redglitter Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I met this awesome man on a dating website. I'm afraid to meet him. I feel so fat and ugly. I have lost 30lbs, I am not in the "obese" section anymore, Im considered just overweight. ALL of my photos look good.. I take good pictures, but i look different than that. How do I get over my fear?!
Eve Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 The only way I can see to avoid this dread you now have would be to update the photographs prior to meeting and make sure they are dead on what you really look like. Even maybe Skye or something rather than rely on the photos? Well done for losing 30lbs. That's great! I have visions of you hiding yourself away hoping you will be a certain weight before the meet up. I hope this was not the case - too much pressure! It could be that you actually look perfectly fine but currently you are beating yourself up because you are not at your target weight. Personally I would do the Skype thing, in case you don't like him beyond his photos. When does he want to meet? Take care, Eve x 1
Arabella Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I like the Skype idea. You should do that... that way, he gets to see your amazing smile live! Seriously, don't worry about your body. He's seen the pictures, and you can give him a preview on Skype before you meet...but that won't make him any less/more interested at this point. You need to meet him before either of you get attached. The longer that goes by, the more expectations you both are going to have, and if it doesn't go well, it will be more difficult to shake it off and move on. Just go and meet for a quick drink when you get out of work on Friday! 2
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