Sent the Ex her favorite flowers, after not having alot of contact for 4 months.

[jcweik]

Heres the story. Me and my ex broke up 1 day before she finished highschool. Said she didnt want a boyfriend anymore. Everynow and then she calls me and asks me how im doing, and tells me we should hang out. Just out of the blue she calls. One night when she was drunk she called my sister and my mom and said that she still loves me and asked them abunch of questions about me. Wierd thing is, is that she is dating someone new. Any how, her birthday is november 3rd, so i decided to send her flowers. I didnt say who it was from on the card, but she will prolly know.

 

 

 

why would she call me outta the blue and ask to hang out, and to ask how im doing? Also, i emailed her 1 time and said what i felt and she called me back and said "that was realy sweet."

 

 

Was it a bad thing that i sent her flowers? I'd realy like to get back with her, but i don't know how to show her that i realy do love her.

[tattoomytoe]

maybe she still has feelings for you, .......or thought she did when she was drunk- i swore i could fly once when i was drunk, lucky for me the porch was only 5 feet of the ground!

 

send the flowers....see what happens.

[Weird]

She probably still has feelings for you but going by society's urging thinks that there must be something better out there and that she should be out dating more people while she is still young rather than stay with one guy that she actually cares for.

 

Best thing you can do is just let her do what she thinks she wants and if she feels she made a mistake with you and wants to reconcile she will tell you that when she is ready.

 

I dont think the flowers thing was a bad idea. You were just showing you care and acknowledging her bday. Just dont make it a frequent thing and don't ever press her about the situation between you two. You'll get bruned if you do that but so far it sounds like you are playing it the right way.

[Good heart]

I agree with weird on the issue of leaving her living until she is ready, you should explore other venues as well. desperate measures like flowers and other forms of begging lead only to loss of respect and ultimatley losing the partner in the future.

[jcweik]

I have explored. I don't feel right being with other females, because it isnt her. When im with other females, i just think about her. This is after 4 months, all of summer..

 

 

I still dont undestand why she would call me and ask me to hang out with her. I say "i couldnt hang out with you and your new bf" and she says Ohh i know, we would go to a party together or something. Then she says that her new bf dont mind if we hang out also..

 

 

Oh and i wasnt trying to be deserate when i sent her flowers, i just wanted her to know that i didnt forget her birthday. Like i said, i didnt even put my name on the card that comes with the flowers, just had it say "happy birthday." Although i am prolly the only 1 that knows her favorite flowers..

[Good heart]

Dude

I was dumped 4 months ago by my gf, I sent her flowers (36 red) after 2 wks of the breakup, and the effect was negative and then I promised her commitment 1 week after that and the effect was negative then she finally told me to leave her alone and to stay away from her and that is what I did in the past 3 months. no connection no emails no phones . Now since we work together and I was away for 3 months and came back , I see her every morning , and what do you think I do, I just say hi good morning then finish my work and leave without any expressions: no hate, no anger, no happiness nothing just blunt hi and what do you think the effect is:

she tries to talk to me evry morning but I avoid any conversation, for me unless she calls me on the phone I will not give her any moment of my life.

you have got to be strong with women who do not appreciate men who love them, these women just lose interest after they think the man has completely fallen in love in them. why because this is a natural emotion

there is one german song a part of which is:

sex is a battle

Love is war

and when you are in war you have got to demoralize your enemy you cannot make her feel very complete and that you are thinking about her and that she is everything to you, this means you are conquered, you have got to treat her as if you are in a position of power whether you are in it or not. this means ignoring her, somethies being a little bit of a jerk, not showing any importance of her preence, and if you are given the opportunity tell her that you do not love her if she asks you, you are lying you are playing games, but in the end she deserves it she was the one who started this and believe me this will always work ALWAYS and she will be begging you back , women have this strange primitive behavior of following their emotions (I am not talking here about the intelligent ones , and the well educated) and if you are a conqueror they will adore you whether it is reaonable or not.

I know this post will be very outrageous to the women population reading it but honesty hurts sometimes

[jcweik]

Its 5 am. Just got back from hanging out with friends..She called just an hour ago but i wasnt here. At FOUR AM???! wtf.

[Weird]

Agree with Good Heart...women seem to take advanatge when they have a guy professing his care for them and doing good things like how he mentioned. They just seem to not care about it and get pissed off...but once you start to not do that stuff they suddenly get curious about you and want to start talking to you. It's funny...but retarded at the same time. I guess they don't realize just what they ahve until it is gone and then once that happens they suddenly want it (the guy showing he cares, etc) back. It could be just that they like the attention or it could be they honestly liked the guy showing his care/love for them and when he stops doing it they are afraid they lost that and it makes them sad. I have no idea

 

I still think you should send her flowers for her bday. Just don't make it something you plan to start doing every other week. Oh and her calling you at 4 a.m is a lil *****ed up. I would love to hear the reason why she did that!

[Weird]

edit:

 

I meant to say I still think it was a good idea you sent her flowers not that you should send them for her bday since you already did:)

 

Sorry about that

[whtelightn]

Was it a bad thing that i sent her flowers

 

[[color=red]color=blue} Did she say anything about the flowers? I agree about sending the flowers, shows that you care. Even though she is seeing someone else, it probably will not last. Sounds like she still has feelings for you.[/color][/color][/color]

 

when you are in war you have got to demoralize your enemy you cannot make her feel very complete and that you are thinking about her and that she is everything to you, this means you are conquered, you have got to treat her as if you are in a position of power whether you are in it or not. this means ignoring her, somethies being a little bit of a jerk, not showing any importance of her preence, and if you are given the opportunity tell her that you do not love her if she asks you, you are lying you are playing games, but in the end she deserves it she was the one who started this and believe me this will always work ALWAYS and she will be begging you back , women have this strange primitive behavior of following their emotions (I am not talking here about the intelligent ones , and the well educated) and if you are a conqueror they will adore you whether it is reaonable or not.

 

[color=red]I agree with Goodheart on the above saying. This is what you have to do. I am in the same position as GOODHEART, it does suck but it needs to be done. Goodheart, Please send me a private message, and tell you my story[/color].

 

 

I also agree with Weird...statement.

 

Keep us posted on what has happened.

[YssaBoo]

Must be the full moon coming out or something. I haven't heard from my ex for a few months and out of the blue he e-mailed me the other day and told me that things were said between us that shouldn't have been said and his sister thinks it's because I'll be 18 in a couple of weeks. I remember him telling me the night we had an aweful fight that maybe when I'm 18 things will be different. Very ironic

[jcweik]

Well she hasn't recieved the flowers yet. She won't until her birthday because i had it arranged to be sent on that day. I work for her uncle and i told him about the female that i was seeing at the time. I'm thinking he might of told her or something. Every week or other week she calls me, and/or calls my sister.

 

 

This is an email that i sent her awhile back

 

 

 

 

:You're probably wondering why i'm emailing you right after we talked on the phone. Well, i have so much stuff i'd like to tell you and I didn't get a chance to discuss it over the phone.

 

First off let me start of by saying that I don't think we should hang out. Not that I don't want, because i very much would like to. So don't think that I don't want to. Its like this, I can lie and say I don't want you back, and that i have no feelings for you, But that would be just it, a lie. Theres so many things i miss that i don't know where to start. You prolly don't want to even read this email, and if you don't thats fine. But i just have to let you know. I miss everything. I miss being a movie critic (we watched movies alot) with you, I miss being part of your family. I wasnt really part of it, but i was, if you know what i mean. It felt good. I miss everything.

 

When adam comes back it will hurt me as well. I used to think of him as a big brother that i never had, but now he will just be "his name"

 

 

Another reason why i can not hang out with you is that i know you go home to someone at night. And it would tear me apart to think about someone else making you feel warm and secure when they hold you while laying. I wish you knew this me that i am now, and not bastard josh that i was with you. If you feel you have to show your boyfriend this, then by all means go ahead. And while we are on that subject, just let me say this. He breaks your heart, i break his neck. I'm not trying to split you too apart, but he will not hurt you and get away with it. I want you to be happy, are you honestly happy with him?

 

 

I don't understand these calls that you make too me, they really confuse me. When i wake up, i dread it because i can't call you, nor see you. When i sleep, i sleep to thinking about when we were together. When i'm with diane, or someone else, i think about you. I've actually called quite a few people your name. I called ***** your name, while we were doing it. Thats another thing, sex is nothing to me anymore. Its just that, when it was with you, it was something magical to me. I've called her mom your name by mistake, ive called my sister, mom, and daughter your name. Hell i've called some of my guy friends your name. I see your face every day, even though it realy isnt you. I'll be walking and this illusion will come and ill see you. I've actually been walkin in the mall, and thought it was you, and called out your name. This chick that looks nothing like you turned out. I felt so embarressed. The day you said we will never be anything ever again, was the day that hurt the most.

 

 

All this and much much more that im not gonna drag on, is inside of me everyday. And all of this is why we can not hang out. So, i'm asking you, please do not call me to shoot the ****. If you miss me, and want me back (which i know you don't) then call me. If you think there could be a chance for us in the future, then call me. Or if you get hurt by your current boyfriend, or something tragic happens, call me, im here for you. But i can not go on acting like i don't like you, and that i just want to be friends with you, because that isnt the case. I want you back, and i can not have that, so we don't need to drag this on anymore.

 

Well i'm gonna end this email now, because its gone on long enough. I have so much more to say, but like i said, i'm not gonna drag this on anymore that i've already done. Good luck with your relationship, and go to school!

 

I'm sorry, but i have to tell you I love you,

 

 

 

 

 

This was the last email/contact i've taken from her. Then all of a sudden she calls me out of the blue, and i wonder why. If shes so happy with her relationship, why is she calling her dam ex for. Bugs me.

[Weird]

it is selfish for her to call you after that email IF she doesn't have an interest in getting back together. You made it loud and clear you did not want to hang out/have contact with her if it was only going to be a friends thing. Sadly, it is a common thing when women do that. Either they have feelings or they just can't handle someone telling them to screw off and they want to have the last "laugh" by proving the guy will "give in" and keep talking.

 

Me thinks she doesn't know what she truly wants and wants to keep you there to go back to in case the thing with her current guy falls apart which maybe she feels is going to happen sooner rather than later...but I may be worng and she may just have called in spite simply because you told her not to under the current circumstances.

[jcweik]

Naw see, i havent taken any of her calls since then... havent had any talks with her or anything.

 

 

And she doesnt own her own pc, checks her email once in a while at a friends house.

[Weird]

but the fact is she did call you after you sent her that email, right?

[jcweik]

Yes, but i have no clue if she has seen the email yet, or what she wants if she did read it.

[Weird]

when did she call in relation to you sending the email? days? weeks?

 

If you talk to her again after she gets the flowers ask her if she got/read that email.