Who here has actually had the courage to ignore a breadcrumb...

[Ordinaryday]

from an ex that you WANTED TO RECONCILE WITH?

 

Intellectually, we all know that you should ignore all breadcrumbs the dumper sends us, and unless they state in no uncertain terms "I made a mistake, I want you back" we should ignore anything they say to us.

 

I KNOW THAT intellectually, and yet.... on the few rare occasions that I have gotten the "hi, how are you?" type breadcrumb I usually end up responding. I KNOW it is just a breadcrumb, but a mixture of curiosity and a desire to speak to them makes me respond.

 

it never goes anywhere, and I usually feel bad afterwards for breaking no contact. and when I get a breadcrumb again, six months later, I make the same mistake.

 

It is easy to ignore a breadcrumb from an ex you have no desire to reconcile with (as I do) but when you really want them back, and you get that breadcrumb.... who here actually had the strength to flatout ignore that breadcrumb?

 

How did it go from there?

[Omei]

I once had an ex flat out send me a nude picture over year later saying "merry christmas" it really freaked me out I did NOT reply.

 

I did reply once to and ex that I left I loved his friendship when I quickly saw how badly the friendship was hurting him I ended that.

 

If my current ex who dumped me would send me something def would not reply anytime within the next 5 years too hurt, even tho I want him.

 

I think most of the time it's not worth anything.

[TaraMaiden]

from an ex that you WANTED TO RECONCILE WITH?

 

Intellectually, we all know that you should ignore all breadcrumbs the dumper sends us, and unless they state in no uncertain terms "I made a mistake, I want you back" we should ignore anything they say to us.

 

I KNOW THAT intellectually, and yet.... on the few rare occasions that I have gotten the "hi, how are you?" type breadcrumb I usually end up responding. I KNOW it is just a breadcrumb, but a mixture of curiosity and a desire to speak to them makes me respond.

 

it never goes anywhere, and I usually feel bad afterwards for breaking no contact. and when I get a breadcrumb again, six months later, I make the same mistake.

 

It is easy to ignore a breadcrumb from an ex you have no desire to reconcile with (as I do) but when you really want them back, and you get that breadcrumb.... who here actually had the strength to flatout ignore that breadcrumb?

 

How did it go from there?

 

Why haven't you changed your number yet?

 

And don't say you have too many contacts/use it for work.... It's the simplest thing to change your number AND advise others (who need to know) as appropriate!

I had to do it when I moved country!! TWICE!!

 

If you change your number, miraculously, the breadcrumbs disappear! Et Voilà! no more problem!

[Nicoleiia]

Why haven't you changed your number yet?

 

And don't say you have too many contacts/use it for work.... It's the simplest thing to change your number AND advise others (who need to know) as appropriate!

I had to do it when I moved country!! TWICE!!

 

If you change your number, miraculously, the breadcrumbs disappear! Et Voilà! no more problem!

 

Lol that is EXACTLY what I did. When my dumper threw me a breadcrumb and I fell for it, I was sooo angry, I changed my number. That was 18 months ago. It gives you a sense of freedom not constantly looking at your phone to see if they called or not. She really hurt me and it feels good that she can't get through to me even if she wanted. I'll never know.

[forgetmenot75]

Since I know this is definitive, and I can't deal with the fact he's not giving me any breadcrumb, I opted for not visiting anymore the dating sites he used to contact me. He is not sending me any texts (he never sent me any text first) but he used to send me messages on the dating sites. So I'm not visiting those anymore, just because I don't want to know.

 

I think the best option for not receiving breadcrumbs is to block any possible way of contact, that way you don't know.

[candie13]

why change the phone number when you can block him?

 

I've left my ex last Friday. Since last Friday, he called a couple of times and texted random BS like three or four times, last time, last night. I just hit the delete button. I dumped him, but he gave me no choice. The funny thing is, he will never ever say "I am sorry, I did anything wrong". Nope. He'll just start conversation, make compliments or flat out provoke me. Delete.

 

 

It's still very soon so I am sort of expecting a stronger come back over the weekend. But then again, it's sunny outside, such a beautiful weather, maybe he gets caught up with his hobbies and forgets about me .

 

The thing you need to remember is that even if he comes back, he won't change. Do you want to go through the same hell you've already been through another time? 'cause if he ain't changing and you ain't changing, what do you think will happen?

 

Stay strong. Stop wishing he contacts you. Keep ridiculously busy.