db2689 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 I love my ex-girlfriend. She is the most amazing girl I have met. I am 31 and she is 26. We had been going out for a little over a year. just before our 1 year anniversary she went on a long planned 6 week vacation to europe with her sister and parents for part of it. Things weren't fantastic before she left. 6 months into our relationship I quit my job, and looking for another job was causing me stress and also on the relationship. However we still managed to go on a few holidays and nice dinners. I spent the night with her, helped her pack and drove her to the airport. Kissed her goodbye, there were tears and sadness. During her trip away she texted me often, and showed that she loved me. Said it often. However I just sensed something was up, however didnt let it upset me. In the week before she came back, I noticed a slight reduction in texting. I offered to pick her and her sister up and she said not to worry as her father would and i didnt need to come to the airport. Right then I knew something was definately up. I went to the airport anyway, met her dad and waited for her. walked her to her car hugged, and that was it. A week later, and after several offers to take her for lunch she was either too busy back at her job or too tired. Finally, a week after she had come back, she came to my parents place where we planned to meet before going to my friends place for dinner which she said yes to going. SHe delivered presents to my whole family. I got a very nice watch which is what i asked for, a leather belt and a few other small things. the watch was my 1 yr anniversary present. I didnt get her anything as i was a bit startled that i hadnt seen her in a week. I just said i havent got you anything yet and i will get you something nice. i could see the sadness in her face when she realised i hadnt got her a present. So next, i go up to have a shower and get ready for dinner with friends. she comes up. then she says we need to talk. she breaks up with me, crying and says she loves me. i say can we still be friends and will i see you again and not to worry as it doesnt hurt me and i will be alright. she keeps saying sorry sorry. i say dont worry and stop crying it will be alright. Then i say well lets just go to dinner and then i will take you home. she tells me that her whole family (mum, dad, brother and sister) are in a car around the corner, and she cant come to dinner with me and they are waiting to take her home. then i say ok, let me have my shower, i will take you out. i cracked a few jokes to her about the situation and walked her out. its been four days now, i havent heard from her. i know things wernt great but they didnt seem that terrible. so i wrote her an email last night and just said i understand why you broke up with me, and it was probably the right decision. I know i was an arsehole on certain occasions and i need to change that part of me. the last 12 months were very special t ome and you are the most wonderful person i have met. i feel bad for not getting you a present and as soon as i find work i will send you something nice as a token of my appreciation. i thought long and hard about sending this but thought it important you know how i feel. i will treasure my time with you. i dont expect her to reply but i just wanted to send her what i thought and didnt say the night she broke up with me. i will not pester her and respect her space, in a month or so when i have a job and some money, i will send her the gift i wanted to get her for our 1 year. and that will be it. i do love her, i dont know if i will get another chance with her, i hope so but only time will tell. is this the best way to deal with the situation. oh, and also, when i asked her if we could be friends when she was breaking up, she said i hope so, and maybe you could tach me golf one day. done
for666 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 well interesting story no one gonna answer this do... you know women love attention the idea that you care about her you don't have to give her present that you buy from money! you need'd to give her something ,even a Letter just to show that you have an attention to her and you care (time spend'd on the letter or a Drawing!) but coming with empty hands is bad man... and don't blame it on the job you did a mistake the only way to fix ... is... well nc and get her the gift but 1 month can be realllyyyy 2 late if you can somehow surprise her NOW ( think something really romantic make an interesting trick with friend for her or something fun!) it gonna be much helpful you see time can make love grow but in you'r situation it's just gonna make her little day by day lose her love (and than stick with the idea that you don't care!) best of luck the 1 month gift is k 2 but don't be surprised if it hits bad
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