EG18 Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 Hey all... need some help on what seems to be an all too familiar situation... why hasnt he called me? But trust me, its worth reading... I met him originally about a month ago at a party. Weeks passed and I kept thinking about him. I knew where he worked and went there with a friend of mine. He was very friendly and had all the positive signs of being interested. He remembered my name.... big clue. We talked a little and ended the evening exchanging numbers. Both of us went on vacations and decided to get together when we were back. I called when I returned and he called back about two days later, apoligizing for not calling sooner. I met up with him and his friends and had a wonderful time. We sat at a table and leaned in closely... he told me how much he liked me when we first met.... complimenting me on things I normally dont get compliments on. He liked my confidence and how easy it was to maintain a conversation with me. He thought I was smart and enjoyed talking with me. Everything he said was in future context... as if, we were already together and speaking about our future relationship (hey, he started it). He would say things like, I just really need someone who I can talk to and lean on, or at least, keep themselves up... he commented a few times about past problems.... and I felt that he had some baggage, but for some reason it didnt bother me... i just enjoyed his honesty... he kept saying that he hoped I wasnt getting pushed away with everything he was saying, but he just feels so comfortable around me.... I told him i was enjoying it...lol... let the guy speak for once right? I told him i felt the same way about him and felt so comfortable.... I gave him a ride home and he invited me in... he kept finding all of these "coincidenses" about us.... music and comments etc. We talked about what were going to do later that week.... out to eat. We spoke of all future things.... He never tried to kiss me and was very polite... hugs was all... although I wanted to plunge, but liked his way. We agreed that he would call and I left on cloud nine.... I let two days pass and decided to call him to let him know when I would be off work if he wanted to chill... no response... i didnt fret yet... then, I called again two days later.... but didnt leave a message (I know, you are all pissed at me for dialing....) but, the way it seemed was so mutual and he told me to always be honest and speak my mind.... so I thought calling was ok.... no response.... its been a week and a day... and although Im told... hey, just understand, he isnt interested.... but he was.... im extremely intuitive... and he was sincere.... so, why? and is there a step to take from here? I really like him and respect him.... the only clues I got about anything was a his break up this past march after two years.... he lives with a girl, (whom he said was strickly friends... he pointed that out, I didnt ask... no way to start out jealous...) So now, I live in a smallish town... and I am way bummed. any words would be great.... you can ne honest... im a tough cookie... just want to hear something other then my thoughts on it all day.... And thanks for reading this far man.! I appreciate it!
Merin Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 Ugh! Don't you hate when that happens?! I'm sorry.. but after you've called him that many time, and he hasn't responded then what he SAID to you has become a mute point... it's what he is SHOWING you that needs to be looked at. My take is, maybe he simply changed his mind (it happens) or maybe he decided to give the Ex gf another shot (Blah lol God knows that happens!) Regardless of his reason(s) I think it's pretty rude... but he is giving you all the signs now, that he's not into it. I wouldn't sweat him anymore. He has your number, knows how he can get in touch with you if he wants to... Keep looking! Good Luck
Naive Posted October 21, 2004 Posted October 21, 2004 All I can say is, "don't call him ANYMORE". I pretty sure he got the message you left him and is aware that you have been calling. If he is really interested he'll call you.
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