soccerrprp Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 jujubes, There is no KIND way to break someone's heart. :-( I don't envy you. The reality is that such things happen and it has little to do with being insensitive or uncaring. But I do understand some of the critical posters' responses. It would appear that you have become close to this man. It's not entirely clear whether your mixed/uncertain feelings came about before or after his troubles and/or your reconnection with your ex, but I feel that is the more sad question of all, right? If he had his act together and there was no ex, would you be feeling this way? I don't know... Anyway, you've only known this guy for 6-weeks. It's clear that your feelings are not at the level as his for you. That is not your fault. You should never feel obligated to stay with someone you do not see a future with. Personally, I would rather not have a long, complicated, emotional discussion about why you are dumping me. Short and sweet, but not text or email (though I would imagine that many would prefer this). I want to hear your voice. And, please, no getting together for lunch, coffee...that is a waste of time, money. Good luck.
aloneinaz Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Last comment I want to make on this thread is that dumpee's should not be so angry or bitter over being dumped unless they were cheated on, or crapped on, etc. If someone simply loses interest in you or the relationship, why should we hate them or be so angry about it? Yes, being rejected sucks but I doubt ANY dumpee would stay with someone they feel out of love with or didn't see a future with. I've always been the dumper but my recent ex ended our toxic relationship. Does it hurt? Hell yea. Was I pissed, only that I felt that I'd busted my ass helping her a lot the past few months and it wasn't appreciated only expected. 6 weeks post break up, my feelings are still some shock that I was rejected and also feeling like a wuss that I put up with so much crap from her and didn't end it myself. It's like a competitive thing. She one upped me. I'm already feeling relief that I don't have do deal w/her moods, temper, anger, selfishness, etc.. She was so often stressed out and overwhelmed that I felt like I had to walk on egg shells around her. Who needs that. So, 6 weeks in, I'm glad its over even though it's been tough. I miss her kids and the relationship/family side of it but not the woman of the last 5 months. She was just a bitch.. 1
eddyctv Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 It's like a competitive thing. She one upped me. I would LOVE to get back with my ex, just for a week or two, then dump her ass! HAHA You are right - it IS a competitive thing.
aloneinaz Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I would LOVE to get back with my ex, just for a week or two, then dump her ass! HAHA You are right - it IS a competitive thing. No $hit huh! My ex was an extreme Type A, controlling, had to be her way, etc. I also think she has a personality disorder by how she struggles with relationships with everyone. Yes, it seems that all dumpee's dream of that contact where we can reply back with "no thanks" or even better, ignore them. What helps me cope and get through this journey is that I wasn't happy w/her either the last few months. I was a great b-friend to her and was great with her kids. Even with her extensive issues, I find it hard to believe she hasn't or won't feel pretty guilty and remoreful for how she treated a guy who truly loved her and her kids and did so many nice things for them the last few months. I'm very satisfied with my legacy with her and she has to know her legacy with me is not so favorable.
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