brittneyfoster Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 LOL!!! So yesterday we were texting back and forth and he was going on and on about he is moving and isn't looking for a relationship anyway to be honest. I was confused on that comment because I said I liked him and he was cool to continue being friends with but I never once asked for a relationship. He was like "Well the other night when we were drinking you kept saying "All you want is sex and I know it." and I said "I said that really?" and then I said, "Well if I said that it's because that's the perception that I have of you based off of your own behavior, and I am quite aware of that. However, I had no idea that I said that though." I told him I was alright with not talking to him and I appreciated his honesty;he was like "Everyone says that until they are slapped in the face with it." and I said "LOL. No, I am really alright with it though." I then explained, "Well, to be even more fair and honest though, you never took me seriously because I am a single mother. I know that. And I said that's one of the REAL reasons that I didn't want to go out with you in the first place though. However you kept pressing so I went out to have a good time and I wound up liking you a little more than what I did initially but again I had a great time with you but lets be real. I just never took the time to ask you about it." and his reply is, "Ok. Please don't go there with the single mother thing. I don't know what question you are trying to ask but it's whatever now." and I said "Oh okay. It's whatever now. LOL! Okie dokie. I will leave you to yourself then." I was on to him the entire time, and I never took him any seriously than he took but I went out and had a good time. But he seemed uninterested in backing up his "single mother" comment...you said it so own it. Who cares?! I don't. LOL.
ChatroomHero Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Kind of sounds to me that you had your mind made up about him before you went out so no matter what he did or said, you would have come to the pre-decided conclusion you had about him.
Author brittneyfoster Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Well why I wouldn't have my mind made up? He stated on the website that he couldn't date someone with kids just have sex with them. And what more do I think of a man subscribed to several NSA and Hook up Only websites. Was I supposed to take him seriously? I don't feel like he took me seriously.
ChatroomHero Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Well why I wouldn't have my mind made up? He stated on the website that he couldn't date someone with kids just have sex with them. And what more do I think of a man subscribed to several NSA and Hook up Only websites. Was I supposed to take him seriously? I don't feel like he took me seriously. Well if you had your mind made up and then called him out on it, what do you expect his reaction would be and why would you post it? You say you went out with him for a fun night out, but it seems you really went out with him to start crap with him and give him a hard time about his position. On the date you say you don't remember saying he only wanted sex but somehow you remember he gave you that perception? You already had that perception, you probably tortured him all night and anything he could have done to prove his intentions might be otherwise would have been fruitless. Did he try to have sex with you? You went out with him knowing full well it would be a failure and any continued conversation would turn to a p*ssing match over him not wanting a relationship. I think you just needed a little drama in your life to post here about.
Author brittneyfoster Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Well if you had your mind made up and then called him out on it, what do you expect his reaction would be and why would you post it? You say you went out with him for a fun night out, but it seems you really went out with him to start crap with him and give him a hard time about his position. On the date you say you don't remember saying he only wanted sex but somehow you remember he gave you that perception? You already had that perception, you probably tortured him all night and anything he could have done to prove his intentions might be otherwise would have been fruitless. Did he try to have sex with you? You went out with him knowing full well it would be a failure and any continued conversation would turn to a p*ssing match over him not wanting a relationship. I think you just needed a little drama in your life to post here about. I only went out with him because he kept asking me to go out after I politely declined hanging out several times that evening simply because I was felt like he was only about one thing. When I finally relented, it was because I said "What the heck. I know what I think of him, so I control my own actions. I know what he wants, but I don't have to give him what he wants. I'll go and have dinner, drinks, and be done" I did just that... I have NO clue what I said to him... I had that perception of him BEFORE the date from certain things I saw which is why I really didn't care to go out with him. Who said anything about a relationship?! That never came out of my mouth. No, he didn't try to have sex with me nor did I try to have sex with him, which was surprising but we were both drunk so who knows. It is clear at this point that THOSE were his intentions, so how wrong was I?
Author brittneyfoster Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 (edited) Reading your previous thread he told you he "wasnt looking to start anything because he was leaving for korea" before you even met. Why is this news to you? He was probably just reminding you of what he already previously stated. Right, and I also knew from him being on NSA websites that he just wanted sex. I wasn't surprised by anything other than the fact that he DIDN'T try anything the other night and seemed upset with me yesterday because I pretty much knew the entire time what he was about. LOL. I said I wanted to be friends with him because he was cool...I never asked for anything more than that...he was cool but what can I do with someone thousands miles away other than talk? Nothing...so that's what I was fine with continuing to do. What I am confused about is how he acted super duper interested and was going on and on about he hated that he met me when he was leaving and then texting me yesterday to tell me it sucks that we won't be able to chill anymore as though I had asked to hang out again. If he never called me again, I would have never called or texted him. So IMO...what did he really expect to get from texting me?! Edited July 9, 2013 by brittneyfoster
charisma.9901 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 He texted you in an attempt to see if you would be willing to hang out again... probably to see if you could be persuaded to go ahead and sleep with him anyways, since it worked when he was persistent with you previously (ie. he was persistent & you gave in/went out with him). You didn't sleep with him on the first date, count yourself lucky because it sounds like you would've regretted it-- and now, why would you waste any more time on this?
Author brittneyfoster Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 He texted you in an attempt to see if you would be willing to hang out again... probably to see if you could be persuaded to go ahead and sleep with him anyways, since it worked when he was persistent with you previously (ie. he was persistent & you gave in/went out with him). You didn't sleep with him on the first date, count yourself lucky because it sounds like you would've regretted it-- and now, why would you waste any more time on this? Exactly, which is why I feel like he gave me it's that "Well, it's whatever now..." text which seemed so dismissive; it was funny how he told me not to go there with the single mother thing...you said it, so stand by it. Lol!!
ChatroomHero Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Exactly, which is why I feel like he gave me it's that "Well, it's whatever now..." text which seemed so dismissive; it was funny how he told me not to go there with the single mother thing...you said it, so stand by it. Lol!! I am confused why this would phase you, you dismissed him before you even went out with him, he clearly saw that probably from the moment you met. What would you expect besides him dismissing you? You say you were clear you were not looking for NSA but went out on a date with a guy that you knew was looking for NSA, so how were you standing by what you said? Going out with a guy you know is only looking for sex when that is not what you apparently want, isn't exactly backing up your stance on looking for more. I think you wanted to go out to have a drama injection because you know when you went out that is exactly what would happen.
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