MoonSiren Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 I met this awesome guy on eHarmony last month and felt we really hit it off. We Skyped and then met on a date last Friday at Johnny Carinos. We talked non-stop about things, never a dull moment. After the date, he walked me to my car and hugged me twice then kissed them. Today we were supposed to have a date after I got out of work but I saw a message on eHarmony from him. Curious, I clicked the link and it said how he doesn't think we have chemistry so is cancelling the date. Why wait until now to tell me?? It has been almost a week....??? I got all dressed up this morning for work in my cutest outfit and look damn GOOD right now. What is chemistry anyways?? I thought we had it because we kept talking about all the stuff we have in common and were really clicking...or so I thought?! He even said how beautiful and attractive I was. I haven't gotten into the chemistry phenomenon myself. If I enjoy being with a person and spending time with them then I'm liable to accept a second date. I just don't know what chemistry is...is it all about if you want to have sex with the person?
clia Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 "We don't have chemistry" is an any excuse used in online dating to quickly and cleanly avoid having to see the other person again without getting into a bunch of questions. My guess is that in the past week between your first date and now he went on a date with another woman who he liked better than you. It's possible he even went out with her last night (maybe even for the second or third time), given his late cancellation. He decided he wanted to pursue things with her rather than you. Happens all the time. But it's easier for him to say "we don't have chemistry" than to say "I met someone else." 2
StayBeautiful Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 It means he doesn't fancy you. This is the problem with online dating. You can be perfectly compatible in every way, but if one doesn't fancy the other, that's it.
Imajerk17 Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 What the others said, but that is also the nature of Online Dating and all those options that everyone seems to have. #ParadoxOfChoiceBitesAgain
Phantom888 Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 I'm betting it's true. He liked you during the date, but he was holding out for the other date also. Unfortunately online-dating allows people to have many choices all at once. I am guilty of doing EXACTLY that when i met my current woman (thank goodness!!). On Wednesday before Memorial day I had a 1st date with a nice pretty lady. We had enormous chemistry. Made out in my car for an hour after the date. She said she wants to see me again, and hinted that we would likely have sex next time. I made a date with her for 9 days later. We texted every day. 5 day later, on Memorial Day, I had a 1st date with a prettier and more interesting lady. The chemistry was amazing, and we almost had sex, but didn't. I felt as though I was in LOVE with her instantly. The feeling was that strong, and the next day I literally closed my MATCH account because the search was OVER!!! I had 4 days left to tell the 1st lady that I'm not interested. I waited the last minute because I really didn't know how to tell her... I mean she really liked me...and I didn't want to hurt her feelings. So I texted her on the morning of the supposed date that I didn't feel the chemistry was strong enough. That's it.
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