germain Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 A girl was recently hired on at my work. Like most jobs, I generally spend more time with my co-workers than at home, and this is turning into a bit of a problem for me. This girl and I seem to get along really well and hit it off almost instantly. I'm generally pretty reserved, but I talk to her so easily, I can be quite flirtatious with her at times. The more time I spend with her, the more I can't get her out of my head. She seems pretty receptive and we've got a bit of a connection brewing. But something is holding us back... I have been dating someone for the last two years. I love my girlfriend very deeply. She has helped me through so much in my life; I really don't know where I would be right now without her having been there for me. We've had a pretty rough time the past year which resulted in me moving out. Things have gotten a bit better, but I've noticed we seem to be drifting apart and part of me questions if we're forcing things and are just comfortable at this point. I frequently find myself daydreaming about my co-worker instead of actively trying to relight the spark. Something is wrong. I would never cheat on my girlfriend, but I feel so horrible having these feelings for someone else. While we do flirt a little at work, it has never been inappropriate or involved any sort of physical contact. Basically, if my girlfriend were flirting this way with someone, I wouldn't have an issue. She is also aware of my girlfriend. At my job everybody works so closely that it'd be impossible for me to ignore her. I'm trying to keep things friendly, but I keep fantasizing about this girl and how much I'd love to take things further. I've really never experienced anything like this before as I haven't dated many women, but I wonder if it is only a fleeting moment. It's easy to see all of the things this other girl does "better" than my girlfriend, especially at a time when we're not doing so well. But I know I'm just not seeing the negative qualities in this other girl and it's likely just the attraction I'm focused on. It wouldn't feel right dumping my girlfriend to potentially date my co-worker. But as I get to know her even more, I worry I may miss out on something that could be really good, so that I can continue focusing on trying to fix something that may just not work. I just want to do what is right and will make me the happiest at the same time. My girlfriend and I just don't seem to be there right now, and that worries me.
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