daddy87 Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 Hi everyone not been here for awhile, i remember the last post i put was to aim to keep LC with my ex. And i have done for a month now and i cant believe how much better i feel also ive been dating other woman but nothing serious it was just to tell myself that i still can do it even my ex left me Today my ex rang me to sort things out about our daughter and stuff but then it felt like she tried to cause an argument over something stupid which i avoid to get into it with her as i cant be botherd to argue. After the phone call i received a txt and this is roughly the convo : Ex - glad your happy anyway, told you you could find someone prettier ( i havent mentioned anything to her about me dating) Me -i am alot happier but im not looking to be with anyone at the moment. Ex-i know you are and its good to see! someone mention about ( this girl who i took out) so i assumed you were lol Me- haha! people are so nosey! yeah i took her out for a meal thats about it. Ex- Ive been shown pics an she looks alot prettier than me so ud be daft not to. Me- Ahh will have to see as im not really looking at the moment. Then basically my ex told me she was seeing this guy who i kinda know from a friend of mine which i knew she would end up getting with, and she said shes ready to make it official. I responded saying - yeah why not his a good guy just dont want him to take my daddy's roll of my child. Ex- im going sleep take care. Do you guys think shes trying to get a reaction from me? and after that convo she changed her FB status into 'In Relationship' straight away and i didnt reply to the last txt and she txt me again after a few hours saying she managed to get someone to redecorate her house?? i just find it really strange to be honest. whats do guys think?
Talulah Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 Clearly that is what she is trying to do. A: I heard you got a new shiny toy B: I have one, but I just bought it A: I heard from people that it's really nice and pretty B: I just got it A: Well, I have a new toy too and it's just as shiny as yours! B: Good for you A: (post picture on Facebook with brand new toy to show off) How insecure can you be! I hate it when grown-ups act like adults.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 I think you should have cut that conservation off at the start. You should talk to her about her child, nothing else. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 Hi everyone not been here for awhile, i remember the last post i put was to aim to keep LC with my ex. And i have done for a month now and i cant believe how much better i feel also ive been dating other woman but nothing serious it was just to tell myself that i still can do it even my ex left me Today my ex rang me to sort things out about our daughter and stuff but then it felt like she tried to cause an argument over something stupid which i avoid to get into it with her as i cant be botherd to argue. After the phone call i received a txt and this is roughly the convo : Ex - glad your happy anyway, told you you could find someone prettier ( i havent mentioned anything to her about me dating) Me -i am alot happier but im not looking to be with anyone at the moment. Ex-i know you are and its good to see! someone mention about ( this girl who i took out) so i assumed you were lol Me- haha! people are so nosey! yeah i took her out for a meal thats about it. Ex- Ive been shown pics an she looks alot prettier than me so ud be daft not to. Me- Ahh will have to see as im not really looking at the moment. Then basically my ex told me she was seeing this guy who i kinda know from a friend of mine which i knew she would end up getting with, and she said shes ready to make it official. I responded saying - yeah why not his a good guy just dont want him to take my daddy's roll of my child. Ex- im going sleep take care. Do you guys think shes trying to get a reaction from me? and after that convo she changed her FB status into 'In Relationship' straight away and i didnt reply to the last txt and she txt me again after a few hours saying she managed to get someone to redecorate her house?? i just find it really strange to be honest. whats do guys think? A. You should know that it probably doesn't matter at this point. Your daughter should be the only rational thing at this point. It should be DEFINITE NC unless its about your daughter. Nothing more because situations like this will arise. B. Its clear that she has low self esteem issues and doesnt like the fact you are "moving on." Girls dont like to feel like they are replaceable even when they are the ones who are trying to replace you. Seems like she is WAY over compenstating with everything. Here is the thing: It doesnt matter. Keep doing what you are doing. If you are feeling better now, then why go anywhere in the opposite direction? Dont talk to her about it because its none of her business nor should it be. Be the rational adult here and just say its none of your business or better yet DONT TALK TO HER (unless its about your daughter. Even when she tries to bait you into it, just dont text back. 1
Author daddy87 Posted July 11, 2013 Author Posted July 11, 2013 cheers guys that exactly what i thought. I just find it funny how she didnt tell me when we was on the phone but she had to txt me afterwards. When we was on the phone i told her that i was sick of people keep asking me how we was and stuff because i didn't let go until recently but i feel ok now and not botherd about chasing or try to get back and my ex said something like thanks for not bother or caring? what the hell does she want me to do? cry and say dont get with the guy!!! Grrrrr lol
Simon Phoenix Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 cheers guys that exactly what i thought. I just find it funny how she didnt tell me when we was on the phone but she had to txt me afterwards. When we was on the phone i told her that i was sick of people keep asking me how we was and stuff because i didn't let go until recently but i feel ok now and not botherd about chasing or try to get back and my ex said something like thanks for not bother or caring? what the hell does she want me to do? cry and say dont get with the guy!!! Grrrrr lol Who cares? You shouldn't. 1
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 cheers guys that exactly what i thought. I just find it funny how she didnt tell me when we was on the phone but she had to txt me afterwards. When we was on the phone i told her that i was sick of people keep asking me how we was and stuff because i didn't let go until recently but i feel ok now and not botherd about chasing or try to get back and my ex said something like thanks for not bother or caring? what the hell does she want me to do? cry and say dont get with the guy!!! Grrrrr lol I went through the same thing. My ex took a break then swore she loved me and I was the one and blah blah...then left me finally (after ya know I lost my job and apartment). Then after a bit I told her I had someone new (was just like you. Sorta, but not really wanting to date). This was AFTER she said there was a guy she liked and wanted to date like a week after our official breakup. After that, she was saying "Oh Im easily replaceable" and "She is much prettier than me" and "I dont want to date this other person". HAHA WHAT?!? Some insecure women man..... but here is where I messed up and I dont want you to do the same thing.... I fed off that. Thought "oh maybe I can use this as a way back" type thing. So I called here and started talking about it. Once she realized I still cared is when those words changed RIGHT back into what I didn't want to hear. IT was "I DO want to date this guy" and "oh yada yada new guy." Same thing that is with you. INSTEAD of doing what I should of done WHICH IS MOVE ON AND KEEP GOING FORWARD AND NOT TALKING TO HER, I went backwards. I got really needy and wanting her back in the worst way. I kept texting, bothering, etc etc etc. Made it much worse to where she said "lose my number" and blah blah. Havent talked to her since January. REALLY set myself back MONTHS and really hindered anything I was doing. Moral of the story: DO NOT DO THAT! Work on becoming better with yourself and let her do her thing. TRUST ME that is for the best. 1
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