MrTurk Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Ladies..... If you meet a guy online, or in person....does it actually make a difference if the guy expresses that he's "Not just looking for sex"? As a guy, is it even worth telling that to a woman when I first meet her, or just leave it out of the whole conversation? I would think it has a bigger chance of hurting the convo rather than helping it.
BluEyeL Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Just show that through your actions, don't say it. If you make an effort and treat her right, not push for sex early, she'll know. 2
Philosoraptor Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I don't think it needs to be said at all. I think it would be more often read as a manipulative tactic than an honest statement. 1
kassy Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 The only time I can see it being worth saying is if you are having conversation about what you are both looking for. But the. You are better to say that you are looking for a relationship rather than you aren't just looking for sex. But honestly unless it comes up naturally I wouldn't force it unless she seems to be just looking for sex and you want to clarify you want more than that.
Andy_K Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Ladies..... If you meet a guy online, or in person....does it actually make a difference if the guy expresses that he's "Not just looking for sex"? As a guy, is it even worth telling that to a woman when I first meet her, or just leave it out of the whole conversation? I would think it has a bigger chance of hurting the convo rather than helping it. Most likely all it means is that you won't be getting any early on. The easiest way to convince a girl you're not just after sex is to continue dating her and not act like a douche afterwards...
Phantom888 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 As stated above, action speaks louder than words. On my 1st date with my woman, there was tremendous chemistry, and it was clear that we were sexually attracted to each other. I drove her home that night and told her I can't wait to see her again. Then deep kiss, and left. This basically communicated the following: 1) I am NOT pushing for sex. 2) I am very interested. 3) I respect her a lot. She was very impressed by my actions. I am a relationship-type dude anyway, so I was not misleading her.
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