for666 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 i wanna try and reflect my ex relationship so i have to ask some question's to insure i'm k or if i'm not to Fix this problem so lets me explain something in me that i did in order to analyze the situation k first of all i am not jealous at all i know she was talking to other guys but i didn't really care i let her talk to them and didn't react (one time tho a guy hit on her, started to talk to her even do she didn't want to ,you know the typical club stuff so i did react and talked to him so he will leave her alone and he did) + she will tell me time to time than guy's hit on her and i didn't react, just told her well let them try! lol and complimented her like (you'r beautiful guys gonna hit on you i don't blame them! with a big smile) i didn't see her each day cos she was in the army and came only on weekends 7/5 5'd day she come home , 1 back to base so id'e see her only 1 day a week evening till morning than she will go out with her friend's 2 days. 2 for friend a morning for family and evening till morning for me but i requested when going out with friend to call me just to inform me how she is and if she's fine , if it a club party to inform me when she is back home sms or phone call (one time call to let me know all good and fine with her) first we started dating when she was in a non-close base (army) so i cude have seen her each day but i didn't some time's i sad to her i go out with my friend's and some time's she went with her friend's in a week we meet 2-4 time's max some time's i gave up on meeting her cos i wanted to meet a friend but i explain it to her nicely , or if it was 2 rainy for her to come when she wanted to move to a CLOSE base i knew i wont see her allot and i encouraged her to do so cos it was much easier on her not doing all those trip's each day from base to home.etc... we use'd to talk each day! she call's me i respond i call her she call me back never been in a situation when i call'd more than twice until she call's back! even if i wait a hole day! if i have noting new to talk to i say it and finish the call ( it happen'd really rare tho we always had something to talk about) but if we didn't id ask how are you and if noting interesting is up i say k have a nice day baby talk to you tomorrow. when she was in the army some time's her friends have a problem's (BGF problems and she sad she want to cancel it ( i always excepted telling her k i cant hold you i know you'r mind gonna be with them anyway so go help them out ill see you maby later or next week) so to the bad part something i always argued with her she always late to meet me (i mean always! i have to wait 10-30m) and some time's she fall a sleep and doesn't show'd up on my meeting and i got piss'd of it! allot! so when she doesn't show up i am calling more than usual ! 10 time's or more trying to wake her up ! (btw it something she dose to ANYONE not only me To her Best friend she did it allot 2) and one more thing i get angry at her when she say's she gonna call me back! and doesn't call at all or don't even sand SMS to inform me if i call her in the morning and she say's im busy ill call you back i hang up and wait for a call (but she doesn't call until the f next day! it drive's me nuts!) those argues always led me to say i want to finish the relationship and i did flip out cos it's somehow insulting to me i didn't scream or shouted i always explain'd (LISTEN IF YOU SAY YOU GONNA call me do it ! i don't care if you don't call me 2 3 days i don't mind but if you say you gonna call SO CALL!) when we are in a party tho i give her all the attention and sit close to her i do kiss her allot! but i don't run after her i do give attention to my friend's and leave her alone time to time ( she wanna dance with a GF or talk to her) so... i love holding hand's and always holding her hand when going out some time i don't tho! it depends.. if hand are sweaty i don't or if she live's my hand i don't grab it back i wait some time or until next movement and grab the hand again i love cuddling but only when on bad or sitting close if she sit's on a chair i usually don't bother her there .. i sit on my spot than! so from all this i wanna ask one question can it be possibly i clingy and needy? have i did something not good? did i smothered her when she was late or promised to call back and didn't so i got piss'd not properly? btw i usually the one to call first cos i wake up in after noon and she is in early morning so she didn't really know when im awake so i wude call and say hi morning im up... maby i didn't need to call first? it just sounds so stupid and one big thing she wanted to move out to a def rent country to learn doctor 7 years (in future i woad see her one's a year or twice!) and i encouraged her to do it cos i know it's her dream and help'd her to learn for the exams ... so please some response did i do something not right?
Author for666 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 2 3 Month into dating and i didn't ask like that.. some time she didn't call and i didn't really care cos i knew she was going out to party before she actually when to a party so if i called and she didn't answered i knew she is at a party or with friend it's more of a call me when you are done i wanna say gn.. usually we didn't even talk when she is with friend easily answered i didn't insist on it or request it i sad it will be nice if you do some time she didn't but i didn't flip out on that cos i knew she is there there before even she is going or i knew she is with her BGF .. i didn't really bothers me usually i can just ask in the morning so how was it had fun? she says yes k or something new or how was it i didn't need reassurance that she is home it was nice time to time when she called and sad im doing this this with this this and im like K have fun baby talk to you tomorrow go back to your friend's short cut ( i didn't request it! all the time but sometime i did and not in that sentence i just sad k call me when you get back home i wanna say gn to you some time she didn't cos she got sleep right away and its fine)
Author for666 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 well even if i recall it wright i actually never ask'd her (or maby did one's or twice but not always!) she usually used to do it alone or i wude just call up on her or sms if she's sleeping ... just cos i wanted to talk or say gn (usually i go to sleep after her!)
Author for666 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 is it really that matters ? really i don't get it now was it something bad? she used to ask me time time to call me after i go home and finish with friend cos she was out with her friend and maby we cude just meet up after we both done is it a mom's like? wtf wrong with knowing where you'r GF IS! especially if you let her go to bar and party when she get's hit like f always? do i need not to care at all?? aren't we in a relationship?
Author for666 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 nope some time's she did some time's i did noting special (it happens you know but its not ALWAYS and occasuanaly) if i go to sleep i sand an sms gn i go to sleep didn't request her to do it and she started doing it to by her self
Author for666 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 ?? happy to hear why but it's a relationship i just gn noting special some time i didn't even say gn we split and i speak to her in the morning that's it... again its not ALWAYS! let say we speak 5 days a week so i can say i send maby 2 time's only she 2 times or less
Author for666 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 isn't like not doing it showing that you dont give a f about your women? it not like i did it alllll the time alll the time we split all the time i don't see her so what i need to change that for ever and not do it ever?
Author for666 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 ow btw i never sad i love you to her ^^ i have a rule never to say it first sad it only after she sad it im a turn off?
Simon Phoenix Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Unless you are physically with your girlfriend when either you or her are about to go to sleep, you should not be telling her goodnight. That's weird.
Author for666 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 K ill take it as something to learn ^^
CorridorE Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Okay, wait a minute, hold up! It really depends on the girl's perspective. There's nothing wrong with casually asking a girlfriend if she likes being called/texted good night each night. Personally, when I'm in a relationship I love being texted or called to be told goodnight each night if he isn't with me. All of my exs have. They've always texted "Good night beautiful, sleep well" or something similar and it really made me feel loved and sleep more peacefully. I'm actually getting a little teary-eyed thinking about how much I miss it Also, when they would be too busy or forget, I'd text them "Hey, I haven't heard from you but good night, I hope everything's okay. Sweet dreams!" and I've never had a boyfriend call my clingy or anything even remotely similar. Also, I think it's sweet that you ask for a check in text when your girlfriend gets home from a club or something, as long as you ask kindly and do not demand. To me, that shows that a guy cares about my safety and is thinking about me when we are apart. A ask the same of my guys when, for example, they go on a long road trip, just to make sure they have arrived safely, and my exes never minded. So it's going to depend on the girl. As you get to know a girlfriend better, find out what she likes. Some will find it clingy so be cautious, but some deffinately will not.
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