Elle1975 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 (edited) This man I have been seeing for a few weeks has told me I could leave some of my stuff at his house on a couple separate occasions (razor, conditioner, etc..). Which is fine, in a way. However, I don't know if that has the same meaning for the both of us. Furthermore, I am still nervous about the direction of the "relationship".. meaning, I don't know if we'll even get to that point. I don't want to get attached and fall face first. I accepted this morning to leave my conditioner along with a razor I had left behind. He offered me to stay at his house for a bit (he had to leave for work). I had to decline as I'm meeting my girlfriend for breakfast and stated so. Should I bring it up? Ask what that means? Or leave it alone.. I feel it's too early to ask the whole "so.. you're my boyfriend?".. What does leaving stuff at his house mean in a guy's mind? On a side note, I really like him. We get along, sex is great, no red flags that I can see. Edited July 12, 2013 by Elle1975
Philosoraptor Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Sounds like he sees this as a bit more than just casual dating. I certainly wouldn't want just anyone leaving stuff at my house, nor would I trust them to my property alone.
StayBeautiful Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I don't think it "means" anything. Whenever I've asked if I can leave a bag of stuff, it doesn't mean anything beyond "I don't want to have to carry this crap around every time we go out"
Author Elle1975 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 No I don't think it's casual dating. I get treated like a princess (which I always thank him for, I don't take it for granted). As another side note, he's far from being a push over. He's also educated, intelligent, 45 y old, with a pinch of "I want what I want". I hesitate about jumping in because I don't know where we stands. I don't want to ruin something by asking. Also.. there is always this "don't ask the question if you don't like the answer" kind of deal. I mean.. if I offer someone to leave their stuff at my house, I know what direction I want to take. Should I ask? Or leave it alone for a few weeks?
StayBeautiful Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I'm assuming by your username that you're in your late 30s. You say he is 45. I think you should stop over thinking it, leave your razor at his house and see what happens. You're not insecure young things any more, just enjoy it.
Author Elle1975 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 I'm 39 indeed. A divorce followed by a bad 2 year relationship that left me .. wary and cautious with my heart.
blueskyday Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Hes being thoughtful, which is good! Hes also not worried about other girls seeing your stuff. Also good! Leave your razor, conditioner, toothbrush, perfume and a sexy nightie. He will think about you while you are gone. Dont assume anything. In playful moment, tell him you enjoy being with him and that you aren't seeing other people. Tell him that he should tell you if he wants to see other people. Have fun! For me, there is nothing casual about sharing my body and my heart. They go hand in hand. Hes being thoughtful, which is good! Hes also not worried about other girls seeing your stuff. Also good! Leave your razor, conditioner, toothbrush, perfume and a sexy nightie. He will think about you while you are gone. Dont assume anything. In playful moment, tell him you enjoy being with him and that you aren't seeing other people. Tell him that he should tell you if he wants to see other people. Have fun! For me, there is nothing casual about sharing my body and my heart. They go hand in hand. I smile and tell guys this. Most guys will start talking about what they want. Listen and see if it matches up with what you want.Im a one man woman. I smile and tell guys this. Most guys will start talking about what they want. Listen and see if it matches up with what you want.
blueskyday Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 so sorry! that post was sent from my phone which did some crazy stuff that I cannot fix! Hope it is somewhat decipherable!
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