Alwaysthedumpee Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 (edited) ANY HELP OUT THERE FOR ME? I will try to make this short......Hi, I am new to this site and signed up because I am so beyond hurt and frustrated. I just moved to a new state. I was talking to a guy online before I got here and met him in person the day after I arrived. We totally hit it off and had spoke every single day and spend 4 nights a week together for 7 months. 3 months into the relationship I took my profile down from the dating site we met on and at 4 months I mentioned to him that I was not comfortable with him still having his up. He said NO problem, I will take it down babe. Then at 7 months, for whatever reason I checked and his site was still up and it said 'recently online'. So I told him that he could call me when he took them down. He said he was going to call me back in an hour and I never heard from him all weekend. On Monday he sent me a TEXT message saying he didn't think we were going anywhere and didn't know what was going on in his head and that we need to 'take a break for awhile'. I asked if he was okay with me going to his house (he had given me a garage door opener a long time earlier) and getting my things the next day and he said of course. When I got there all my things were hidden, my razor was out of the shower and hidden in my drawer, my clothes that were hanging in the closet were buried between his so they couldn't be seen and there was a new toothbrush in the holder on the sink and some girls clothes folded up on the bed. When I asked him about it he said "I decided to go a different direction". He hasn't and won't talk to me since. WHAT? I don't know what I did, i am so hurt and have no answers??? I fell in love with not only him, but his 6 year old son that absolutely adored me! Help... advice? Lonely in Las Vegas.......... Edited July 12, 2013 by Alwaysthedumpee typo
Z33 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 wow thats ugh... unheard of. I dont see any reason why he didnt take down the profile from the site.
AllTooWell Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 That is ABSOLUTELY BIZARRE that he was not willing to take it down. I think that is a huge red flag and there are some strange, underlying issues here definitely. Do not talk to him. I am so sorry this is happening to you, girl. For your sanity, block his number, and delete him everywhere you have him. That's just terrible
Echo000 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 its over...just like that. He revealed himself, and i am so sorry he hurt u like that. There will be no closure here, you need to leave. Dont dont dont pursue.
Author Alwaysthedumpee Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 Thanks for your replies. Yes, I suppose I should just be thankful that he revealed himself. It still feels like a horrible rejection that I did not deserve and I don't know what I did, or what I could have done to change this outcome.
for666 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 he is a lair and a user it's an abusive relationship for you and you don't deserve it go NC at all!! never ever ever! and be strong noting you can do here it's the person that is stupid not you you gonna find someone that loves you better than this lair and a user im soryy it hurts but move ON PLZ you deserve better and don't wory time heal it gonna be hard but remember it gonna pass (AND IT ALWAYS PASS read on the forums here it always pass)
Talulah Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 'he's going in a different direction? what kind of answer is that? that's the type pf answer that a job which rejects you gives you. What an idiot. Go NC, please. He so got caught in the act.
supaflyz Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Stay away from this guy! You know what I've learn in my past relationship. If it sounds fishy than it is. Stick with your gut instinct. There comes a point where you have to stop giving him/her benefit of the doubt. It only take him seconds to take it off, but yet he didn't want to. Pathetic guy. Sound like he was using u. Stay strong my friend. Hope you find someone new that actually is worth your time. It sucks that your heart is broken, and you barely moved to another city.
Own Worst Enemy Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 The direction of total douchebag. I'm so sorry. It sounds as if this guy is a liar and a cheat, who wanted to carry on playing around.
Author Alwaysthedumpee Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 'he's going in a different direction? what kind of answer is that? that's the type pf answer that a job which rejects you gives you. What an idiot. Go NC, please. He so got caught in the act. LOL - that's what I said to him! 'what is this a job interview'? ha ha!
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