irc333 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Yeah, with online dating you're quickly weeded out if you're under 6 feet tall (for some women). BUt if the very SAME women who had such a profile, bumped into a guy in REAL life that didn't QUITE meet her height criteria.....she'd consider him , because she'd would have an opportunity to have face time with him. Just human nature. I'm always surprised about the height issue between men and women. It really doesn't surprise me that OLD is the real issue here. I don't use OLD anymore, but when I did I had a guy once lie about both his height and weight. I'm 5'7" and rather tall for a woman with a smaller build. This guy and I connected immediately online and quickly determined that we were going to meet. I was in for quite a shock when I found out that he was 50 lbs heavier than his pics suggested and several inches shorter than his profile stated (he said 5'11", he was actually 5' 7"). The real problem for me was that I could not recognize him in the restaurant we were meeting at! He and I still hit it off incredibly despite his initial deception. We are still friends to this day and he is now married to a lovely lady. I personally care far more about an emotional, caring connection than the physical body, but I still remember wondering why such an awesome person would lie in a profile. It's baffling that height and/or weight can be such a deal-breaker before ever meeting a person.
MrTurk Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Yeah, with online dating you're quickly weeded out if you're under 6 feet tall (for some women). BUt if the very SAME women who had such a profile, bumped into a guy in REAL life that didn't QUITE meet her height criteria.....she'd consider him , because she'd would have an opportunity to have face time with him. Just human nature. So many people fail to realize that. They just dont understand how OLD totally skews their perception of what they deem a potential date. This is why OLD works so well for people above average in looks, and everyone else gets cast aside. Women do not carry a 6ft ruler with them, measuring every guy they see, but online many of them dismiss all profiles under 6ft. People "think" they know what they want as a potential SO....they think that person needs to have this or that physical or mental trait....but the type of person they end up dating rarely fits into that outline that they constructed.
MrTurk Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 This one girl on POF who was 5 feet even told me that I was pathetic for messaging her because she said in her profile that she wants guys who are 5'10"+. I've met maybe 15 girls from websites since last August and none of them went past a second date. 3 of them said that I would be perfect if I was 6 feet plus but I was just too short. None of them were over 5'6" so I would have been slightly taller than them in heels even. This is exactly what I have to deal with too. Women that are still shorter than me, even when they have heels on....refuse to date me because I'm under 6ft. From my experience, women under 5' 4 have a bigger issue with the guys height than women over 5' 4. I'm 5' 8, and women near my height have rarely said anything....its always the short girls that seem to be more superficial. Maybe its the female version of Napoleon complex??
soccerrprp Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 I know plenty of doctors that struggle with women. Women are starting to realize that doctors don't make tons of money like they used to. So the status symbol is starting to go away, which eliminates the women interested in hypergamy. QUOTE] Interesting. Is this b/c they are divorced and now paying alimony or have been "clipped" by divorce settlements? Or they live beyond their means? Doctors make plenty of money. If they are not, it's not b/c they are not being paid enough. If he's an American, he's getting paid a lot more than his equally qualified cohorts beyond. That's another topic of discussion.
soccerrprp Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 From my experience, women under 5' 4 have a bigger issue with the guys height than women over 5' 4. I'm 5' 8, and women near my height have rarely said anything....its always the short girls that seem to be more superficial. Maybe its the female version of Napoleon complex?? Interesting, but as I look back, the vast majority of the ladies I've dated have been around or taller (within reason) than myself. Hmmm, I wonder if I've been experiencing the same thing?
dasein Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 What kind of man would want to be with a woman whose interest in him stems from his profession, let alone a higher status/higher income profession? I wouldn't want a girl who'd be interested in a serious relationship with me if I was a doctor but not if I was an accountant. That relationship would seem ncedinly likely to fail. I don't list my future profession on my online dating profiles for precisely this reason. I list my occupation as grad school. If I put down med school (or in 3 years if I'm putting doctor), don't you think it is going to attract women for the wrong reasons? Girls usually ask on the first date and I say that I'm in med school. You will wake up to the naivete of the above soon enough. Start putting the high minded ideals away and learning the realities of dealing with women or you will be in for perpetual disappointment and annoyance. Those women of substance are out there, all 3% of them. Either learn to accept the nature of the vast majority of women in the world, or repeating, get ready for disappointment and disillusionment. In terms of advice, forget dating, particularly OLD, and just bang nurses during your residency, you will have tons of opportunities to do that. Later, you will have no problem at all forming a social network for meeting women naturally. People love to have doctors in their social set, so if you don't hide under a rock, a social life will seek you out. Good luck.
Sabian Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 I'm 5'10" and have never even thought about being too short. 5'9" is taller than 90% of women. This is a crazy thing to worry about. It's like worrying that your penis is only 10" long.....
TheZebra Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 Sounds like you're not dating the right kind of women... I only care about a guy being taller than me. If it's 1 inch or 6 it doesn't really matter to me. I've only ruled out like 3 guys on OLD based on height, but all 3 were shorter than me so I knew it wouldn't work out. I don't think I've ever even dated a 6 foot tall guy lol
Eclypse Posted July 15, 2013 Posted July 15, 2013 This height thing sucks. 6 feet is this magical number women seem to have. Yet on the street it's so difficult to tell what's what, and it really shouldn't matter to most people. You're tall enough dude. To my grandparents I come across as a towering giant who whacks his head on the doorframes in their little old house. Yet I am a smidge under 6 feet in the morning. More like 5'10.5 at night. Besides everyone shrinks. I was helping my grandmother take down the washing the other day and commented how high the clothesline was for her. She told me it wasn't that high when they moved in 10 years ago
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