shexy Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 So to put this behind me, and to reassure myself that if she truly does like to hear the romantic stuff I said it. At this point, absolutely nothing to lose. i know she read it, but no response. I'm too good of a guy for this stuff. Maybe it's karma from a previous life? Who knows... "I'm probably breaking every guy rule here, but that's ok. I'm not like most guys. I'm really into you. REALLY into you. I haven't stopped thinking of you since Saturday night. You're exactly what I'm looking for in a woman. I really regret that I didn't write you back after our date. I wanted to. I've just said too much, too soon in the past and some girls like to play the "waiting" game. I didn't want to freak you out. If you're wondering why I didn't ask for your phone number, the answer is the same. I really wanted to. You're the total package. Beautiful, smart, ambitious. You check all the boxes. I'd like to see you again. I'm pretty sure I've made that clear! I'd like to see if there's something between us. I certainly felt something that night. You said you like reassurance. I like reassurance too. And I hate games, so no more games on my end. If I want to tell you I think you're the most beautiful girl I've ever seen, I will. And you are. If I want to tell you that I miss you and I've only spent a total of 4 hours with you, I will. And I do. If I want to send flowers to the tattoo shop, I will. I'm not creepy, I promise. I'm just an old-school romantic. If you're still interested, reach out to me. I'm a good guy. I promise. If not, I hope you find what you're looking for. I really do." Now everyone tell me what a dickhead I am... You're not a dickhead....I feel kind of bad for you. She's not answering your messages, just let it go. I mean, your heart's in the right place, but if she was interested, she'd be messaging you back.
curlygirl40 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 You played it too cool at the start, but her reaction was way over the top. I think she would turn into a major headache if you go further. I'm 100% with ES, she summed it up nicely. You did play it too cool. If a girl is interested in you, a friendly good morning in reply to her message (sometime before noon!) would have been the way to go. Actually, you should have asked for her number that evening then instead of replying to her message, reply to it by texting her and telling her you had a good time, etc. However, like ES says, her reaction was over the top! I could see if it had been 3 days. So yes. You were playing it too cool but her reaction to that was too much. Move along. Next.....
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 You're not a dickhead....I feel kind of bad for you. She's not answering your messages, just let it go. I mean, your heart's in the right place, but if she was interested, she'd be messaging you back. Funny, my female friends are convinced she's still interested. I agree with you, I don't think she is. That's why I'm having this hard time dealing with the fact that she made it sound as though she was, but I blew it by not writing her back quickly enough. At this point, I've laid it all out there. I don't expect to hear from her again. Thanks for your response:)
Lansing Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 What made you think it was a good idea to send that last message after her not responding to you! Yikes. I was cringing.. Sorry, but you basically put the nail in the coffin with that one. 1
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 What made you think it was a good idea to send that last message after her not responding to you! Yikes. I was cringing.. Sorry, but you basically put the nail in the coffin with that one. Who the **** knows. I think I put the nail in the coffin on purpose. I just wanted to stop thinking about it. I deleted our conversation from OkC and have come to grips that I either blew it or she's crazy. I don't know which one is true.
CptSaveAho Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 wow... i wonder if your female friends realize how lame you are and set you up to fail on purpose so they can laugh their asses off i have never laughed so hard in my life... i honestly can not believe that message was sent `` 3
forgetmenot75 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 omg...you really sent that?? She must be cracking up on you right this moment! haha I can't believe you sent that, hahaha!! Please keep us posted, I really want to know if she answers you... 3
RebelWithoutACause Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 You're the total package. Beautiful, smart, ambitious, insecure, unavailable, unstable, needy, crazy... I'm not making fun, your message is actually sweet and romantic. Just not sure she's the type of person to appreciate it, i.e a normal person. 1
StayBeautiful Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Talk about one extreme to another..... a simple "look, we obviously had crossed wires, lets either put it behind us or not. How about Thursday at 8?" The bit about flowers is just stalkery.... 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Given this latest message, which is total turn around from how you acted after the date (which was just a couple of days ago?), I revise my advice. You and this girl would be perfect for each other 1
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Talk about one extreme to another..... a simple "look, we obviously had crossed wires, lets either put it behind us or not. How about Thursday at 8?" The bit about flowers is just stalkery.... Wow. Sending a girl flowers is stalkery? I'm living in the wrong era. I thought sending a girl flowers was romantic?!
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Given this latest message, which is total turn around from how you acted after the date (which was just a couple of days ago?), I revise my advice. You and this girl would be perfect for each other How I acted after the date was me trying not to come across as too excited, because God forbid a guy act too interested. I'm an old-school romantic. Of course I wanted to contact her as soon as I saw she messaged me. The last message I sent her was actually me, not someone trying to play these stupid games. She actually did respond.
StayBeautiful Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Wow. Sending a girl flowers is stalkery? I'm living in the wrong era. I thought sending a girl flowers was romantic?! Umm no, it's how you worded it. It sounds a bit sinister. "If I want to send you flowers, I will"
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Umm no, it's how you worded it. It sounds a bit sinister. "If I want to send you flowers, I will" Meaning, instead of thinking too much about it, I'll just do it. Whatever. I thought in the context of the message it sounded ok. What the **** do I know? She responded with "I don't know what to say. I'm flattered...really...don't know what to say! I think that is the best paragraph I've ever read" Don't know what this means as far as moving forward. Probably nothing. I'm not putting anymore into it. Thanks for the kind responses that people gave me, not so much for the people who simply laughed at me.
StayBeautiful Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 If she's responded, that's good. No more games though. Some women like passion and expression, she's clearly one of them... playing hard to get will turn off someone like that.
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 If she's responded, that's good. No more games though. Some women like passion and expression, she's clearly one of them... playing hard to get will turn off someone like that. Thanks for the positive response. I thought her response was sort of blasé? The question still lingers, "can I see you again?". She has my number yet continues to contact me through OKC. Any advice on what to do now?
StayBeautiful Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 You offer up a definite plan - "what are you doing this Saturday, want to get dinner at 7?" If she says yes, ask for her number. If she says no, ask her when works.
CptSaveAho Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Mr Darcy is an old school romantic... You're more like Jason Biggs in my best friends girl... You should read pride and prejudiceaand take notes
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 You offer up a definite plan - "what are you doing this Saturday, want to get dinner at 7?" If she says yes, ask for her number. If she says no, ask her when works. Will do. Thanks.
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Mr Darcy is an old school romantic... You're more like Jason Biggs in my best friends girl... You should read pride and prejudiceaand take notes I've never seen it, but I assume you're laughing at my expense. I would love to read P&P. that's good advice in itself. I've always wanted to.
SJC2008 Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 I've never seen it, but I assume you're laughing at my expense. I would love to read P&P. that's good advice in itself. I've always wanted to. Some of his advice is good and I'll agree to most of it in this thread. TBS he can be an uber deuche! He's called me a loser before. As if he can define me lol!
RebelWithoutACause Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 She actually did respond. What did she say? EDIT: Nevermind, just read it. Must have missed it.
RebelWithoutACause Posted July 10, 2013 Posted July 10, 2013 Meaning, instead of thinking too much about it, I'll just do it. Whatever. I thought in the context of the message it sounded ok. What the **** do I know? She responded with "I don't know what to say. I'm flattered...really...don't know what to say! I think that is the best paragraph I've ever read" All I can say is proceed with caution. This has the potential to get messy because you're already too invested.
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 All I can say is proceed with caution. This has the potential to get messy because you're already too invested. Yeah, I'm not as invested as I was. Especially after the somewhat bland response I got back from her. Thanks for your advice. I'm going to ask her out this weekend and depending on her response, either follow through or put it behind me. It's hard for me to find women that I d'état and of are into the whole pinup/greaser culture, so I was especially interested in her because she gets it. Whatever. I don't really understand the point in mocking or laughing at people on here in search of advice? Does it make you feel better to do so?! I guess I was raised differently. Again, thanks to those with good intentions.
Author Whtvrmakesuhapy Posted July 10, 2013 Author Posted July 10, 2013 Yeah, I'm not as invested as I was. Especially after the somewhat bland response I got back from her. Thanks for your advice. I'm going to ask her out this weekend and depending on her response, either follow through or put it behind me. It's hard for me to find women that I d'état and of are into the whole pinup/greaser culture, so I was especially interested in her because she gets it. Whatever. I don't really understand the point in mocking or laughing at people on here in search of advice? Does it make you feel better to do so?! I guess I was raised differently. Again, thanks to those with good intentions. Thank you, auto-correct... "It's hard for me to find women that are into the whole pinup/greaser culture..."
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