lovesux1 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 My story is pretty similar to alot of stories i read on here. I was in a 6 month amazing relationship (known her for a while). We both knew that it was special and something we never had before (both30yrs old)i was dumped due to stress of her working 2jobs and going to school. In the beginning i begged and pushed her away. I backed off and she started slowly contacting me This went on for a few months. I thought it was a big step when she invited me to her graduation party to meet her parents. Basically times like that i would feel like her BF again then other times i felt only like her friend and times she would shun me for her friends i felt like a nobody. I was all confused. I was going crazy. I knew it was a risk to lose her totally but i couldnt keep living that confused. So i FINALLY got her out for dinner where i could talk to her about my feelings. She said she doesn't want a relationship right now. And even seemed pretty upset that i even brought the situation up. She stormed out that night 7 days ago and i havent talked to her since. Imhurt because i want her back but im also relived that im not being confused anymore. Did i screw up? Does it sound like i may have a chance or give up hope?
Still Searching Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 My personal opinion is that you should go NC, just move on. I've been in your position, wanting to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. It's no fun, and nobody deserves that. I'm sure along with being confused, you get a sick feeling in your stomach at times, maybe when she'd call, or you'd see her. Anxiety takes over, and we become a shell of our former self. My ex recently talked like she wanted it to work, but made less and less time for me, basically fit me in after she was done with friends and family, completely opposite of how she used to do things, when she made "us" a priority. I was pathetic, letting her use me as a doormat, until two days ago when I finally said I'd had enough. It sucks, period. Focus on the relief you feel now due to no longer being confused. You may not have heard what you wanted to from her, but at least you know now. Nothing you can do about it. You told her your feelings, and she'll do with them what she will. We'd all love to be able to will somebody into wanting to be with us, but that's just not going to happen. Why waste your time on someone who doesn't want the same things you do?
OrangeSnack Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Hey bro im sorry about your ex. You just gotta move on. In fact in hindsight, it would have been better if you kept NC in the beginning. Your post got me thinking about my ex, whom i've gone NC for about a month now. I almost, ALMOST, wanted to readd her on facebook. Phew... A poster by the name of Skid Row had some really good quotes on this forum and I just wanted to share this with you. I hope this helps! "A break up is not a failure, it's an answer to a question and the successful conclusion of your relationship." Finding and ending up with the person who you will eventually marry... is a PROCESS! Meaning... "You will be rejected, date around, date some winners, date some losers, have several long term relationships, go through several break ups, get screwed over, screw people over, have disappointments, have fun, have ups and downs, good days, bad days, make mistakes, learn from your mistakes, adjust your GF / BF picker as you mature and grow, be infatuated several times, fall in "love" (immature and mature versions of "love") several times, have your heart broken several times, break several hearts, become more selective, etc." Thanks again Skid Row for these awesome advices and comments!!!
Author lovesux1 Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Thank you guys so much for responding. Every time i second guess ending our "friendship" i will come back and read these
Author lovesux1 Posted July 15, 2013 Author Posted July 15, 2013 Well its been about 3 weeks. Finally sinking in that its really over since she hasnt tried to contact me. I overanalyzed a few days ago when she commented on a mutual friends facebook stat after i commented (i didnt think she wouldve ever commented with this mutual friend). Maybe testing me but i didnt bite
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