cammyreis Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Guys, I think I totally screwed it up this time and I need your help. Yesterday I got extremely nervous when I saw a comment my boyfriend did on a friend’s picture: “what a sensual pic”. I tried to wait up because I got really hot headed and didn’t want to do something until I calmed down. But I called him and asked about this and about many other things that bothered me: “likes” on girls photos, the way he was sweet with friends (girl friends as well), hugs, cheek kissing, etc. He was really upset that I didn’t trust him at all: the girl that received the comment is a longtime friend and that was an internal joke, and he really is that caring about his friends (perhaps because he is a doctor, he’s always touching people). Anyway, he said he couldn’t believe the “jealousy crisis” I was having, first of all because if he wanted to do something, he wouldn’t do it on a public place like Facebook. Then he said he’s been in and out many relationships (he’s thirty after all), and he couldn’t stand that kind of stuff anymore, he tought I was different but at the end I was just like every woman, and that if my lack of trust is going to make our life miserable, we should end right there. And then he said that there was no point talking to me while I was still hot headed and hung up. Did I loose everything? We’ve been together for six months now, and I do love him madly. And now, do I still have hope? What should I do? Call him? Wait him to call? And say what? Or he isn’t going to talk to me anymore? Please help!
yougotmyheart Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 You did NOTHING wrong. As far as your standards and what you expect from your man, you did the right thing by addressing it. It would have been the wrong thing to do, had you not addressed it. You all have only been dating for 6 months, which isn't a very long time. I think if you wish to continue on in this relationship, now is the perfect time to address how you did not find it appropriate and what you expect from the person you're with. Point. Blank. Period. I would NOT want my bf doing this sort of thing. I think he definitely overreacted and was out of line for his response.
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