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Feeling down. Did I do the right thing?


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I've been dating a guy for a few months. He pursued me, and I grew to really like him. We were not an official couple, but things seemed to be going well, and I was not wanting to jump into a serious relationship anyway.

 

Over the past while he has become distant, culminating in 10 days with no contact at all. I sent him one "Hey, how are you doing?" message during that time. No response.

 

Finally, I asked him what was up and if he was losing interest. (I guess if you have to ask . . .) I got back "I've been busy."

 

I found that response dismissive and wishy-washy. So I suggested that because we seem to have different expectations for dating, maybe we should call it quits and just be friends.

 

It's been four days and I haven't heard back from him. I thought I was giving him an easy out--but is it possible that I hurt his feelings? Or maybe he's ticked off that I took control and removed myself from the backburner? Or maybe he just doesn't give enough of a crap to respond?

 

I probably should let go of my need to have things end well. *sigh*

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Yes, you already have the answer. He's not interested anymore. Let him go, and never contact him again. Doesn't matter why he's not interested, you should move on now and never look back.

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Thank you. I've been sensing the lack of interest for a while, but I thought we could at least end things well. This is someone I've known since childhood, and we have lots of mutual friends--which led me to trust more than I should have, I suppose.

 

I don't intend to contact him again.

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