Guys, if you aren't hooking up w a cougar, you're missing out!

[Woggle]

I certainly find this thread entertaining and a wee bit judgmental.

 

My current bf is just over 5 yrs younger, that makes me a "cougar", correct?

 

My last bf was 10 yrs older than me and it was socially more acceptable. So what is the male equivalent of cougar, anyway?

 

The truth is, as a single woman approaches 40 we want a sexual and life partner that can keep up with us. Women normally outlive men, that's a natural fact.

 

My current bf has no need for Viagara, has no medical problems and is far more open-minded that a man who is close to 50.

 

I would encourage women to consider dating a younger man at least once in their life. You would be surprised how interesting conversations can get when 2 people of slightly different generations get together.

 

5 years younger in either direction isn't even an age difference to me.

[Anela]

settling for the most part is something that women look for and are in rush to get, not men. So obviously men have the upper hand in it and want things on their terms. If there are always tons of younger women who are dying to settle down why go older?

 

I have never been eager to settle down with a much older man. I don't appreciate older women being seen as something to have sex with, and nothing else. ("coo coo ca choo, Mrs Robinson.")

 

Maybe they want kids.

 

Maybe you look good now but how likely is it you'll still look good in 5 years? Much more likely if you're with a 20 year old girl than wih a 30 year old woman.

 

You're really using the age of thirty, as an example of a terrible age to be for a woman?? I still looked so young at thirty.

 

Anyway, the same goes for men and age. There are more men my age who look terrible, than women. Thanks very much.

[Kamille]

Maybe they want kids.

 

Maybe you look good now but how likely is it you'll still look good in 5 years? Much more likely if you're with a 20 year old girl than wih a 30 year old woman.

 

I'm about to make a statement that will blow your mind:

 

Sometimes, people are attracted to each other for more than just looks.

 

Ever heard of that thing called personality?

[thefooloftheyear]

I certainly find this thread entertaining and a wee bit judgmental.

 

My current bf is just over 5 yrs younger, that makes me a "cougar", correct?

 

My last bf was 10 yrs older than me and it was socially more acceptable. So what is the male equivalent of cougar, anyway?

 

The truth is, as a single woman approaches 40 we want a sexual and life partner that can keep up with us. Women normally outlive men, that's a natural fact.

 

My current bf has no need for Viagara, has no medical problems and is far more open-minded that a man who is close to 50.

 

I would encourage women to consider dating a younger man at least once in their life. You would be surprised how interesting conversations can get when 2 people of slightly different generations get together.

 

Are you kidding??

 

What makes any woman think that a 50 year old couldnt blow the doors off a 25 year old in bed?. Viagra or otherwise? .As a matter of fact I read an awful lot of stories on this site about 25 year old kids who cant get it up or last more than 3 pumps..

 

Do whatever you want..but thats the dumbest thing I have ever read on this site..Either that or Im friggin Superman..

 

TFY

[rana-rana]

-No drama

-No texting

-No phone calls

-No buying her anything

-Great sex

-Great body

-Allows you to spend the night

-Great sex

-Opens her home to you, whenever you want to come over

-Great sex

 

 

 

Im hooking up w a 40 year old now, Im 24. She has two kids, 11, and 9. Works out every day, great body. Everything is too good to be true. I go over, we have sex, cuddle and watch TV, have sex again. No drama, no strings.

 

We get along great. Laugh, kiss, cuddle, watch movies etc. Never even left her house.

 

You're missing out if you don't follow my advice. Im sure some of you can attest.

 

hey I can do all of that and more at 18 so....

[dasein]

Didn't read the whole thread. Just because negative elements haven't appeared on the front end doesn't mean they won't. They will in all likelihood, and appear in all relationships. Realize this and plan for them now if you want this generally happy state to continue.

 

OP post reminds me of how I felt the first time I hooked up with an older woman with kids... for the first 2 weeks. Then she was sizing me up for the new daddy role, insisting on way too much time together for the first month of a relationship, then sending the kids off to family way too much early on. Not saying this will happen to you, but be ready for changes. No relationship maintains that first month perfection forever.

[FitChick]

So what is the male equivalent of cougar, anyway?

 

A wolf. Younger ones are called dogs. Not to be confused with cubs who pursue cougars.

[New User]

Dating someone half your age is creepy. It is amusing to me how much things have changed though; as a culture we now celebrate the creepy old lady chasing young guys and look down on the creepy old man chasing young girls. I won't pretend to understand how the youngsters rationalize hooking up with the creeps.

[Floridita]

Older women are great for a guy who is sick of drama.

 

You know not all of us 20 somethings seek out the drama. I swear, you men will do something absurd and then freak out when your woman reacts unfavorably.*

 

*I don't want to generalize, but in my experience both me and my friends only flip the **** out when it's deserved.

[Anela]

You know not all of us 20 somethings seek out the drama. I swear, you men will do something absurd and then freak out when your woman reacts unfavorably.*

 

*I don't want to generalize, but in my experience both me and my friends only flip the **** out when it's deserved.

 

I didn't seek out drama in my twenties, either. For the most part, it's been men who brought the drama to my life, along with a few women. I don't want to man-bash, it's just been my experience.

 

It was nice seeing a few positive remarks about older women, though.

[Titania22]

I didn't seek out drama in my twenties, either. For the most part, it's been men who brought the drama to my life, along with a few women. I don't want to man-bash, it's just been my experience.

 

It was nice seeing a few positive remarks about older women, though.

 

I agree, men have brought a ton of drama into my life, not to mention criticism. My life is very peaceful and simple choosing to stay single. Not saying all men bring drama, and I know some women also bring drama. I suspect it's a person to person thing rather then representative of a specific sex.

 

However I can't say I have ever met a man of any age who doesn't constantly see the faults in everything and everyone around them. Though I imagine a few may have learnt to keep it to themselves.

[fortyninethousand322]

I've wondered about this. I look somewhere between 35 and 40 (even though I'm 25) so maybe dating a woman in that age range would be best.

 

Opportunity has never come up though so...

[sweetheart5381]

5 years younger in either direction isn't even an age difference to me.

 

When the guy has a baby face and body of a 25 yr old, there is a perceivable difference. I guessed him at 26 tops when we met, the only thing that threw me off was his maturity level. I look young for my age too, and not too many folks would guess me as approaching 40. I'm not complaining, just saying that women seem to be called unpleasant names, like cougar if they date younger men. It's rather unpleasant for women to be held to a standard that men have been breaching for yrs.

[ascendotum]

When the guy has a baby face and body of a 25 yr old, there is a perceivable difference. I guessed him at 26 tops when we met, the only thing that threw me off was his maturity level. I look young for my age too, and not too many folks would guess me as approaching 40. I'm not complaining, just saying that women seem to be called unpleasant names, like cougar if they date younger men. It's rather unpleasant for women to be held to a standard that men have been breaching for yrs.

 

It seems to be women on here hate the term 'cougar'. I can understand its an over hyped one dimensional term that implies they are chasing younger guys, but in real life, I find older women tend to love the term. As they get older and feel their beauty fading I think they love still being seen as sex objects and still appealing to younger men. They don't want to be known as a cougar, but when men call them that or milf they love it.

[thefooloftheyear]

When the guy has a baby face and body of a 25 yr old, there is a perceivable difference. I guessed him at 26 tops when we met, the only thing that threw me off was his maturity level. I look young for my age too, and not too many folks would guess me as approaching 40. I'm not complaining, just saying that women seem to be called unpleasant names, like cougar if they date younger men. It's rather unpleasant for women to be held to a standard that men have been breaching for yrs.

 

Most men who are with really younger women are usually wealthy types and quite frankly, I wouldnt call most of these "relationships"..They are more like business arrangements..he pays her bills and she gives him sex..They may care for each other, but if you took away the money, then there is usually nothing there..I had this back and forth flirty thing with a certain teller at the bank I use..Sure I probably could have asked her out, but what would we even talk about? I dont know what really makes a 23 yar old girl tick..

 

Then you have some younger girls that have "daddy" complexes..Thats something as well..

 

I(and I bet most people on here) would agree that they are very different at 40 plus then they were at 25..Especially if they were married and had kids. I know I am..Totally different...

 

I wont discount anything but I gotta wonder..lets say you are a typical 40 plus divorcee with little kids thats struggling to pay bills and juggle all the things that a single parent has to. You have been through the wars and are experienced in life..I was married two years, had a business and a mortgage when I was 25 but thats very rare these days. Most 25 year olds are just finding their way..Most are lucky to have a decent job and are buried in school debt..They have litttle real world experience and the concept of kids and parenting are as foreign as Chinese arithmetic..Why would the 40plus divorcee with kids want to take that on? If its just a sex thing, thats fine..but a day in day out relationship?

 

Again, I am not knocking it..if both parties are happy, then its no ones right to judge...I just guess i dont get it??

 

TFY

Edited July 15, 2013 by thefooloftheyear

[Titania22]

Why would the 40plus divorcee with kids want to take that on? If its just a sex thing, thats fine..but a day in day out relationship?

 

 

TFY

 

Well perhaps when a person has been through all that stuff, they are tired and really want to enjoy life again. A young man might not know anything about raising kids and paying a mortgage, but chances are he still remembers how to have fun and enjoy life.

 

My kids are practically grown now, and all i want to do is find a part-time job enough to cover my expenses, and spend the rest of the time playing and having fun. I have done the hard stuff, and I just want to enjoy the rest of my life.

 

If I was to get involved with a man and have a relationship again, he would have to be down with that. It doesn't matter what age he is.

 

But in my late 30's I was fixated on the early 20's man and would have had a relationship with one had I found one that was interested.

 

Perhaps that answers your question about why an older woman would want a relationship with a younger man. BTW 50% of my friends are boys aged between 14-17. There is nothing sexual about that, we just enjoy doing the same things.

[thefooloftheyear]

Well perhaps when a person has been through all that stuff, they are tired and really want to enjoy life again. A young man might not know anything about raising kids and paying a mortgage, but chances are he still remembers how to have fun and enjoy life.

 

My kids are practically grown now, and all i want to do is find a part-time job enough to cover my expenses, and spend the rest of the time playing and having fun. I have done the hard stuff, and I just want to enjoy the rest of my life.

 

If I was to get involved with a man and have a relationship again, he would have to be down with that. It doesn't matter what age he is.

 

But in my late 30's I was fixated on the early 20's man and would have had a relationship with one had I found one that was interested.

 

Perhaps that answers your question about why an older woman would want a relationship with a younger man. BTW 50% of my friends are boys aged between 14-17. There is nothing sexual about that, we just enjoy doing the same things.

 

Really??? if I had a son that age I would forbid that-especially if he was living under my roof..That being said, I have a daughter.when she turns 14-17 if a 40 plus year old guy decides to befriend her, hed get one stern warning, then hed be picking his teeth off the ground, thats if I happen to be in a good mood that day...

 

 

...sorry..thats very,,,uhhh....unusual.....

 

TFY

Edited July 15, 2013 by thefooloftheyear

[Titania22]

Really??? if I had a son that age I would forbid that-especially if he was living under my roof..That being said, I have a daughter.when she turns 14-17 if a 40 plus year old guy decides to befriend her, hed get one stern warning, then hed be picking his teeth off the ground, thats if I happen to be in a good mood that day...

 

 

...sorry..thats very,,,uhhh....unusual.....

 

TFY

 

Well my son is 14 and my daughter is 17 and I am friends with some of their friends, mostly my sons friends and friends of friends. They even said I am 76% bro (that is currently my favourite compliment of my life).

 

Seriously gamers befriend gamers through gaming. I know my daughter has or had a couple of adult male friends through gaming. It's no big deal, kids are savvy today. Their pedophile radars are up, and they don't go giving out personal information like their addresses, etc.

[thefooloftheyear]

Well my son is 14 and my daughter is 17 and I am friends with some of their friends, mostly my sons friends and friends of friends. They even said I am 76% bro (that is currently my favourite compliment of my life).

 

Seriously gamers befriend gamers through gaming. I know my daughter has or had a couple of adult male friends through gaming. It's no big deal, kids are savvy today. Their pedophile radars are up, and they don't go giving out personal information like their addresses, etc.

 

I was an honor student in high school and varsity athlete in three sports..But I sure as hell wasnt savvy:laugh:

 

Sorry...NO effin way that flies in my house....

 

I dont judge you..do what you want..

 

TFY

[Mark1]

I was an honor student in high school and varsity athlete in three sports..But I sure as hell wasnt savvy:laugh:

 

Sorry...NO effin way that flies in my house....

 

I dont judge you..do what you want..

 

TFY

 

yeah, thats weird to me too.

[Mark1]

we talked on the phone last night for almost an hour

[Els]

OP: Uh, good for you? Seriously, I'm not even sure what the point of this post was, but as long as you're happy.

 

Well my son is 14 and my daughter is 17 and I am friends with some of their friends, mostly my sons friends and friends of friends. They even said I am 76% bro (that is currently my favourite compliment of my life).

 

Seriously gamers befriend gamers through gaming. I know my daughter has or had a couple of adult male friends through gaming. It's no big deal, kids are savvy today. Their pedophile radars are up, and they don't go giving out personal information like their addresses, etc.

 

I understand the dynamic you speak of, but I do think it's a little unwise to say that absolutely nothing will happen. Kids can and do still fall prey to online predators a lot of the time. I think in your daughters' case, as you are part of the social circle and thus know the men involved (and they know her mum is there), there may be less risk. Can't say the same for other kids.

 

I did talk to many older men when I was gaming in my teens - and while most of them were okay, a few really did try to pull some funny stuff. Fortunately I was wise enough to block those losers even then, but I can't say for sure that I would be comfortable if I had a daughter and she was on the receiving end of that.

 

Now that I'm in my mid-twenties, there was a REALLY awkward case recently where some 15-year-old boy in my gaming circle seemed to take a liking to me. The worst bit was when I heard from his parents that he'd been sneaking on past computer curfew time to talk to me, that I had NO idea he was doing. I promptly freaked out and distanced myself from him...

[Woggle]

Being 40 and actually hanging out with 14 year olds is a little odd to me no matter what the genders. No offense but what could I possible have in common with somebody who has to ask mommy or daddy if we can hang out? I like a little gaming sometimes but I don't like online play. I prefer to do it alone.

[thefooloftheyear]

OP: Uh, good for you? Seriously, I'm not even sure what the point of this post was, but as long as you're happy.

 

 

 

I understand the dynamic you speak of, but I do think it's a little unwise to say that absolutely nothing will happen. Kids can and do still fall prey to online predators a lot of the time. I think in your daughters' case, as you are part of the social circle and thus know the men involved (and they know her mum is there), there may be less risk. Can't say the same for other kids.

 

I did talk to many older men when I was gaming in my teens - and while most of them were okay, a few really did try to pull some funny stuff. Fortunately I was wise enough to block those losers even then, but I can't say for sure that I would be comfortable if I had a daughter and she was on the receiving end of that.

 

Now that I'm in my mid-twenties, there was a REALLY awkward case recently where some 15-year-old boy in my gaming circle seemed to take a liking to me. The worst bit was when I heard from his parents that he'd been sneaking on past computer curfew time to talk to me, that I had NO idea he was doing. I promptly freaked out and distanced myself from him...

 

Once you have your own kid(s) Els. everything changes.You will see what I am talking about. .Its amazing some of the shyt I did as a kid I would NEVER tolerate out of my daughter..She is like a little angel so far, so I am keeping my fingers crossed she stays that way..

 

But NO older man is ever going to befriend my underage daughter, unless he likes to get a very pissed off father in his grille.

 

Boys or girls, games or no games...Its wayyyy inappropriate..and thats putting it lightly..

 

TFY

[Woggle]

Move to the US, you cant find a younger woman without drama

 

You can but it's hard but it's both genders. I don't know what the hell they started pumping in the air around 2003 but things started to get really stupid around then and we have yet to recover.