Author lover4721 Posted July 19, 2013 Author Posted July 19, 2013 Well maybe your picker is wrong and you are punching above your weight, or you're chasing the unattainable and ignoring the nice girls who take an interest in you. On the other hand, it could be that you're not showing your interest in the right way. For me, if a guy isn't giving off enough of a romantic vibe, I feel like he is just messing me about and it really tries my patience. See what I'm saying about not giving off a romantic vibe? Saying something like that is mundane and boring and wouldn't get me into a guy at all. And that's just passive aggressive negativity...such a turn off! You clearly are "doing it wrong". You'll have to work on that a little to get better results. Obviously doing the same thing all the time isn't working for you. I would say to ask interesting questions that really are about getting to know a woman, and not small talk, to show your fun side and to be a bit cheeky and a bit teasing to make it more intriguing. I think you should practice starting up conversations with people in general. If you become a better conversationalist with everyone, it will rub off on how you get on with women. No you do not need to be a douche. You just need to be intriguing and not desperate to get a girl. But women go for different things so it shouldn't be like you try to cover all bases. If you are trying to be some cardboard-cut out 'ideal man', you'll just lack personality and spark. That spark is what makes a man stand out among others. Err noo. If a guy doesn't show me enough affection, he's going to be dropped as an option pretty quickly. Thanks for all your help! Rough time for me right now, so your last line got me over-thinking about another thread I have open lol. :/ So I need to show some affection, playful, confident, etc. I did for the one girl and she seemed interested. I told her I was taking this 48 state trip and needed a partner, so I called her my traveling buddy haha. She loved it! But not sure then to what happened! But thanks for the advice! More is appreciated haha it takes a lot for me to realize things... and it takes a lot of wisdom and 'get over her, she's not worth it' for me to get over someone. It kinda sucks...
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