StayBeautiful Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 you try and stop them, good luck with that one. I never understand when parents say this. My kids are each 5 years older than yours, so I've been through those years. And I can assure you, my word was law. There was no "trying" to stop them. If I didn't want them going online, they didn't go online. I'm in charge. 1
Els Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Once you have your own kid(s) Els. everything changes.You will see what I am talking about. .Its amazing some of the shyt I did as a kid I would NEVER tolerate out of my daughter..She is like a little angel so far, so I am keeping my fingers crossed she stays that way.. But NO older man is ever going to befriend my underage daughter, unless he likes to get a very pissed off father in his grille. Boys or girls, games or no games...Its wayyyy inappropriate..and thats putting it lightly.. TFY I can understand the feeling. But from my own experience, I know that there's generally not a lot of good in imposing blanket bans on kids. In the case of worrisome circumstances, I'd rather they feel like they can confide in me and discuss reason and rationale, than just be told that my word is law. Then I'd be able to filter out the genuine threats with them, rather than worry about what they could be doing behind my back. I mean, my parents still don't know about the spare router and internet account that I had when I was 16, and that's the least of the stuff they don't know about... There was once a mother-daughter team in my old WoW guild. Everyone knew that there was absolutely no messing with the daughter in that case... 2
thefooloftheyear Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 (edited) It's not befriending, it is playing a game and that is all they do, you try and stop them, good luck with that one. It is the way it is now. If you have talked to your kids, they know where the weirdos are. They do not meet up with them and they do not put their real information on there. It is very much like here. Most of you could be serial killers, but you have no way of contacting me. As for being a cougar, my LDR is 12 years younger. He is teaching me some stuff as I have led a very sheltered life. My ex however just turned 50 had given up on sex, won't try anything new, not even viagra. Glad we are not together anymore, boring selfish jerk. Intellectually, my younger guy is far more compatible than the 50 year old too. So you never know till you try. Having said that - I think I am pushing my limit with him physically now, he does not do missionary lol. But we have fun together and are far from boring. Most people do not realise the age difference. If they are living under your roof and are underage you(as a responsible parent) should know exactly what they are doing. I WILL stop it by smashing the computer that I bought on the ground.. Kids know where the weirdo's are? Kids are impressionable, dumb, lack judgement and everything else..They depend on us as parents to enforce boundaries in a serious manner and not let them fall prey to people that can trick them.>Sure, they leave to go to school;, work, etc..but you have to be serious about knowing what they are doing and who they are with.. TFY Edited July 17, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed a few inflamatory remarks 1
thefooloftheyear Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I can understand the feeling. But from my own experience, I know that there's generally not a lot of good in imposing blanket bans on kids. In the case of worrisome circumstances, I'd rather they feel like they can confide in me and discuss reason and rationale, than just be told that my word is law. Then I'd be able to filter out the genuine threats with them, rather than worry about what they could be doing behind my back. I mean, my parents still don't know about the spare router and internet account that I had when I was 16, and that's the least of the stuff they don't know about... There was once a mother-daughter team in my old WoW guild. Everyone knew that there was absolutely no messing with the daughter in that case... I like you and value your opinions, but frankly once you get older and have kids of your own, your position will change on this..I say this because I know how level headed a person you are.. TFY 2
Els Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I like you and value your opinions, but frankly once you get older and have kids of your own, your position will change on this..I say this because I know how level headed a person you are.. TFY That is certainly a possibility.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Well FOTY is certainly FOTY as this is exactly what happens when you treat your kids like idiots, they just treat you like one. Educating them is the best route and I always know where my kids are. having said that it depends where you live doesn't it? I am guessing FOTY you are USA? I could live on the moon and it wouldnt matter..You choose to let your kids get by with "education" then so be it..Its not a matter of treating them like idiots..I was an honor student, yet did the dumbest, most irresposnsible things in my life when I was that age..You would be a FOOL to not be fully invested in what your kids are doing.. But I forgot, You live on Fantasy Island, where all 40 year old men are just "playing games"with your 15 year old daughter.and would never have any bad intentions.... TFY
KathyM Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 Parents absolutely should know what their children are doing on the internet. Education is not enough. The same is true with drugs. The schools where my kids went to school had a heavy drug awareness campaign, but yet there were many kids that still did drugs, and their parents were naïve enough to believe education about the hazards was enough. As far as predators on gaming sites, I know a girl, a very savy girl actually, that you wouldn't think would be so naïve, but she got to talking to a man 30 years older than her on a gaming site, and ended up sneaking off to meet him. Lots of predators out there. Education is not enough. Children need to be monitored closely.
FitChick Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 This thread isn't about children. It's about young adult men dating older adult women.
Els Posted July 17, 2013 Posted July 17, 2013 Can we get on topic please this was about cougars Actually... I think this topic was about one guy's experience with one cougar and how great it is that he has to put zero effort into his relations with that cougar while still having lots of sex.
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