ana0pera Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 So when I was in Europe I used craigslist to meet activity partners, and I met a number of cute, fun, friendly men and also got a lot of interest from other hotties--I didn't have time to meet them all I am a bit afraid of using it in the US though because of the reputation it has here, and also because I would like to have a LTR and not some casual hookups, which is what a lot of people use craigslist for. What I'm wondering is if anyone has had success getting a LTR from craigslist--or even just finding a nice, respectful guy that isn't trying to get into a girl's pants--in the US? I've tried other websites to no avail. I am sick and tired of OKC because I am not meeting any guys locally who are interested in me, and the site I met my ex on (a website specializing in dating my ethnic group) is great in theory, but most of the guys are not local and I don't want to be in an LDR right now. I am considering signing up for Match because I want guys who are serious, but I am apprehensive because in the area I live, there is little interest in my racial group among guys who I'd be interested in (within my age range, who have my education, etc) so I don't want to spend money trying to find a mate locally when the odds are stacked against me. I accept this as a fact because even when I go to websites that specialize in interracial dating or dating within my racial group, there are very few members in my area. I've only used CL once, but what I liked about it is that I could specify what I look like in the profile and what I was interested in, and guys come out of the woodwork--I get to pick from the ones who show initial interest. With most dating sites, I am also searching for guys, messaging guys, etc, and they're not messaging me back, which is a bit of a letdown. Does anyone have different experiences with craigslist that I should heed as a warning sign, or anyone recommend it? or something else?
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Never heard of an LTR resulting from a CL meeting. And that's even if you define LTR as "more than one date." Maybe it'll work for you though. It might depend on where you live.
Author ana0pera Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 hahaha well I live in the free love capital of the USA! grrrr why does dating have to be so difficult
Mme. Chaucer Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 hahaha well I live in the free love capital of the USA! grrrr why does dating have to be so difficult San Francisco?! If so, I predict you can have great success with "casual encounters" and otherwise, find a sad assortment of social misfits. And I sincerely hope I'm wrong! Try it and report back.
Author ana0pera Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 San Francisco?! If so, I predict you can have great success with "casual encounters" and otherwise, find a sad assortment of social misfits. And I sincerely hope I'm wrong! Try it and report back. Correct! I will post an ad and see who (or rather, what ) bites.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 What's wrong with using OKC for the similar purpose? You can pick out of men that message you....
Seductive Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 I've known ltrs that have occurred from cl. In fact, the people I've met are of a higher caliber than those on okc.
happykat Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 I like CL..I have placed a couple of ads on CL myself, and have answered a couple. I dated someone for about six months from an ad I've placed. My ad was honest and well written, and attracted a few decent responses. The percentage of decent responses is very low (I'd guess about 5%, if that), compared to the amount of spam, one liners, and penis pics you will receive. But if you place a good ad, you will attract a few good men. I recommend requiring a pic with the response. Good luck - Let us know how it turns out!
Author ana0pera Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 What's wrong with using OKC for the similar purpose? You can pick out of men that message you.... As I said in my original post, I've been on OKC for a while now and haven't had ANY success. I message guys who match me well, my pictures are good (I've had friends look at them and I've used them on other dating sites with success), but I get nothing. Only guys who are not my type at all (stoners, uneducated, etc etc). It's a little disheartening and for a while I thought something was wrong with me, and then I realized that I am just not white/asian enough, I don't do enough yoga, and I don't enjoy rock climbing as much as the girls these guys are looking for. And that's fine. What I like about the craigslist idea is that I put myself out there once to the masses and anyone inerested will bite and then we can figure things out...with OKC and some other dating websites, I put myself out there to the masses (a dating profile) and then I also have to put myself out there to specific guys I like...which is a lot of work, and because I am not getting anything out of it (no dates, very few responses) it's depressing and I am not up for it. My worry with CL is that I'll attract the folk on OKC that I am already attracting, the ones I don't like, or I'll attract guys that are even sketchier. I like that I can be anonymous with it longer though than with a dating website...I get to pick who sees my photo and all. So far I've gotten some responses, no penis pics (YAY!!!), and most of them seem ok.
BradJacobs Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Its like eating healthy at McDonald's I've used Craigslist before and while I agree most of the responders to ads are less than desirable, there are plenty that are. It just takes some time to find the diamonds in the rough which isn't any different than most online dating sites. It casts a wide net and that's the purpose of CL Personals.
shexy Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 You can usually check out a guys package on CL before "dating" him......but sometimes I think the guys use fake dickpix. 1
Author ana0pera Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Since you are dredging the bottom try POF. I'm not trying to dredge the bottom!! For some reason, in the United States, I just attract middle-aged sketchballs or young guys with no goals. I mean I am not perfect but I really don't think I put off those kind of vibes!! And alas, I can't move to Europe (where I feel appreciated) just yet... You can usually check out a guys package on CL before "dating" him......but sometimes I think the guys use fake dickpix. surprisingly i haven't gotten any penis pictures yet, and if i get any it's an automatic delete... although it takes longer for those things to leave the mind:sick:
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