Author lilmisscantbewrong Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Thanks for your responses. Sweet pea and underwater - as bs's would this be a problem in your household if the Ow's name was brought up daily? No because I make sure not to bring up the affair in front of my kids. I feel they do not need to know and it would harm the relationship they have with their dad. But your case is different...where the kids present when you name was read in front of the church? Also, it depends on how the parents answered the kid's questions. It is easier to lay the blame where it belongs so the BW does bare the brunt of the anger over losing a family friend. Because I said so does not make a kid happy and creates anger toward the person using the phrase. This is not meant to be snarky at all Not taken that way. The reason why I ask is that my husbands Ow's name comes up from time to time usually by my husband s parents and because they don't know about my husbands affair I seethe in silence and it is a constant reminder. So in your case your marriage is one of mad hatters. That clears up an awful lot. Yet your inlaws know all about your affair right? I think it is time to come clean on everything. Maybe next time your husband's OW's name comes up you can say "Hey you know it really bothers me to hear that name, after all I was crucified for my affair yet she walks around innocent after screwing my husband." or something to that effect. I am sure it would shut them up real fast. Also....I am sorry to ask but who's affair came first? Why would you allow him to hide from his mistake while yours was plastered all over town? And does his OW come back under the cover of night? my affair was first - because I wanted so badly to handle things differently than mine was handled - with more class I guess.
Author lilmisscantbewrong Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Why are you so interested in what's going on in xMM's family. I see that it's been 3+ years since the affair and supposedly you and your husband stuck around, worked things out, and moved on. But your level of interest in what's going on with xMM's family reads just like the posters who've just had dday and are grasping at any straw that suggests MM is unhappy and will leave the W. "xMM's parents ignore me. Do you guys think that means xMM's R is still bad? xMM's parents say his oldest son prays for me and his youngest knows my daughters name. Do you think that means they still talk about me and their marriage is still bad?" Pardon my language, but it seems like you need a bit of shaking. Why the F*CK do you still give a sh*t what's happening in his family?!?!? Move on already. You have no idea.
Author lilmisscantbewrong Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) Sorry I couldn't edit the other post. No - his children were not present during the "reading of the names" nor were mine - his parents, her mother and my inlaws were however. I really don't want to post much more as I already have points against me that were not valid and completely mistaken although the moderators don't want to publicly admit this. I am pretty much done with this site for this reason - I have done nothing wrong. Edited July 10, 2013 by lilmisscantbewrong
The Way I Am Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 You have no idea. But do you? I just wonder if you're being honest with yourself. I wouldn't let the mod points bother you too much. It happens.
underwater2010 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 my affair was first - because I wanted so badly to handle things differently than mine was handled - with more class I guess. I can understand that. I do truly feel for you that you were so publically humiliated. Maybe speak with your husband and have him talk with his parents as to why they should not bring up his exOW's name. That is part of him owning his crap too. Please try to focus more on your marriage....that is where the future of you and your kids is, not in the marriage or treat by your ex AP's family. You may think that most of us don't get it....but we do. I did not out my FWH to anyone besides a few of my close friends because we are reconciling and I did not want hard feelings out there. But I can tell you that he would step into the fire for me should I ask him to. Good Luck with everything....I hope everything goes well for you in the future
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