atlg8r Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I just have to vent....something that drives me nuts about guys these days is that none of you ever answer or pick up the damn phone! I like texting, too, but sometimes it's nice to have an actual phone conversation, even if just for 10 or 15 minutes! So irritating. lol
Author atlg8r Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Nice for you maybe. Yeah, and sometimes you should do what's nice for the girl. 5
Arabella Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 The key is compromise No man ever died from speaking to his girlfriend on the phone for a few minutes. 5
Author atlg8r Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Especially if it's just once or twice a week!
soccerrprp Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I am a talker, er, a communicator, that is, so talking on the phone is not a problem. In fact, I prefer it. I've had a couple of ladies in the past ask whether talking on the phone was my "thing." I asked why you would ask and it seems that in their experience that guys don't like talking on the phone. Hmmmm. Is this a particular problem for men? 1
Author atlg8r Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 I think so. I get that most guys don't want to gab on the phone for 30 minutes or more. But it's nice to have a brief conversation from time to time as opposed to ALL contact being via text messages, Facebook comments or email. A guy I'm seeing now is all about texts. In fact, for awhile he was texting me throughout every day! So it isn't like he doesn't want to communicate at all. I guess his preference is just text.
Arabella Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I am a talker, er, a communicator, that is, so talking on the phone is not a problem. In fact, I prefer it. I've had a couple of ladies in the past ask whether talking on the phone was my "thing." I asked why you would ask and it seems that in their experience that guys don't like talking on the phone. Hmmmm. Is this a particular problem for men? Yeah, my experience has been that most guys don't like talking on the phone. Or, if they do, it's only for utilitarian things, like calling to ask if you need anything on the way home I can go either way. I don't require or expect phone conversations, but I am a talker and can be on the phone for a long while if we have stuff to chat about.
soccerrprp Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I have my suspicions as to why this is, but then, it doesn't explain why the ladies are still more open to having actual conversations. I frequently have long conversations with the ladies I date, so, again, it's all odd to me. I do my share of texting, but only for "utilitarian" purposes that require nothing more than a couple of quick tit for tats.
FitChick Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I can understand if the guy doesn't answer the phone immediately but if I leave a message I expect a return phone call. Hate texting.
Arabella Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I can understand if the guy doesn't answer the phone immediately but if I leave a message I expect a return phone call. Hate texting. That's always been a pet peeve of mine, too. I don't need long phone conversations, but if I take the time to call AND leave a message, DO NOT TEXT ME IN RETURN!
Fondue Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 To be blunt and absolutely honest: I prefer phone conversations to be purposeful. As in, I or she needs to communicate something and that's it. Talking for the sake of talking is not really my thing. I leave that for the times we hang out/date. I will arrange things via phone, or if something needs to be discussed in detail, I will call. Otherwise please don't call me just do so. You have your other girlfriends for that. 2
soccerrprp Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) To be blunt and absolutely honest: I prefer phone conversations to be purposeful. As in, I or she needs to communicate something and that's it. Talking for the sake of talking is not really my thing. I leave that for the times we hang out/date. I will arrange things via phone, or if something needs to be discussed in detail, I will call. Otherwise please don't call me just do so. You have your other girlfriends for that. Nah, for my SO, we can talk about anything she wants. Silly astrology, men vs. women, soccer, cooking, evil Monsanto, food industry myths, politics, current events, how my day was, sex, world affairs, sex.... Edited July 10, 2013 by soccerrprp
Fondue Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Nah, for my SO, we can talk about anything she wants. Silly astrology, men vs. women, soccer, cooking, evil Monsanto, food industry myths, politics, how my day was, sex, world affairs, sex.... I wouldn't be to tolerate that. It's actually funny that I just commented on this thread and as I did so, the girl I been dating called me to arrange our meetup today. This is part of the reason why I like her so much. She limits the texting to just a few day, and only calls for logistics and/or if something we are discussing during text gets convoluted/confusing or in depth. Then she will call, discuss what we were talking about, and we decide to leave it there and hang up. I think that's great. 1
RogerWallace111 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I was guilty of this in the past but that's one thing I'll be better about in future relationships. 10-15 minutes is nothing for a girl you care about. Plus it shouldn't be seen as an appeasement type of thing anyway. If you don't like talking to her enough to do that why are you together ? At the same time, I can respect someone's distaste of phone conversation. I'd prefer to save the long, meandering/whimsical conversations for face-to-face hangin if only to minimize the cancer-causing waves passing through my brain. As long as it's not getting into nagging territory, which it clearly doesn't seem it is in the OP's case. 1
soccerrprp Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I wouldn't be to tolerate that. It's actually funny that I just commented on this thread and as I did so, the girl I been dating called me to arrange our meetup today. This is part of the reason why I like her so much. She limits the texting to just a few day, and only calls for logistics and/or if something we are discussing during text gets convoluted/confusing or in depth. Then she will call, discuss what we were talking about, and we decide to leave it there and hang up. I think that's great. Mind you I don't mean gossip or something that is clearly frivolous in nature, but a genuine conversation about an interest, issue of some import, I'm okay with it. As longs as it's not every hour of the day, which hasn't been a problem as we all are too busy to spend too much time on the phone during any given day. 1
RogerWallace111 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I wouldn't be to tolerate that. It's actually funny that I just commented on this thread and as I did so, the girl I been dating called me to arrange our meetup today. This is part of the reason why I like her so much. She limits the texting to just a few day, and only calls for logistics and/or if something we are discussing during text gets convoluted/confusing or in depth. Then she will call, discuss what we were talking about, and we decide to leave it there and hang up. I think that's great. That's pretty legit. Phone convo with zero real purpose is uncool. Meaning exchanges with even less substance than the recapping of one's ordinary day. 1
sdraw108 Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 (edited) I'm not a big fan of phone conversations, but not because I don't like to talk - because I'd much rather do it in person. Phone calls feel artificial to me - there's no in-person interaction, and there's a forced need to keep conversation flowing where in a real conversation, there would be natural silences without it being awkward. However I wouldn't avoid calls from a girl I liked, and a phone call is better than no contact if I'm not seeing them that day. Edited July 11, 2013 by sdraw108
therhythm Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 And they hated every minute of it. mm speak about yourself... I don't have any problem answering a telephone call...
ltjg45 Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 If I ever start dating, this would be one of my biggest downfalls. Actually calling someone on the phone is not my strength at all. However, I do know that if I don't like someone like that, I don't call them. It's just that almost every person I meet, I just don't like them that much.
therhythm Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 Well, to be fair you also have no problem playing captain save a ho to a powersuit wearing feminist. Those are your words.. not mine! I choose to whom I decide to date and I usually don't think people are that black or white. I haven't find any woman who behaved with me as a powersuit wearing feminist.... maybe because I do not behave like a powersuit wearing chauvinist 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 I hate talking on the phone so my phone is usually on silent. I am always nagged by guys I date to talk on the phone. I do it but I prefer not to
Shepp Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 I never ever used to talk on the phone unless I needed a quick answer to something or needed to explain something that was too long to text. I'd always either text (although im not great at remembering to reply even via text) or see people face to face - growing up in a small village all my friends lived like max 10mins walk away so if I needed to talk to them id jump on my bike and go see them. I've got better thou on account of (well I dunno what she is - more than a friend, less than gf) she lives a bit further from me but more than that she...her home lifes not great, and she just likes to talk sometimes, so i'll talk to her on the phone for ages about nothing. I even call her now if I know shes having a tough day - see, Alfies growing up!! 1
Negative Nancy Posted July 16, 2013 Posted July 16, 2013 I hate talking on the phone so my phone is usually on silent. I am always nagged by guys I date to talk on the phone. I do it but I prefer not to Same here
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