dd19 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Hi everyone, I'm new to Loveshack. I'll start off by laying out my situation. I'm 30 years old, have a great full time job, house, car etc. 3 years ago, my girlfriend of 10 years left me for another man and this really hurt me emotionally to the point where I have barely dated since then. I always had this "numb" feeling that I could not shake whenever I tried to move on from this relationship. Recently, I met a girl who absolutely rocked my world. She was the perfect girl, probably "the one". We hit it off right from the get go and for the first time in 3 years, I no longer felt the numbness. The only problem was that she is 20 (a very mature 20 year old, at that) and goes to school roughly 500 miles from our hometown. We started dating in June and because she's leaving to go back to school in September and our different life situations, it would be best that we not see each other anymore as it would just make things that much harder when the time came for her to leave. This has proven to be the most difficult decision I've ever had to make (feeling is mutual at her end). We're now both fighting the urge to text, call and see each other and I'm torn as to what I should do. I'm the older one in this relationship and feel like the onus is on me to do the right thing. Our age difference and long distance does complicate things. We also both come from traditional, Christian family backgrounds which is another twist as I'm unsure how accepting her family would be of me. For the record, I've never dated anyone so young before, always stayed very close to my age, and the same goes for her. What should I do? Fight for her? Let her go? Confused, dd19
Philosoraptor Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 So you've decided together that keeping the flame alive long distance while she is away is too much? If so, then you just have to worry about moving on. Outside of that I see no issues. You write that things were great, and that supercedes age and "possible" family issues.
Author dd19 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 Thank you for the quick reply. We decided to not take the LDR route unfortunately. As cheesy as this may be, we decided to let faith do the work. If it's meant to be down the road (2-3 years when she's done school), then we'll find each other again. Thank you Philosoraptor. I've been really torn over this and wanted to reach out. You're right, I believe all I can do is move on from here. dd19
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