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Ok, this is going to be kind of long but I really need people's advice so if you read this, please reply. My bf and I have been together for almost 4 years and we are engaged. He's given me a ring and his family knows about it, but we won't officially announce it until u graduate college in December. I'm 23 and he's 25. Right now he's still living at home with his older and younger brother and parents. I stay at his house but u don't technically live there because I still go home to my parents house. His older brother's girlfriend does live at the house with the family. I'm going to call her Kim. I'm a easy person to get along with and I like everyone but there's always been something about Kim that I don't like but I could never figure out what it was. I've always felt that my bfs dad liked her more bc he always makes an effort to talk to her and he doesn't really do that with me. I know his dad likes me but I know not asynchronous as Kim. By the way I am a different race that my bf. his mom and I have always been really close and she calls me her daughter in law. She always tells me that her and her husband love me and they want me to marry their son. This is all wonderful to me and I can't wait til I officially marry into the family because u love them. Now here comes the problem. My bfs family has money but I wouldn't call them rich. They are just very well off like my parents. I could care less about their money bc I love my bf and his family regardless of their bank accounts. I'm in it for the love. Now I have recently found out that Kim is a gold digger. Her mother made a speech at one of her family parties that she's glad that Kim is going to marry into a family that has money. I also found out that Kim's 26 year old sister slept with my bf younger 21 year old brother and is currently trying to get with him bc of the money. She is married by the way so she's cheating on her husband. One of my bfs cousins knew kim and her sisters n high school and she told me that they always go after men with money. With that being said my bf has a very expensive luxury car that he bought with his own money that he saved and the windows were busted the first week of June. There's a rumor in his family going around that Kim's sisters husband did it to get back at my bfs brother for sleeping with his wife. I guess my bfs car was the only one that was outside when this happened. What a coincidence that Kim caught the person busting the windows, so it could if been her sisters husband. If I ever find out that Kim's sisters husband did that then I don't know what is do. I've tried being friends with Kim but she never talks to me. We have gone to family dinners and will not speak a word to me. I've just come to the conclusion that after being around her for almost 4 years she just doesn't like me. I don't care anymore about that but the fact that there's a possibility that she's in this for the money. To back this up, she leaves plates of food around the house, doesn't clean up after herself. After she came out of the bathroom there was period blood all over the toilet and doesn't speak to extended family members at gatherings just plays with her phone. When my bfs mother went to mexico for 2 weeks ste said how happy she was to have a party in their house when their mother was gone. when sge for back home kim didnt come downstairs to greet her. How do you live in someones house and you don't come a greet her after she's been out if the country for 2 months? I really love his family and his parents and I feel that my bfs older brother deserves a nice girl. Does this make the rumors true that she's a gold digger? His family are the nicest people and I feel that they don't deserve to have a girl like Kim dating their son. What should I do knowing all of this info. One of my bfs cousins who is one of my best friends told me this and I know she wouldn't make up this or lie to me. Should I tell my bf what I heard? I'm not a gossiper.

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Thanks alot, maybe it is an inner jealousy thing. Maybe bc I know stuff about her that the family doesn't. It's a very complicated situation and it's hard to explain. You're right about everything.

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Sorry this is completely off topic but your future husband doesn't have a lot of money and then spends his money on a luxury car.... Why....

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He works and saved up his money. He didn't spend as much as you probably think. It was a used car as well.

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