steveT95 Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 We broke up just over 3 months ago. She was very close to a guy then and that made the break up so much harder. They were way to close for my comfort despite the relationship being purely online. Now she is with someone else completely. Hopping from guy to guy. I just found out about her new boyfriend it is breaks my heart.
Replaced Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 I know where you're coming from. It's been almost 2 months for me and she replaced me just like yours replaced you. It's so damn painful and makes you so ill. It's gonna hurt like hell for some time but you will get through it. If she didn't care enough about your feelings then why should you have to focus on her? More you ask yourself that the less it hurts I found. There are people like that out there in this world and this experience will only make you stronger in the long run. Life isn't all sunshine and rainbows, (may be quoting Rocky here) life is tough and at times it will chew you up and spit you out. But what makes you grow and get stronger from this is to get back up from that, keep moving forward no matter how much life tries to beat you down. Pick yourself up and keep moving forward. Cut her from your life as she done to you. You don't need that in your life as it'll only bring you hurt. I'm so sorry to hear you're going through one of the toughest emotional slaps in the face there is. Just remember, keep moving forward and give life a slap back when it beats you down
Mr Scorpio Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 Finding out about the new SO is always a rough-blow. The aftershock to the initial catastrophe. Some that say ignorance is bliss. Others hold that you should tear a band-aid off in one quick stroke. Maybe you wouldn't have been as affected by it if you found out six-months post breakup rather than three. Maybe not. Either way, you sure as hell don't want to be with someone who has your replacement lined up before she's even left the door.
maturityassets Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Ex did something pretty similar to me. Left me to hook up with other guys 3 weeks into our break up and she tells me about it. Made me fall apart in all honestly. Realize though, Why would I ever want to be with this person again, who doesn't even date these guys and just looks to have a "fun" time with them. Best thing though.... I actually just replaced her with a new girlfriend. I haven't posted on this site in a while so I figure seeing this, letting you guys know there are some good things around the corner for all of you. No denying that
Author steveT95 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 She doesn't see it but she is dependent on guys. She is never without a close male friend. But can't be with the same close male friend for more than a few months. I could deal with it a lot easier if it was the guy that she was talking to when we are together. But it is someone completely new. Where the hell did he come from?! I knew the relationship had to end. It was her total disregard to how I feel that is so tough. And at the moment, I am completely alone, I have no one. She was once my biggest source of comfort. I know for a fact the break-up would be so much easier if I had friends to surround myself with.
StrongLass Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 And at the moment, I am completely alone, I have no one. She was once my biggest source of comfort. I know for a fact the break-up would be so much easier if I had friends to surround myself with. Meet your new little BU-distraction/recovery project in bold
pipedream7 Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 it is beyond painful. i think it comes down to character and depth of a person. looking back i bet you will find that she fell in love with you very quickly. this is what happened to me. these types of people also forget easily as well. They live on the surface and have no appreciation for anything other than their gratification in the moment. its not that black and white but more or less. the hardes thing for me is to reconcile the memories of a person who told me they would love me forever and never leave me only to forget about me overnight and leave me for another guy in the end. disgusting isn't even the right word. but somehow i still love her and can't get over her and of course blame myself for "making her" leave to do this. its vicious. we all just gotta stick together and be the best people we can be in the moment. 1
Author steveT95 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Pipedream, you summed it all up pretty good. I can't deal with this at all. It is making me feel sick.
Eivuwan Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 it is beyond painful. i think it comes down to character and depth of a person. looking back i bet you will find that she fell in love with you very quickly. this is what happened to me. these types of people also forget easily as well. They live on the surface and have no appreciation for anything other than their gratification in the moment. its not that black and white but more or less. the hardes thing for me is to reconcile the memories of a person who told me they would love me forever and never leave me only to forget about me overnight and leave me for another guy in the end. disgusting isn't even the right word. but somehow i still love her and can't get over her and of course blame myself for "making her" leave to do this. its vicious. we all just gotta stick together and be the best people we can be in the moment. Yes, I identify with this. Ex fell in love with me from one blog post that I wrote. It apparently attracted him because I appeared to be a wise and mature person that he can grow old with. 4 years later this is what he says, "I haven't been romantically attracted to you for the last 4 years. I'm just not physically attracted to you." I mean seriously, if you're that shallow don't pretend to be deep when you first ask me out. 1
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