Cheated on and heartbroken

[OvO23]

Hey everyone,

 

I need advice/little pick me up..... I think I know what to do I just don't know how to cope with the emotional damage.

 

My gf and I were together for 6 years while attending university (seperate uni's and then the same one a year later). She`s always had a lot of guy friends and I`ve met them all and it never bothered me. I`m not a jealous type of guy, and I didn`t see any troubling behaviour at first.

 

Over the last two years she had become really close with a guy friend of hers, going for coffee 3x a week, catch a movie, dinner, ALOT of texting and phone conversations. After awhile I felt really uncomfortable with this and confronted her.

 

She kept reassuring me he`s only a friend but I asked her point blank do you love him and she responded ``i love him just as a friend...``.

 

Fast forward a few months and she was getting emotionally distant and I had a horrible feeling. I invaded her privacy by checking her text msgs but what I found was heartbreaking. Text msgs such as ``good morning sunshine``, hows work going babe, I missed you.... After I confronted her she feined feeling guilty but she never fully ended her `friendship` with him. That same summer she broke up with me out of the blue because things appeared to be going good. Then she wanted to get back together a month later and confessed to kissing a random guy at a club. Well I`m not a fool and I soon found out from the grapevine something happened between her and the guy friend of hers.

 

I confronted her about this again and she lied until I told her I have proof which she cried and cried and cried. I turned off my phone kept my distance. I told her if she ever wants me back she has to cut off all contact with him, which never happened, and now that same guy is dating her cousin and planning to get married.

 

I`m taking her off the pedestal I put her on and am begining to see bad characteristics in her, I`ve been going NC but my heart just drops when I hear her name or see her somewhere in town.

 

She was the love of my life, and I don`t know what I did wrong to deserve getting cheated on. All she`s ever said is ``we were having problems``...we were and a part of the problem was her spending time with another guy 24,7 but I never took that as reason to cheat on her.

 

What hurts the most is not that they may have had sex but the emotional aspect of it...I vividly remember we were all with friends long before this happened and the look in their eyes when they stared at each other.

 

Looking back I was being a complete beta b*tch.

 

I just want to know how to cope with moving forward with my life. I can`t and don`t want to take her back but she was a big part of my life.

 

It hurts like a motherf*ker when I think back on all the crap those two put me on and what could have been.

 

I honestly don`t think I will ever get over this level of betrayal and heartbreak. I guess I`m just looking for someone with similar experience to tell me I`m going to be ok.

 

Thanks for letting me vent and taking the time to read this.

 

Sincerely,

Broken & Lost

[Mws]

Same thing happened to me with my ex of 5 years its been 2 months now since its happened and let me tell you its hard as **** man.

[drake13]

It will get better with time, leave her life and give her space, she might realise her mistakes one day, right now she won't, I'm sorry you have to go through this, it's not fair, your life will be on pause while you grieve but soon enough it will resume, dont torture yourself with the thought of her and this man, time will erase these memories, tell yourself you'll be fine and believe it.

[blotter]

Same thing happened to me, didn't even get an apology. Fawk this bitch. Don't try to "win" her back or beg and plead. Just write it off, and move on with your life, the sooner you do this the sooner you will move on and heal.