tonzy22 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 About a year ago I briefly met a girl in college, we didn't get chance to speak much in person but we did online, she ended up leaving college and getting a boyfriend, after that all contact ceased, this was roughly about a year ago. About 4 weeks ago, on a whim I decided to message her, just asking how she was, She replied and we've have been talking more or less everyday since then, maybe 10 messages a day and becoming quite flirty. We arranged to meet up last week and she agreed, It was an event like a leaving ceremony and she was my date. Afterwards we had a drink (she had 1 as was driving) hung out for another hour and left. The next night she messaged me asking "how was the rest of my night" we talked briefly and that was it, the past few days though she has become distant, not messaging me like she used to and not even replying to my messages, I don't really understand why this is happening? seemed perfect. Also to add, She is very popular and imagine she gets a lot of attention from men. So what do I do? be indifferent, ignore her like she is ignoring me? will this work? If I keep messaging her it will seem desperate. Thanks for reading.
RebelWithoutACause Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 After your get together did you ask her out again? Was there any physical contact while you were out? If not, maybe she thought you weren't interested romantically.
Author tonzy22 Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 I asked her yesterday if she fancied going into town, maybe going to the river (its always busy) & maybe getting ice cream . She replied, " sounds fun but im in work" ps Its really hot weather right now
shexy Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 It could be that after you guys met up in person, she didn't feel any kind of real connection or attraction to you and decided she doesn't want to go out with you. 1
carhill Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I don't really understand why this is happening? She enjoyed the moment, your interaction and the event. That moment is over. seemed perfect. It may have been entirely perfect. Also to add, She is very popular and imagine she gets a lot of attention from men. More perfect moments, just with others So what do I do? be indifferent, ignore her like she is ignoring me? will this work? Live your life and enjoy other perfect moments with other people. Perhaps someone will come along who likes repeating them with you and you with her. If I keep messaging her it will seem desperate. Tip: Refrain from trying to read a woman's mind. Fruitless. If you want to message her, do that. If not, not. Thanks for reading. You're welcome. We've all dealt with this kind of stuff. You're not alone. It'll work out. 2
Author tonzy22 Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Thank you for, replying and giving advice I really appreciate it. thanks for breaking it down Carhill, I just have to deal with it, seems a waste.... but life
carhill Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Regarding the 'waste' part, here's something to consider. Every memory in life has value. Some are lessons. Some are gifts. Some are a reminder of one's mortality. We choose what value to assign to each memory we form as a result of moments of life. In the end, all we have is memories, presuming they aren't robbed from us by disease or defect. The 'waste' can become a valuable part of that memory pathway. We each choose how 'can' works in our lives. Choices give us power. 1
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