Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Mr Darcy is an old school romantic... You're more like Jason Biggs in my best friends girl... You should read pride and prejudiceaand take notes I honestly do want your advice, but I'm not into the sarcasm. I was interested in what you were sharing last night, it just seems a little harsh, like more games? I don't know. I just don't think I can be so cold?
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Mr Darcy is an old school romantic... You're more like Jason Biggs in my best friends girl... You should read pride and prejudiceaand take notes I dont think people are trying to mock you and make fun your message was just VERY over the top after meeting just once to me that would be somewhat of a redflag however, i know your intentions were good just ask her to meet at such and such date and such and such time And leave it, if not then at least you gave your best effort. Yeah, I understand how it was over the top, as was her reaction to not hearing from me for 10 hours and assuming I didn't like her! I'm just a believer in falling in love with someone, sometimes almost immediately. Maybe I've heard the story about my mom and dad meeting once and both knowing they'd found "the one" has set a benchmark that doesn't exist anymore? I don't know...
RebelWithoutACause Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) Yeah, I'm not as invested as I was. Especially after the somewhat bland response I got back from her. Thanks for your advice. I'm going to ask her out this weekend and depending on her response, either follow through or put it behind me. It's hard for me to find women that I d'état and of are into the whole pinup/greaser culture, so I was especially interested in her because she gets it. Whatever. I agree that her response is not overly enthusiastic but then again, you threw a lot of stuff at her at once, so, who knows, maybe she was overwhelmed. Even if she seems a bit of a liability at the moment I understand why you want to give it another go. There are some people you just have to get out of your system. BTW I know where you are coming from with the whole meeting women who are into the pin up, greaser culture. When you are into an alternative culture (like I am) it's easy to get excited when you meet a potential partner with the same interests, simply because it's so rare. At least it's rare where I live, but I'm not American so I might be wrong. Edited July 10, 2013 by RebelWithoutACause
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 11, 2013 Author Posted July 11, 2013 I agree that her response is not overly enthusiastic but then again, you threw a lot of stuff at her at once, so, who knows, maybe she was overwhelmed. Even if she seems a bit of a liability at the moment I understand why you want to give it another go. There are some people you just have to get out of your system. BTW I know where you are coming from with the whole meeting women who are into the pin up, greaser culture. When you are into an alternative culture (like I am) it's easy to get excited when you meet a potential partner with the same interests, simply because it's so rare. At least it's rare where I live, but I'm not American so I might be wrong. Thanks for the input. So she's overwhelmed a bit, that makes sense! What to do now? Leave it alone? That seemed to blow up in my face last time...
CptSaveAho Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 Thanks for the input. So she's overwhelmed a bit, that makes sense! What to do now? Leave it alone? That seemed to blow up in my face last time... You dont listen... what part of "Dont listen to what a girl says" do you not comprehend/understand... Whats the point of giving you advice when you wont even follow it... I did not even have to give you the key code to the castle, you already had it (knew it and what to do)... you are so emotionally WOUNDED that you dont listen to not only yourself but to people that give you the skeleton key code to the castle... Here's the thing, its game over for you, you put the nail in the coffin because you did not listen to not only yourself but me... she slapped you with the classic omg this guy is totally lame but he strokes my ego so I am going to possibly be his friend when I want to use and abuse him I dont get it... like most posters that post here on this section and cant figure out why they have been dating for so long and still cant connect the dots as to why they are still miserable and unhappy and cant succeed in the dating realm, the problem is you... You know you have issues and instead of focusing on them, you continue to avoid them and choose to date. You know rational, emotionally healthy people in life realize after enough pain that something needs to change. They usually put 2+2 together and figure out its 4 and fix their problems and then life unfolds right in front of them with ease... btw I gave you the best dating advice for any guy on this forum let me quote it again Mr Darcy is an old school romantic... You're more like Jason Biggs in my best friends girl... You should read pride and prejudiceaand take notes Every girl on this planet, wants, needs and desires a Mr Darcy. Its in their DNA. The fact that you thought I was being sarcastic shows how little you know about women in general Quit thinking about the bar tender, fix your ****, read, reread, and reread and take notes of pride and prejudice and honestly self compare your interactions in the real world and with women as to how he does it... If you do this, you wont even care about the bar tender chick enough to even one night stand her, you will have so many quality women circling you but you have to do the work 1
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 11, 2013 Author Posted July 11, 2013 You dont listen... what part of "Dont listen to what a girl says" do you not comprehend/understand... Whats the point of giving you advice when you wont even follow it... I did not even have to give you the key code to the castle, you already had it (knew it and what to do)... you are so emotionally WOUNDED that you dont listen to not only yourself but to people that give you the skeleton key code to the castle... Here's the thing, its game over for you, you put the nail in the coffin because you did not listen to not only yourself but me... she slapped you with the classic omg this guy is totally lame but he strokes my ego so I am going to possibly be his friend when I want to use and abuse him I dont get it... like most posters that post here on this section and cant figure out why they have been dating for so long and still cant connect the dots as to why they are still miserable and unhappy and cant succeed in the dating realm, the problem is you... You know you have issues and instead of focusing on them, you continue to avoid them and choose to date. You know rational, emotionally healthy people in life realize after enough pain that something needs to change. They usually put 2+2 together and figure out its 4 and fix their problems and then life unfolds right in front of them with ease... btw I gave you the best dating advice for any guy on this forum let me quote it again Every girl on this planet, wants, needs and desires a Mr Darcy. Its in their DNA. The fact that you thought I was being sarcastic shows how little you know about women in general Quit thinking about the bar tender, fix your ****, read, reread, and reread and take notes of pride and prejudice and honestly self compare your interactions in the real world and with women as to how he does it... If you do this, you wont even care about the bar tender chick enough to even one night stand her, you will have so many quality women circling you but you have to do the work I understand you're trying to help, but you sound really upset. Why? So I don't want to play the role of an ******* (Mr. Darcy). I briefly looked him up, and he sounds like he was a prick. I don't buy into the "women want to be with an *******" idea. Maybe because of that I'll be single for the rest of my life. I don't understand why you're lumping me in with others that have posted here. I've been in 3 serious relationships. I'm not a "dater". This is new to me. I was with my first girlfriend for 10 years. I lost her to Cystic Fibrosis. Have you lost a girlfriend or wife to disease? Words can't describe what it feels like. Watching her deteriorate right in front of me. We met in high school when we were 17. We were kids that fell in love our senior year of high school. i knew she didn't have long to live and i chose to stay with her because I love her. I took 2 years to mourn and still struggle with the fact that I never married her. When I met my 2nd girlfriend, I felt as though I was cheating on my deceased girlfriend, and that took a while to get over. We had a great relationship, but decided mutually after almost 4 years that we weren't meant to be together. The 3rd was a 2 year relationship that ended in February of this year. We met in photo school, she pursued me and at first I thought she was too young (she was 20 at the time, I was 35), and I ended up being right. It was difficult to say no because I'm not getting any younger, and she's incredibly beautiful. We gave it a go but the age difference made it extremely difficult. Before you lump everyone together, think to yourself that maybe some people's stories are different than others. You're right, the problem is me. I'd really like to fix it. But if being like Mr. Darcy is what I need to do, I'll spend my time building hot rods and taking photos. I'm not interested in making girls chase me, or one night stands. I'm looking for someone to spend my life with. Btw, she's a tattoo artist, not a bartender. Thanks again for your input. And thanks for making me feel like a worthless piece of ****. What was the last thing you created with your hands? With your mind? I couldn't imagine getting as upset as you about something that has no effect on my life. Probably because I'm too busy putting my energy into being constructive. I thank those that were helpful and supportive. I think I'm done here. I know I blew it, and at this point I don't give a ****. 2
hoping2heal Posted July 11, 2013 Posted July 11, 2013 I understand you're trying to help, but you sound really upset. Why? So I don't want to play the role of an ******* (Mr. Darcy). I briefly looked him up, and he sounds like he was a prick. I don't buy into the "women want to be with an *******" idea. Maybe because of that I'll be single for the rest of my life. I don't understand why you're lumping me in with others that have posted here. I've been in 3 serious relationships. I'm not a "dater". This is new to me. I was with my first girlfriend for 10 years. I lost her to Cystic Fibrosis. Have you lost a girlfriend or wife to disease? Words can't describe what it feels like. Watching her deteriorate right in front of me. We met in high school when we were 17. We were kids that fell in love our senior year of high school. i knew she didn't have long to live and i chose to stay with her because I love her. I took 2 years to mourn and still struggle with the fact that I never married her. When I met my 2nd girlfriend, I felt as though I was cheating on my deceased girlfriend, and that took a while to get over. We had a great relationship, but decided mutually after almost 4 years that we weren't meant to be together. The 3rd was a 2 year relationship that ended in February of this year. We met in photo school, she pursued me and at first I thought she was too young (she was 20 at the time, I was 35), and I ended up being right. It was difficult to say no because I'm not getting any younger, and she's incredibly beautiful. We gave it a go but the age difference made it extremely difficult. Before you lump everyone together, think to yourself that maybe some people's stories are different than others. You're right, the problem is me. I'd really like to fix it. But if being like Mr. Darcy is what I need to do, I'll spend my time building hot rods and taking photos. I'm not interested in making girls chase me, or one night stands. I'm looking for someone to spend my life with. Btw, she's a tattoo artist, not a bartender. Thanks again for your input. And thanks for making me feel like a worthless piece of ****. What was the last thing you created with your hands? With your mind? I couldn't imagine getting as upset as you about something that has no effect on my life. Probably because I'm too busy putting my energy into being constructive. I thank those that were helpful and supportive. I think I'm done here. I know I blew it, and at this point I don't give a ****. Certain kind of women want men to treat them like a-holes. They're a type that have too many issues to be a good relationship partner so really, you're missing not a damn thing there. And you know what, who gives a crap about that girl. Her kisses were cold, and you were up front with her and if that's not good enough with her then the hell with her. There's 7 billion people on this planet and if being yourself when all you did was use honesty is a turn off to her looney tune ass then really, don't worry about it.
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 11, 2013 Author Posted July 11, 2013 Certain kind of women want men to treat them like a-holes. They're a type that have too many issues to be a good relationship partner so really, you're missing not a damn thing there. And you know what, who gives a crap about that girl. Her kisses were cold, and you were up front with her and if that's not good enough with her then the hell with her. There's 7 billion people on this planet and if being yourself when all you did was use honesty is a turn off to her looney tune ass then really, don't worry about it. Thank you. I appreciate it. The part I'm bothered most about, still, is her getting the impression I wasn't interested after not hearing from me for 10 hours. Who gives a ****. I'll be okay. I've experienced the worst kind of pain anyone can go through. Watching the girl of my dreams die, and knowing that it's coming for years, hoping for a miracle. Then months, realizing there isn't going to be a miracle. Then days, telling her how I'll never love someone the way I love her again while she lays in a hospital bed. The other guy is right. I need to fix my ****. One thing I have learned. Certain kind of women can't help but fall all over themselves when they see (or hear) a 1953 Ford F-100 with a flathead V8 and shorty headers roll up next to them. The look on their face is kind of funny when they see a 37 year old with slicked back hair and sleeves that looks 17 in the driver's seat. The hell with all of it. Me, my dog and my truck again...
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