soccerrprp Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 And this is why I refrain from dating younger guys like OP. You are still at the age where you see women as objects vs life partners. You mention what is so "great" about this older woman, but what is so "great" about you? ((Besides the urgency to pump your hips into hers like wild bunnies)) The reason why I stayed away from this thread and after this, will continue to do so. DONE.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 So people shouldn't be accountable for the choices they make or how they treat others unless someone is holding a gun to one person's head? Yeah, that makes total sense. Good job. Why give accountability to the person that is actually making the aware choice to be a user and bragging about it to other "guys" when you can blame the person that is being talked about derogatorily about how much fun it is to take advantage of the situation. That makes total sense. You have a funny sense of loyatly to the guy that is opennly bragging derogatorily about another person. It shouldn't even matter that the other person is male or female. The Op is a user and you make it sounds like it's the person getting used fault. Ridiculous. Oh God..Give it a rest... If you read my earlier post, I clearly stated that at 24 years old I wouldnt be caught dead with a 40 year old divorcee with two little kids.. Heck ,I banged a 30 year old waitress when I was a 17 year old busboy at a restaurant..No way would I get into a relationship with her, though.. Hes an idiot for railing on about it and she has something wrong with her makeup for allowing it,..She isnt an 8 year old.. SO the two of them can carry on with the dysfunction.Why the hell do you ro anyone else care? .Last time I checked no one is of non consenting age.. Is anyone responsible for their actions anymore..?? TFY 1
bac Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 You are still at the age where you see women as objects vs life partners. You mention what is so "great" about this older woman, but what is so "great" about you? I am an older woman who likes younger guys in 20s. I see them as objects myself. There are a lot of great qualities in some younger guys. They are hot, fit, sexy, handsome, energetic, hard, thankful, very kind. They do whatever you want in terms of sex. They are capable to learn and please a woman who knows what she wants. You do not have to please them the way you hate. You do not have to fake an O for them. They have no complaints about anything. They call you beautiful, amazing, sexy. They treat you as you are their favorite sexual fantasy. They believe that you are some kind of supernatural human being who is absolutely perfect. You can do whatever you want sexually with them. No older man is capable to treat you like that. 3
SammySammy Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 I am an older woman who likes younger guys in 20s. I see them as objects myself. There are a lot of great qualities in some younger guys. They are hot, fit, sexy, handsome, energetic, hard, thankful, very kind. They do whatever you want in terms of sex. They are capable to learn and please a woman who knows what she wants. You do not have to please them the way you hate. You do not have to fake an O for them. They have no complaints about anything. They call you beautiful, amazing, sexy. They treat you as you are their favorite sexual fantasy. They believe that you are some kind of supernatural human being who is absolutely perfect. You can do whatever you want sexually with them. No older man is capable to treat you like that. Hmmm. Is that so ....
The Shepherd Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 I give respect to people that deserve it and I decide who deserves it from me. Disenchantedly Yours, If you think about it this sentence applies to everyone. I wasn't talking about the superficial respect you show to everyone but what you have for someone on the inside. What he has for her on the inside is what he showed here on the forum and I am sure that is what he shows for her with his friends and any other people too. Respect is the last thing a 40-year-old sleeping with a 24-year-old should expect from the 24-year-old irrespective of the gender. If you do not have respect for yourself I am not sure if you can expect it from others. I have no idea why we are discussing self-confidence here. They are just using each other for sex. I am not sure if this thread by the OP should be a surprise to anyone. If a 40-year-old can be lame, a 24-year-old can be lame too.
thefooloftheyear Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 I am an older woman who likes younger guys in 20s. I see them as objects myself. There are a lot of great qualities in some younger guys. They are hot, fit, sexy, handsome, energetic, hard, thankful, very kind. They do whatever you want in terms of sex. They are capable to learn and please a woman who knows what she wants. You do not have to please them the way you hate. You do not have to fake an O for them. They have no complaints about anything. They call you beautiful, amazing, sexy. They treat you as you are their favorite sexual fantasy. They believe that you are some kind of supernatural human being who is absolutely perfect. You can do whatever you want sexually with them. No older man is capable to treat you like that. How much are you willing to bet ?? What a ridicuously stupid post.. TFY 1
Lostinlife4now Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Different strokes for different folks.....(no pun intended).... Don't like the word cougar, sounds derogatory in my opinion. But....I am in my early fifties and I WOULD NOT DATE anyone younger than 45. I do like to carry on a conversation from time to time! I want a man who has it all! Life experience Power Sex.... and IF he has the above three, he probably has money. SO ALL IS GOOD!!!! 1
sweetheart5381 Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Well, I'm technically a "cougar"... will be 39 this year dating a man who is 33 (he can pass for 25). When we first got together I was a little hung up on dating the obviously younger man. At first I didn't take him seriously about a long-term relationship but it was him that wanted us to commit and made it very clear that he doesn't want any other woman but me. I have to say that none of the items about "cougars" apply that OP mentioned. We are committed, have great sex, spend time together and prefer no drama. In order to have no drama, we listen to one another and talk about each others feelings and needs from the relationship. In other words, we are both mature 3
Author Mark1 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Posted July 13, 2013 I am an older woman who likes younger guys in 20s. I see them as objects myself. There are a lot of great qualities in some younger guys. They are hot, fit, sexy, handsome, energetic, hard, thankful, very kind. They do whatever you want in terms of sex. They are capable to learn and please a woman who knows what she wants. You do not have to please them the way you hate. You do not have to fake an O for them. They have no complaints about anything. They call you beautiful, amazing, sexy. They treat you as you are their favorite sexual fantasy. They believe that you are some kind of supernatural human being who is absolutely perfect. You can do whatever you want sexually with them. No older man is capable to treat you like that. This is pretty accurate. I adore her. And for those asking, yes, we do talk, and talk about our day, and work and our feelings etc. 1
Revolver Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 When it comes to looks, older women are put on a much higher pedastal then older men by people but I don't see older men complain at the same rate that older women do.
Ripnet Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 You sound like a user. A user that likes to brag. Posts like these do women no favors. Just like most of the men here would think a woman that came on here posting about a man that spends tons of money on her while she was just playing around would think that that kind of woman wasn't a good one. Think long and hard about the kind of behavior you condone in your own gender Gentlmen and Ladies. So he doesn't spend any money on her and she is willing to have sex. I highly doubt he's using her for sex since she's the older and mature one. When a guy is dating he usually ends up spending a lot of money on her. So I guess according to your theory most women are users?
sweetheart5381 Posted July 13, 2013 Posted July 13, 2013 Honestly, I think a lot of younger men get sick of the drama of young single women who have never had a relationship, never learned how to treat a man, etc. They are willing to look at an older woman as more compatible compared to the younger counterparts. A lot of 20-30 yr old women expect an awful lot from a man without wanting to give back. It's a 2-way street and if 2 people can find a way to have a fulfilling loving, romantic and sexual relationship that satisfies then who cares about the age? I cook for my man and he loves it, even if it isn't always perfect . We do laundry together.. I put it in the washer and dryer, he folds. We are equals and express our feelings openly and maturely, without control issues. We fit mentally, regardless of an age difference.
Author Mark1 Posted July 14, 2013 Author Posted July 14, 2013 Honestly, I think a lot of younger men get sick of the drama of young single women who have never had a relationship, never learned how to treat a man, etc. They are willing to look at an older woman as more compatible compared to the younger counterparts. A lot of 20-30 yr old women expect an awful lot from a man without wanting to give back. It's a 2-way street and if 2 people can find a way to have a fulfilling loving, romantic and sexual relationship that satisfies then who cares about the age? great post!
sweetheart5381 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 great post! Thanks If you guys are happy, don't worry bout the haters. And FYI, don't ever call her a cougar - that's the equivalent of c..u..n..t to women approaching 40. Scruples! 1
Anela Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I don't have a problem with them enjoying some NSA sex. I have a problem with him shooting off his mouth about it and bragging about how he doesn't have to spend any money or pretty much lift a finger to get what he wants. I also hate how women get boxed into catagories by guys such as the term "cougar". Which I actually think are more derogatory than anything else. And do not try and pretend that if some woman posted a thread simliar to what I pointed out, that the men of LS would be totally okay with it. They might say to that girl "whatever floats your boat", but there isn't many men here that would respect her or would think she had respect for the guy. There is a way to have NSA sex AND still treat the person you are having the NSA sex with right and with respect. This guy is a totally user and bragger. It's lame. Yeah: my problem is that he's saying we're great for sex. Fine, if that's what two people want, but then there is... Oh God..Give it a rest... If you read my earlier post, I clearly stated that at 24 years old I wouldnt be caught dead with a 40 year old divorcee with two little kids.. Heck ,I banged a 30 year old waitress when I was a 17 year old busboy at a restaurant..No way would I get into a relationship with her, though.. this, that bothers me greatly. I don't see why a younger man shouldn't want a relationship with an older woman, when we consistently see the opposite (older men and younger women - my sister is married to someone twenty-three years older, and a young friend of mine just split up with someone with the same age difference between them).
sweetheart5381 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Yeah: my problem is that he's saying we're great for sex. Fine, if that's what two people want, but then there is... this, that bothers me greatly. I don't see why a younger man shouldn't want a relationship with an older woman, when we consistently see the opposite (older men and younger women - my sister is married to someone twenty-three years older, and a young friend of mine just split up with someone with the same age difference between them). Yep, my man isn't bothered at all about the age difference. He thinks I'm great cuz he doesn't have to babysit me. I take care of myself, am not looking for his money, I can make my own and I expect that from myself. I don't cause drama in his life and we have incredibly fun times together, just hangin out havin fun til bedtime :bunny:. It isnt about the sex, its great but there is more to it. We both have kids and get them together too. To me, a younger man and an older woman makes sense... women mature about 5 yrs before men... so we should essentially be with a man at least 5 yrs younger
mesmerized Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Yeah: my problem is that he's saying we're great for sex. Fine, if that's what two people want, but then there is... this, that bothers me greatly. I don't see why a younger man shouldn't want a relationship with an older woman, when we consistently see the opposite (older men and younger women - my sister is married to someone twenty-three years older, and a young friend of mine just split up with someone with the same age difference between them). settling for the most part is something that women look for and are in rush to get, not men. So obviously men have the upper hand in it and want things on their terms. If there are always tons of younger women who are dying to settle down why go older?
Hermaeus Mora Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 No, I'm not missing out on a damn thing. I don't want anyone that could be my mom, and I find the idea to be un-manly and repulsive. I would not get to a level so low as to do that. I have a uncle who "married" an old, rich woman once just for the money and alcohol. That kind of behavior is by all means: 100%, completely, totally, absolutely unacceptable. Where's your damn pride? I feel uncomfortable at the thought of being with a woman wealthier than me, using her home, or using her just for sex. Such acts are intolerable, and by doing them, you'd be violating your inalienable manliness. Take heed to these words.
Titania22 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 this, that bothers me greatly. I don't see why a younger man shouldn't want a relationship with an older woman, when we consistently see the opposite I second this. To me, a younger man and an older woman makes sense... women mature about 5 yrs before men... so we should essentially be with a man at least 5 yrs younger This logic makes no sense to me, according to you women mature at an earlier age then men and therefore they should be with men even younger. Say for example you are saying women mature at 18, therefore they should be involved with 13yr olds or younger. That doesn't make sense, no matter what numbers you sub in there. I don't want anyone that could be my mom, and I find the idea to be un-manly and repulsive. I would not get to a level so low as to do that. I get the point of your post, but I still find it rude that you think older women are repulsive. I don't like the OP's attitude either, although I agree that older women are great (being one myself) choices for fun, enjoyable relationships. 2
thefooloftheyear Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Good lord. A youngin' is going to lie to your face and tell you anything you want to HEAR as long it keeps the Gravy Train going for him. I couldn't imagine wasting my time training a kid. No thanks. School's out. wow ...someone actually gets it!!... TFY
Kamille Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 (edited) The most remarkable thing about this thread is how judgemental people are. Relationships aren't cookie-cutter. And neither are people. People have a variety of relationships for many reasons. I'm currently dating a younger man. Our relationship, thus far, is respectful, straightforward and fun. We're dating because we like spending time together. It's as simple as that. Why people choose to enter the relationships they do is none of my business. If two people, of whatever gender and age, agree to spend time together for whatever reason (emotional support, or sex, or company or whatever), power to them! Edited July 14, 2013 by Kamille 4
sweetheart5381 Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 I certainly find this thread entertaining and a wee bit judgmental. My current bf is just over 5 yrs younger, that makes me a "cougar", correct? My last bf was 10 yrs older than me and it was socially more acceptable. So what is the male equivalent of cougar, anyway? The truth is, as a single woman approaches 40 we want a sexual and life partner that can keep up with us. Women normally outlive men, that's a natural fact. My current bf has no need for Viagara, has no medical problems and is far more open-minded that a man who is close to 50. I would encourage women to consider dating a younger man at least once in their life. You would be surprised how interesting conversations can get when 2 people of slightly different generations get together. 1
Rebellious Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 -No drama -No texting -No phone calls -No buying her anything -Great sex -Great body -Allows you to spend the night -Great sex -Opens her home to you, whenever you want to come over -Great sex Im hooking up w a 40 year old now, Im 24. She has two kids, 11, and 9. Works out every day, great body. Everything is too good to be true. I go over, we have sex, cuddle and watch TV, have sex again. No drama, no strings. We get along great. Laugh, kiss, cuddle, watch movies etc. Never even left her house. You're missing out if you don't follow my advice. Im sure some of you can attest. It’s ok when you’re a teenage boy, exploring life, breaking the final taboo to have sex with mommy. But when you’re past 40, having sex with an older woman is icky.
mesmerized Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Good lord. A youngin' is going to lie to your face and tell you anything you want to HEAR as long it keeps the Gravy Train going for him. I couldn't imagine wasting my time training a kid. No thanks. School's out. All men are like that not an old or young thing. I've had sex with younger men and it's true that they do whatever you tell them to do. I'm still in my twenties though so I didn't go THAT much younger.
bac Posted July 14, 2013 Posted July 14, 2013 Good lord. A youngin' is going to lie to your face and tell you anything you want to HEAR as long it keeps the Gravy Train going for him. I couldn't imagine wasting my time training a kid. No thanks. School's out. I agree that many people are not interested just in sex. I agree that most people are looking for serious romantic Rs and most women are looking for a good husband and kids. I agree that many young guys do not want to have sex without emotional attachment, true love and friendship. The guys typically have sex with young girls who are interested in emotional attachment and love. The romantic men do not need to learn anything about sex because they can do great with young girls anyway. When a woman is in her 40s, she might want to have sex as much as guys in 20s do. She wants to have sex just for sex. She does not want to have sex because it is the only way to get other important things which she never gets without a man (a husband, kids, emotional attachment/support, financial security, green card, free dinners, home improvement, and many other things which we cannot do without men). What is the difference who is going to lie to my face and tell me anything I want to HEAR? Older men are welcome to tell me the white lies too. But, the men are not into giving complements. The older men are looking for complements/white lies themselves. Training a hot young man is not really so hard. In fact, no training is needed. If the young men are capable of having sex with young girls who are often like dead fish in terms of sex, the men can figure out how to do the same thing with a passionate woman who wants them badly.
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