LoveMeLovesMeNot Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 New to this site or any site of these sorts but thought it would atleast help to get some feedback. Long story short, I just got out of a 3 yr relationship when I met this guy who Im pretty sure I fell in love with. Yea, thoughts of rebound and emotional distress went through my mind but im sure now that that is not the case here. I was however emotionally unstable still dealing with the breakup and all. Because of this, I told this new guy that I wasnt ready for a relationship and that maybe we should just stay friends. The guy was hurt and hasnnt really been speaking with me since. A few days after the "break up" conversation happened I had finished splitting everyth I ng with my ex and was starting to be myself again. The only thing that wasnt right in my life was that ♡he♡ wasnt there anymore. He still hasnt really been talking to me and its been a week. I really want to get him back and am in need of help. Ive already done the "no-no" and pleaded to him how I felt. With help from friends and alittle research online ive decided to try the "no contact" rule and to focus on myself in hopes that he will have a change of heart once he realizes how im doing without him... it is extremely hard not to talk to him like this and on top of everything since I have stopped messaging him, which was yesterday, thursday july 10th, he hasnt messaged me at all... I know it is going to take longer than a day but I really miss him and this "no contact" is extremely difficult... please give advice, thoughts, anything!
therhythm Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Honestly "no contact"is the solution if you want to move on from a relationship or to forget someone ... I am not sure how you are expecting that no contact will help you to recover the affection of someone... I think the no contact is ideal in your case because he seems not interested in you anymore and I think you should be moving on but that is a totally different thing of what you are trying to achieve!
Author LoveMeLovesMeNot Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 When we first broke up we were both sad. It was just too much with me just gwtting out of a relationship and all. Then after I pleaded and told him it was a mistake he said he just meeded time to "cool off" and the confusing part was that he told me to "move on"and then a couple days later he askd if I was trying to move on and ibsaid I was trying and he got upset saying that "if I wouldve said no he wouldve driven to see me amd we wouldve started over" so then we were bk to us both being sad and him ignoring me again and saying to move on... so im just going to try this reverse psychology amd ignore him for awhile amd give him his space because if he did want to get bk together then hes going to contact ke eventually. And once he sees that im 'not interested' hes gna want what he cnt have... according to severap sites online :/ guess well see ina few days whata happens. According to my sources I should not contact him or answer his calls or anything for two weeks... but he hasnt contacted me yet and this is day two. Hopefully hell try contacting me within this week if everything works out
therhythm Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 When we first broke up we were both sad. It was just too much with me just gwtting out of a relationship and all. Then after I pleaded and told him it was a mistake he said he just meeded time to "cool off" and the confusing part was that he told me to "move on"and then a couple days later he askd if I was trying to move on and ibsaid I was trying and he got upset saying that "if I wouldve said no he wouldve driven to see me amd we wouldve started over" so then we were bk to us both being sad and him ignoring me again and saying to move on... so im just going to try this reverse psychology amd ignore him for awhile amd give him his space because if he did want to get bk together then hes going to contact ke eventually. And once he sees that im 'not interested' hes gna want what he cnt have... according to severap sites online :/ guess well see ina few days whata happens. According to my sources I should not contact him or answer his calls or anything for two weeks... but he hasnt contacted me yet and this is day two. Hopefully hell try contacting me within this week if everything works out Wow... you are making this so complicated! Why just not plain speak with him about how you feel and see how that works? If he is not interested then you better move on and don't let him play games with your mind!
Author LoveMeLovesMeNot Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 I have told him how I felt... thats when he told me he just needed to cool off. Its so confus8ng myself. I told myself I was going to give him 2 weeks of no contact and hopefully hell xintact ke ans thatll tell me hes still interested and then after 2 weeks we can hangout ajd talk and see where things r at
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