Echo000 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 So anyone who has read my texts knows my situation. If not, simply put: Broke up in January and went NC strictly till mid May. Started talking again, wanted to try being friends at first and potentially more if things went well and both parties had changed in the needed ways. Flash forward to last week, July 5. Get a text that says she has decided (completely to my utter shock) that she is moving to Massachusetts in August. Since then i have blocked her cell, email, and fb as a means to move on. However, she texted me two days ago saying "I miss you". I found out she can still iMESSAGE me..that you can only block text messages and cell phone calls, but not imessages. This is SUPER hard, i fu***n hate this but I know now that all hope is gone and i need to move on. Her and I were never necessarily going to get back together, and clearly never again now. So question is- I really really cant change my number. I have had it for years and I have clients who I would lose out on if i changed it (i know i could contact everyone and tell them im changing my number..but that would raise questions and be to much a hassle). Should i just accept that she could text me at any moment and simply ignore her? I have told her multiple times that I need to move on. This was so shocking that i feel there is/wont ever be closure, but idk what else to do. We had JUST been spending the last month and a half talking about meeting up and being friends and seeing if anything was there, and now BOOM. she is gone. Any advise?
almond Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Can you disable iMessage, or perhaps contact your carrier and block her number that way? If not, I suppose you'll just have to remain firm with NC, and delete any messages from her without even reading them (easier said than done, I know). I have also seen posts on here outlining a method that may work, that involves instantly sending back a message stating that the number has been blocked from contacting this service...blah blah. Might be worth considering if she becomes persistent.
athousandquestions Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 ON your iphone go into settings, then messages. turn imessage off. For a while youll have to resort to getting texts from all your imessage friends but her messages will not deliver to you whatsoever (even when you turn imessage back on) I suggest turning it off for a week or two.
Chris715 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Why do you assume never? Do you really want to block any and all channels of communication from her because she is moving away? If it was me I would keep her number in my phone, or at the very least delete it but have it written down and put away somewhere, and let her know you need space and don't wish to talk to her for awhile because you're trying to deal with your own life and move on. Then maybe in the future you get a chance to open communications again, who knows?
Author Echo000 Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Chris.. i think that is exactly her line of thinking..she is accusing me of viewing this all in "black and white", and tbh i know she is right in that regard. In most situations, black and white is a bad outlook but when you are dealing with someone you love but can no longer have, i dont see any other approach. Ya i mean i could write her number down and leave it somewhere, but do i really want that? it seems like a last hope thing, a one day if i feel weak i can potentially call that number. Then what? She wants to have a final phone call today, even though she says she is really busy and wont have much time. The phone call was my idea, simply because ending all contact by text hurts and i refuse to see her before she leaves--that would prevent me from healing.
Author Echo000 Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 i plan on having a short conversation...yea im hurting but might as well be super sweet, listen and nod at whatever she has to say, and hang up the phone once its over for good. I have a desire to feel a closure i probably will never have. In reality, its like a drug and im looking for that final conversation, over and over again. constantly saying goodbye by text, and i easily cave because she never says goodbye back. This phone call, assuming it happens, NEEDS to be the last time we have any contact for a long time. Its sad, after that we may never see or talk to each other again. Sounds dramatic, but its true. She is moving 3000 miles away, what more is there to say? ill post after the phone call, which i think is worth it. because these texts suck, and i need to stop with this.
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