JustJana Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Pretty sure I'll not be hearing from him again. We've only gone out once, then today the conversation turned somehow to cheating, he made a joke about something & I blew it out of proportion. I asked why he'd find that funny & doesn't he realize how much that **** hurts people? Then I asked if he'd ever cheated, he said no - like anyone EVER say yes? - & I think he knew I was skeptical. I know the drama was unnecessary. Guess maybe I shouldn't be dating right now but I really wanted someone to do fun things with this summer. It's going to be a lonely summer.
clia Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Is he the last single guy on the planet or something? Don't beat yourself up about it. Just move on to the next one...
Author JustJana Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 No, I just feel like an idiot because I actually liked him. C'est la vie right?
BradJacobs Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Unless he's an antagonist (likes to pick fights) then he made a joke that he didn't know you'd take the wrong way. Why not call him and explain why you reacted the way that you did?
ChatroomHero Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Kinda sounds like you are not looking for a fun night, but instead looking for drama to get you going. Bad idea. 1
Ami1uwant Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 I agree with others---need to know what exactly was said. He could have said something offensive or you are reading too much into it.
CherryT Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 I agree... depending on the comment, it would determine if you overreacted. The subject of cheating came up early on in my relationship. I've been cheated on but he was the one that brought it up. We just wanted to know how we both viewed it. If he made a really off-side joke about it I may have gotten offended... but that's because I've had to deal with the pain of someone cheating after 4+ years and I have absolutely ZERO tolerance for it. Also, if he took a "why is that funny and do you realize how much that **** hurts people?" and that was enough for him to walk away... I think it's beyond what was said but the fact that you just aren't that compatible. Whatever he said (depending on how bad it was) and your reaction doesn't sound that back. He could've been like "I was KIDDING! I'm sorry, maybe I crossed the line. But I was definitely joking" and you may have accepted it and moved on. But maybe he was a cheater and he just didn't want to hear it.
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