apex80 Posted October 22, 2004 Posted October 22, 2004 I know all about the 'non-contact' rule, its a very sensible way of going about a 'normal' break-up, but mine sure as heck wasnt 'normal'. For those who read me enitial post some time back my Girl Friends move away from the area was sparked by her current bout of serious depression that she is going through. Her only reason for leaving not only me, but her job and friends was 'She didnt love me anymore', nothing else..... that alone caused her to act in the most unthoughtfull way to me and all her friends, all the while her family were in complete control. Anyways to move onto my point. Does the none contact rule apply in my situation?? She left confused, shes given off all the classic depression signs, leaving with no reason, ignoring all my family, ignoring anyone and everyone with the slightest connection to the past even kiddies of people I maybe met once or twice. Here mood changes were quicker than ever... Basically im worried sick about her, I know how she is and im 100% sure that IF she has changed her mind or come out of her depression at all she wont be doing things for herself, more she will be acting to keep her family happy. All this kicked off on the 6th september, I saw her maybe twice after that very briefly. I havnt tried to call her at all, I sent one silly text message when I was drunk beyond belief (usuall I cant be without out you .. blah blah)... Do i leave her be, OR as some people have suggested do I fight for her, she didnt make this decision on her own and she was very ill when she left. When she left she couldnt bring herself to talk to me, if she didnt love me surly she wouldnt have had a problem with sorting out things like post and money things etc.. Ah isnt life fun!
2KindKay Posted October 23, 2004 Posted October 23, 2004 Wow that is a tough one. It is so hard when you love someone and you want to help them but your not sure if helping them will only make things worse. Has she tried to get in touch with you at all since she left? And how was she towards you when you did see her? I would say she would in some way give you some kind of sign to know which direction you should take, however some people are hard to take and what if you take the signs she gives you the wrong way. You could try call her when your not "drunk beyond belief" If she seems put off by it, then you will know she needs more time or just isn't ready yet. good luck
Author apex80 Posted October 23, 2004 Author Posted October 23, 2004 Thanks for your reply, Nope no contact at all, her decision to leave was VERY sudden and obviously pushed on by her ever loving sister, one of the most 'clingy' people I have ever come across She was VERY blank with me, no emotion at all, I did catch a look for her once or twice, the kind of look that you cant explain... just a connection. Since then she hasnt made any attempt to contact me, shes gone out of her way to avoid talking to people that know me, from what ive heard shes put on weight and isnt look at all good. Im really worried about her as I know the depression is eating her up, she IS a ticking time bomb waiting to explode. Im no saint, but at the same time ive had so many people tell me that they really cant see why shes left, ive been VERY busy with work, I work in TV and the work load is huge, I know that in her current frame of mind it could well of been the push she needed to leave. She gave me NO real reason why she left.... its all very confusing.
2KindKay Posted October 23, 2004 Posted October 23, 2004 It definitly sounds confusing, I wish you luck and hope things work out for you!
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