HopelesslyStuck Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I was with my ex boyfriend for two years, we broke it off almost 6 months ago with barely any contact in between. I've been the one struggling with it, and it seems as if he is completely fine, even from day one of the break up. Yeah, things aren't always what they seem.. but the could be. Which hurts. Anyway, he's in a new relationship now and I'm having a hard time accepting it. I'm confused about some things, and here is why. We have tons of mutual friends, so I'm always hearing things about him, and its more than likely vice versa.. but multiple people have told me that he doesn't talk about me often, but when he does, it's all mean and negative. Why talk about me if you don't care anymore? He's in a new relationship now so why is that necessary? Also, I actually texted him a picture of this thing he used to like and I was doing it in a friendly way. He texted back and we started having a casual conversation. It was only a few texts long, but that's the most he's talked to me since the break up and he was being nice to me, text wise. I texted him another picture of something similar a day later and his reply "Idc" Why reply if you don't care? Why so rude? The first picture, he replied right away and was being so nice, and then I send another one and he says "idc" I can understand why he'd be like that because he clearly doesn't want a conversation, but why talk about me behind my back and tell my secrets to the whole world? It almost seems as if he's spiteful.
coffeebean201 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 sounds like it is either "on" or "off" with him. no friendship without relationship. guys aren't at their best after a relationship ends. so cut him some slack and move on.
Arabella Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Eh, people sometimes do this. I've encountered this with my ex too. I was there for him for everything, but ultimately I couldn't take his problems and left him. He tried to get me back, and I refused. Instead, I got serious with somebody else. He didn't take well to it. Next thing I know, he's talking crap about me everywhere to garner sympathy to feel better about himself. People are social animals. You're here trying to get reassurance that he still cares and that's why he talks about you. That's not the case. If he cared, he would be trying to get you back. Instead, he's in a new relationship. He probably talks about you because you have mutual friends. Just like you are talking about him with them too. You're bound to come up in each other's conversations. Even so, remember that he left you. Clearly, he was not satisfied with the relationship... doesn't it kinda make sense that he wouldn't be saying nice things about it? It doesn't mean that he hates you. He just wasn't happy with you. Although he could be more mature and just shut up about it, that's for sure...
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