3 texts in a row, 2 missed calls, and 1 voicemail from my ex...

[Beatrixx]

Here is my thread from a couple of weeks ago when my ex got back in touch after 8 months NC... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/403085-after-8-months-nc-he-finally-texts

 

I told him I wasn't going to meet up with him because it would be too strange for me after such a long time. But he's been texting me again this week, and I've been more friendly than last time. I enjoyed our conversation, I've realised being nice to your ex can make you feel much better inside than being all bitter and cold.

 

I was just in the middle of replying to 2 texts he sent, when I received a 3rd text from him..... It said: "What are you up to tonight? I fancy a drink in the sun. Would you do me the honour of keeping me company? (Long shot I know)"

 

I was thinking... tonight??? I didn't even have time to even think of a reply before he started calling me! Then I was thinking... What?! I haven't heard his voice in 8 months... I can't answer... So I ignored, and then a second call came and a voicemail. I listened to it and he sounded embarrassed... There was a lot of um's and ah's and he was speaking really quietly... But basically he was saying he was about to get in his car and wondered if I wanted to meet him somewhere. I felt put on the spot so I just texted him back "Sorry, I'm busy tonight..." Eeeek...

 

It's so strange how he's doing all this now after 8 whole months of silence from him...

 

Thanks for reading, guys. I appreciate any advice about how I should handle this.

[jphcbpa]

"Sorry, I'm busy tonight..."

 

good for you!

[aloneinaz]

Ultimately you're going to do what you want to do but if it was me, I'd decline any further attempts and tell him you've moved on and wish him luck in the future. He bailed on you once. He'll do it again. Words are simply that, words. Actions are what matters and his actions 8 months ago where horrible. Why risk that again.

 

Why not focus and find someone who wants to be with you and you don't risk reinventing he wheel with? You letting this guy mistreat you and then come back into your life again? Oh hell no..

 

Don't do it.