Star Gazer Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 Why is it that when I'm really interested in someone (whether it has lasting potential or not), dudes come out of the woodwork, literally in droves, to pursue me? And that as soon as it's "over" with my love interest, prospective dates are nowhere to be found?? Can men smell this, or something? Is there some psychic energy women give off when their attention is directed away from you and on someone else? Do guys experience the same thing? 3
todreaminblue Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 i think and have a really keen theory they can smell it.....so i try to drown it in perfume......seems to me to be about the sexual conquest though the challenge when you are interested in soemone else.....they try and break it...more than wanting anything else seems in my situation to be about sex........deb
Imajerk17 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 (edited) I'm very much a 5-senses cause-and-effect kind of guy. I don't really believe in this whole energy thing. I even vote Republican! I think most of the guys you meet via OLD have a lot of options and are having to deal w the Paradox Of Choice. They have a very tough time picking a good option such as yourself so they let you go and keep doubling back. My theory anyway.. Edited July 12, 2013 by Imajerk17
FitChick Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Probably has something to do with your astrological transits. You get a good aspect regarding love, which brings the men in, and then the planets move on and the aspect disappears as do the men. I bet Thawholigan would support my theory.
Author Star Gazer Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 I'm very much a 5-senses cause-and-effect kind of guy. I don't really believe in this whole energy thing. I even vote Republican! I think most of the guys you meet via OLD have a lot of options and are having to deal w the Paradox Of Choice. They have a very tough time picking a good option such as yourself so they let you go and keep doubling back. My theory anyway.. Half the guys I'm talking about I don't know through OLD though.
buzzie2 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I think it's because you are no longer giving off a "desperate" vibe. It's the same thing with men- the ones who are in relationships always get hit on more than the men who are not. This is because the man in the relationship is more appealing and attractive because he has confidence and a higher lever of self esteem. Women who are desperate rarely get asked out because of the vibes they are unknowingly giving off. These vibes of desperation and low self esteem translate into neediness, fear and clinginess.
Emilia Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I think you are happier and probably come across more socially available as a result.
sillyanswer Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Do guys experience the same thing? Yes, the same thing happens to me.
pcplod Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Nope, I don't experience it, but then I think that my birth certificate may be a lie and that my middle name is actually "Oblivious". I much prefer the "personal vibes" hypothesis than the "astrological/planet transits" 'thingie'. That is probably the sceptical atheist in me.
SJC2008 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 It's just the way it goes! Same as when you're single everything seems like the ultimate slap in the face. Take me for instance; I met a friend of mines gf a couple times recently when we all hung out. I was immediately attracted to her and the "salt in the wound" was that she laughs at all my jokes like I'm the funniest guy on the planet! No exxageration. Of course it's a double slap in the face in that one, she's taken and two, she's my friends gf. Why can't I meet a single woman who thinks I'm the funniest guy goin??
pcplod Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Just do what you do with food left-overs, put them in the deep freeze so you can have them on-tap later on. Just don't tell anyone that you have a deep freeze. 2
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Did things not work out? I'm sure they sense something! You'll have a date in no time.
candie13 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Not sure if it has to do about having a certain love prospect in view, it has to do with being happy and fulfilled. That sense of not needing attention and not wanting anything from any man is the secret ingredient that is actually attracting men towards you. And when you're single and crave attention... because you want it or seek it, you're not getting it. It makes perfect sense to me. But, that means that especially when you don't have a love prospect, just be yourself, in the moment, happy and not out there, to "get" dates. It's the best thing to do, because they will just materialize in front of you. I am SURE of it. So... if you have a love prospect or not, I do hope you enjoy !!!
Ruby Slippers Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I experience the same thing. As soon as I get into a relationship, all these guys start flirting with me, being chivalrous, totally stepping up to impress and please me. I agree with candie - it's because they sense that I don't need it, as opposed to when I'm single and alone. This has taught me to find ways to light myself up and have genuine fun whether I'm in a relationship or not - because that happy, non-needy energy is very attractive. A happy, pleasured woman is a magnet.
runningfar Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 It's small change in behaviors. Smiles, confidence, etc. There may even be a hormone-related change in pheromones. That could be an interesting experiment. Somebody alluded to that - though I'm not sure perfume can effectively block pheromones. I don't think it's related to the moon or energy of the universe. 1
PogoStick Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Accepted theory that the reverse is definitely true. Women don't want single men, they like the ones who are already taken. "Social Proof" concept. Women are competitive in that sense. I don't think men care so much. As predators we're happy to go after the lone and weak. We'll take a broken girl and try to save her. But a broken man, down on his luck, has the stench of death to women.
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