cherrybabe808 Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 Me and my bf broke up recently and this all started about a month ago. I noticed that after I asked him if he wants to settle down with me and he mentioned to me he doesn't know. I got frustrated and it was my fault and I know I shouldn't but I started calling him names and making him feel real low. I really regret it and I can't take the things I've said back. I have been miserable because this is all by text arguing and I haven't seen him for a month now! He is scared of commitment because his life is really not stable at the moment financially and he def just not ready. Prior to this our relationship was pretty good and I know that he does love me. He has said some nasty things all over text cause he's trying to push me away. I know I am good for him and that he does love and care for me. I think in a way he feels that he's not good enough but in this time away I am also realizing that he is good enough because I do love and accept him for him. I told him that I won't try to change him and that I just want for us to be happy again. Now we are at the point where he says I am annoying because he's trying to get me to leave him alone and now he's just simply ignoring me! Also keep in mind a few days ago he actually was coming around and showing signs he's no longer mad and he texted me if I wanted to have lunch and stupid me still trying to play hard to get while we are on very thin ice I let him down and I didn't take that chance! Now what should I do?! He is not even replying to my texts at all! Shall I just kiss this goodbye?!
Philosoraptor Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 I'd let it be. Just stop making any sort of contact and let him have his space. If he does come back, make sure you can be fully happy with what he offers. If he doesn't show he wants a commitment then why should you settle for less than you want?
Author cherrybabe808 Posted July 11, 2013 Author Posted July 11, 2013 Wow good news! He just contacted me via text saying some nice things! I wonder if this is a sign?! Shall I just play it cool for now?
Philosoraptor Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 Are those nice things anything less than a full commitment along with all of the things you find necessary to have in a relationship? If not, then yes, play it "cool".
Author cherrybabe808 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 Well I totally get it that I shouldn't settle for less but I am feeling like this month away from him that He is the one and that I have said some things that I really can't take back! I feel that I had pushed him out of my life! I want him back and right now he can't commit because he's not stable in his life but I've come to realize I am more miserable with him out of my life! I want to start over! Should I just seriously back off? How do I get him to come around? This is just too shocking because we were doing good!
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