from all of a sudden. I mean maybe she's trying to detach from me to ready herself for a month without me (though she would never admit it). I'm concerned that my worrying about this is going to ruin my life with this girl. I'm very in love with her and I don't know what to do. I've initiated some therapy to try and solve my inner crap that is causing some issues. I would hate myself if my personal junk tore this girl out of my life. Does anyone have any input? Advice? Anything, please!
ForeverHopeful1 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Around the 12 month mark is when the honeymoon stage ends so that'd be my first guess. What are these personal issues you speak of? My best advice is....... STOP! You're creating what you fear the most.
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