List of reasons as to why you're glad they're with someone else!

[Gingerlee]

Hi everyone!

 

I've been contemplating posting this thread for a while in fear i'll be shown as bitter and conceited, but it's been nearly three weeks since my ex got into a new relationship, and for the most part, i have been suprisingly... really well?! Maybe because i've been seeing someone, or maybe because him getting into a relationship after stringing me along and sleeping with me for 8 months was the final straw, especially after three wonderful years together.

 

I do think about him sometimes, but it's no where near as painful as it has been. I found myself writing a list of reasons why i'm glad he's with her now, as he is her problem now. Feel free to add your own lists if you're in a similar situation to me, or if your ex is with someone new. I know how easy it is to look at the relationship with the most shiniest and rosiest tinted glasses.

 

 

• First things first, his bloody snoring!!
  
• His ridiculous obsession with football.
  
• How immature he is with his equally immature and horrible friends.
  
• How three of his friends have tried something with me, and he didn't have the sack to say anything to them.
  
• How he cannot handle his drink and always ends up in bad situations, including brawls, fights and his possessions being stolen.
  
• How short he cuts his hair in the summer, which looks stupid.
  
• His obsession with sex, and when he had sex with me once when I was heavily intoxicated, despite drifting in and out of consciousness.
  
• The fact that he is a total mummy's boy and will not ever defend himself or anyone else to her.
  
• The inability to last more than 10 minutes during sex.
  
• How he chose the company of his friends and nights out over more important things.
  
• How he always made himself look like the victim.
  
• How obsessed he is with protein shakes and the gym.
  
• He is a liar and manipulative and cannot control his anger.
  
• How easy it is for him to cry crocodile tears to make you feel sorry for him.
  

Every time I find myself thinking about him, I think about this list and get on with my day. I'm seeing someone now who, for the first time since my ex, makes my heart beat so fast sometimes I forget to breathe. It has taken me a long time (over 8 months) to get to this stage, but with the help of this forum, my friends, and Lewis I think I'm finally here. I'm so grateful for the advice i've received here.

 

Feel free to add your own lists!

Edited July 12, 2013 by Gingerlee

[SmithJ]

Hahaha this is so funny! This list could literally be my ex...Sounds like we went out with the same guy!!

[Gingerlee]

D'ya know what? It wouldn't surprise me in the slightest haha!!

[worldgonewrong]

• The inability to last more than 10 minutes during sex.
  
• How obsessed he is with protein shakes and the gym.

Take note, other women - the gym hunks aren't always the studs they're trying to make themselves out to be.

[Zammo25]

This is all good and well but with a FATAL flaw. If you did not care you would not be on here would you ?

[Gingerlee]

This is all good and well but with a FATAL flaw. If you did not care you would not be on here would you ?

 

Of course I care! I'm only human! This was my first love, my first everything, I'd be lying if I said I didn't care.

 

But now, I feel indifferent, I spent a huge chunk of this year wallowing and it got me no where. Every time I wanted to contact him, i'd think of the reasons why I shouldn't. If just one other person can vent and feel hope just for a little while, then that's all the purpose I needed to post the thread.

 

I wanted to give other people the chance to take off the rose tinted glasses. It has worked for me!

[Sweett]

Wow! Your ex sounds like mine! I caught him in the act of cheating and now he's engaged to the girl. But i am glad to be rid of the awful loud snoring ( so bad that i was losing sleep) the college football saturdays where he put me on the backburner or ignored me on saturdays to watch football ALL DAY, and the less than 10 minutes with sex was pitiful. Its like ok i'm ready to go again and he's snoring already!!! Geez! Well i guess the new girl he left me for is enjoying all this!!!

[groupergirl]

1. Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

2. Judgmental.

3. Negative.

4. Lazy.

5. Selfish.

6. Serious issues with Women.

7. Does not know how to love.

8. Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

9. Unrealistic expectations for a relationship.

10.Cannot communicate or have long talks.

11.Hates confrontations good and bad.

12.Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

13.Cold hearted.

14.Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

15.Cannot properly eat in public.

16.Wants to actually be a rednect (Honey BooBoo type crap)

17.Started gaining a lot of weight.

18.Blames everyone for his problems.

19.Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

20.Blames women for his issues.

21.Has a hot temper.

22.Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

[groupergirl]

1. Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

2. Judgmental.

3. Negative.

4. Lazy.

5. Selfish.

6. Serious issues with Women.

7. Does not know how to love.

8. Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

9. Unrealistic expectations for a relationship.

10.Cannot communicate or have long talks.

11.Hates confrontations good and bad.

12.Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

13.Cold hearted.

14.Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

15.Cannot properly eat in public.

16.Wants to actually be a rednect (Honey BooBoo type crap)

17.Started gaining a lot of weight.

18.Blames everyone for his problems.

19.Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

20.Blames women for his issues.

21.Has a hot temper.

22.Did I mention his flag did not raise up the pole?

 

I am a Darn Fool........I am getting stronger by the day. It has been since 5/28 he took his new girlfriend on a date 6/1. I have not felt like I was lucky until I look at this list - (which I am being very honest) that is the saddest part about this list.

[Gingerlee]

oh grouper, that list sounds like my ex!! please keep telling yourself that he is HER issue now! once the honeymoon phase wears off she'll be at the receiving end!