buzzie2 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I remember hearing once that guys can get very insecure when they start to go bald. How does this impact guys and their self confidence; especially around a girl that they are interested in? I have known guys to try to hide the fact that they were bald, either by wearing ball caps or shaving their head.
pcplod Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I remember hearing once that guys can get very insecure when they start to go bald. How does this impact guys and their self confidence; especially around a girl that they are interested in? I have known guys to try to hide the fact that they were bald, either by wearing ball caps or shaving their head. Some do, some don't. A lot of attitude to it is governed by what is typical for their peer group/age group. A man who shaves his head doesn't care, one way or another, or at least that is what it suggests to me. I've shaved my head more than once just for the sheer hell of it and to spook one or two dreary others. I'm only starting to experience a receding hairline but when I start to actually go bald I know what I am going to do and I know I am going to deal with it. Far too much other $h1t in life to deal with than to get worried about that. Perspective, my dear, it's always about perspective.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 As a woman who is with a bald man, I can offer personal experience. This won't make it true for every man though. My boyfriend started going bald around 25. At the time he was a heavy drinker, for the longest time he wasn't sure if it was the drinking making him lose his hair (as he lived off of vodka). He was VERY self conscience about it, especially considering his age. He went from camouflaging it with the hair he had, to eventually wearing a hat constantly up until about 2 years or so. Which means he wore a hat for almost 5 years straight. He finally accepts it and I honestly love the way he looks without hair, course, that's all I've know him as. For him, it was very very hard to come to terms and even today he tends to have his moments.
MrTurk Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I shave my head bald...and have for over 10 years. But now everyone does it...so everyone assumes I'm just one of the jerkoffs that is following the "fad" I know a good number of men that never leave their house without a ball cap on...to hide the bald spot. They are just as bad as the women that cant leave the house without makeup, or any other crutch they choose.
BluEyeL Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 The guy I'm dating is bald and wearing a cap all the time. I don't care if the guy is bald, but it's obvious he's self conscious about it.
Arabella Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 My fiance is balding as well. He started losing his hair at 19 years old, and now at 25 he has just a little peach fuzz on the top of his head. I've never cared. Why? Because he doesn't. He didn't try to hide it or do something stupid (ie comb-overs). He never seemed insecure about it. In short... baldness might not turn girls off so much as the insecurity that it often causes in guys! That's much more off-putting than having a bald spot
carhill Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I remember hearing once that guys can get very insecure when they start to go bald. How does this impact guys and their self confidence; especially around a girl that they are interested in?I did, to a certain degree, feel insecure in my 20's since there were enough rejections where that aspect was specifically referenced as a physical 'defect'. In fairness, though, women were in high demand so could afford to be both particular and rather uncouth in their demeanor, the latter IMO, meaning I would never overtly state directly to a woman that a particular aspect of her body was physically repulsive to me. Not my style. In the long run, though, happy it worked out the way it did. Good riddance to those types. These days, no insecurities at all. TBH, I wish it would just go away so I wouldn't have to buzz/shave it anymore and MPB saves a ton on haircuts.
gaius Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I use rogaine since my hair is thinning a little bit but it doesn't really bother me. I don't even wear a baseball cap to baseball games. My girlfriend has yet to see my rogaine bottle though. And I'll wait till there's a male cashier to buy more.
soccerrprp Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 My younger brother started balding in his 20s and never knew him to be self-conscious about it. Didn't wear a hat often. He's married to a beautiful ginger who obviously didn't care about his balding. He eventually got to the point of simply shaving his head. He looks good completely bald. All to say that people behave differently about it. Most of the women I've dated have commented that they don't care about that.
worldgonewrong Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I use rogaine since my hair is thinning a little bit but it doesn't really bother me. I don't even wear a baseball cap to baseball games. My girlfriend has yet to see my rogaine bottle though. And I'll wait till there's a male cashier to buy more. Does rogaine actually work? If so, how?
Lansing Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I have been balding for a while but now it is getting a lot worse... I think for me what bothers me is when people feel the need to point it out ... like saying "wow, you are really losing your hair".... It would be like me going up to someone and saying "wow, you really got fat"... or "wow, I can see so many wrinkles on your face"... It is like they are personally trying to attack me. I feel like my head is a weird shape (flat part on the back) and that it wouldn't look good shaven so I just have it as it is. I guess the other part of it is that I have had more and more gray hair at an early age than normal. So, the sides of my hair are quiet gray while the top is balding. I tend not to wait hats (except when really sunny out and I don't want to burn my head) and I try not to let it effect me before approaching/talking to girls.
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I think this is something that is going to affect most men, If you've sported a shaved head most of your life then I think it's less of an issue...a lot of guys with hair would never want to shave their head bald unless they had to. Personally I was known for my hair growing up and most of my life, I think it's apart of my identity and how people see me in a pretty significant way...I always had a thick head of hair that was slightly wavy, my guy friends would tease me sometimes for it being pretty or fancy, women would compliment me on it and whoever was cutting my hair as well all the time. Come mid 20's it started to thin out a bit, and I started noticing a receding hairline (seemed overnight) I could still kind of pull off the same "look" but it was noticeably changing and people would comment on it. It picked up a bit more in the late 20's but feels the same in my early 30's with I think a gradual decrease in hair now instead of dramatic like it was in my mid to late 20's. Personally it had a huge affect on me because it wouldn't comb the same way I used to wear it, I was really rather pissed off and annoyed...I never wanted really short hair, never wanted a shaved head in the slightest...not to mention I have scars on the back of my head from fighting and cracking it open as a little kid daredevil. I'm still rather bothered by it but because I don't have the thick fullness that I want and am used to, it doesn't affect my self-esteem so much, i don't wear hats (I don't think it's that bad yet) but If I ever mention just shaving it off most people are like "Nooooo!" but I've become irritated by it, I'm either an all or nothing kind of guy. As long as I have a good haircut/look for whatever length it is I'll be "appeased" by it, If I let it grow longer I can even hide a lot of it and make it look full again somewhat, besides the receding hairline. I just don't want to be one of those guys that insists he has more hair than he really does so I try to avoid covering/comb over techniques...but yeah it sucks. Overall though I'd say for many guys this is a pretty damaging blow, and hard to cope with or accept for many...especially if you're used to having a lot of it...it's like wtf man...but women also lose their hair I've noticed as well and can get some dramatic thinning, I'm pretty sure they're not too happy about it either. I definitely wouldn't want to look like one of those old washed up rockers with pretty hair but their faces look ancient, as I get older, that just looks weird and creepy to me, but then again they could just cut it shorter.
GorillaTheater Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Mine's starting to get noticibly thin on top, but I'm just grateful I had as good of a run as I've had. I'm not crazy about the idea of going completely bald, though. My skull is a bit too dented and scarred to make the "Mr. Clean" look very realistic for me.
gaius Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Does rogaine actually work? If so, how? It does for some people. I'm pretty sure it does for me. I started noticing a little bit of hair loss about 6-7 years ago and I'm still at the point where it's hard to tell I'm thinning if I keep it short. How it works, I have no idea.
ChessPieceFace Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I used to wear a cap to cover my balding head. Now it's shaved. Once while in my cap-wearing days I heard a "christian" girl openly talking to another girl about how she would never ever date anyone with a bald spot. So classy. So representative of true modern womanhood. Does it destroy confidence? You better believe it. Luckily shaved heads aren't too out of place nowadays. Although I know for a fact I have quite a few less options because of having a shaved head.
JackDrc Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 (edited) It's 100% genetic. All male relatives on both sides of my family has full heads if hair. And all of them except for me are under 5'7. I'm a giant at 5'9. Id trade the my hair to be 6'1. I'm convinced that women don't care too much about baldness. Some see it as quite masculine. The higher testosterone in balding men is a myth but women seem to believe it so take advantage. Balding dudes posting in this thread could look into pills if they still have some hair left. The meds can have sexual side effects but I think the effects are reversible. A couple of my pals are balding and it is devastating them but I have a bunch they'll get over it in due time. They have to proceed through the five stages of grief after their "loss." One upside is that bald dudes will know that women who are interested in them don't have a problem with their hair. It can be a nice filtering tool for genuineness. Edited July 13, 2013 by JackDrc
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