HarleyBrown2 Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 So i tomorrow will be my 4th week or NC, I have had 4 or 5 breadcrumbs, but ignored them all, which is super hard, but I've no regrets. I've found that I'm getting stronger as the days go on, but do every so often have days where I can't get her off my mind! I've still got some unanswered questions, a broken heart and want her back, but I've realised that moving on doesn't mean you forget about things, It just means you have to accept what happened and continue living. I have found that LS has helped me a lot through this NC period, I have managed to piece a lot of things together and realised a lot, such as my ex seriously fits the description of GIGS, and now that I have realised that, i have realised that I wont probably ever be able to figure out what she was thinking, because in reality she doesn't even know what she's thinking... when she broke up with me she said 'her heart is saying on thing, and head another and that she would probably regret this' .. knowing that and learning about GIGS has made me realise that i just need to let go and move on, because my ex is confused and battling herself, as much as i'd love to be able to help her, I can't, she can only help herself! Anyway... i just want to let people know that NC does get easier and things do start to make sense in your head and you do begin to move on. As i said earlier i'd love to be back with my ex, and wish she would sort herself out, but that will probably never happen so I have to move on with my life and let her move on with hers and just hope that maybe one day we can manage to at least be friends, because she's an amazing person, although she has flaws and did stuff during our relationship that i wasn't happy about at all, i know we all make mistakes, and I'm not perfect.... So if friends is all we're meant to be, then in time, once my heart is healed i'll be happy for that! Remember everything happens for a reason and no one knows what's around the corner... Positive minds make positive people! On that note, find a distraction during your period of NC.. I have thrown myself into the gym and getting fit, I feel and look better, which is helping my mind stay focused 2
adelia Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 You sound like you're in a good place. I really believe everything happens for a reason as well and I never like to discard of people. If I can salvage a relationship or at the very least maintain a friendship I will. There are times when that's not possible and not because you don't care or want to be but because it's not healthy to be or too painful. I hope your journey continues on a good path which it sounds like it is
Author HarleyBrown2 Posted July 12, 2013 Author Posted July 12, 2013 Thanks Adelia, I hope to maintain this progress an keep on the positive path
JDPT Posted July 12, 2013 Posted July 12, 2013 I'm in the exact same boat as you. The breakup was roughly one a half months ago and to be honest it felt much easier the first week or two of the break up. I too have my better and worse day but I need to take them with a grain a salt and get through the "grunt work" keeping in mind that there is a light at the end of the tunnel once all of this is over. I can't deny it is very difficult and tons of work, there are certain days that I feel mentality exhausted but this is what I must go through to come out a better man. So I guess what I can say is let's hang in there and take it one day at a time.
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