louisa220 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 My bf and I broke up last Tuesday after 2.5 years. He text me 3 hours after he left to ask if I was okay but I didn't respond. He text me again the following morning saying he was sorry for texting me but he just wants me to know how crappy he feels and that I didn't deserve this. He also asked to see me before we both head back to school in the fall. I responded to say I didn't think that was a good idea because it would be a repeat of us in tears feeling miserable and that he chose to leave this relationship not me. I told him that talking to me was making it harder for me and to consider my feelings and how hard this is on me. He responded saying I was right and that he was sorry. He said he'd leave me alone but if I ever wanted to talk at any point in the future he would be there. I didn't respond. It's been 5 days of full on NC and I'm falling apart. I want to talk to him but I know I have nothing to say. We were best friends and I know he still cares and loves me but is just immature and unsure as to how he feels about us. I didn't fight back or beg him to stay. I let him go. It was a **** show when he ended it. I think he may have cried more than me. I just need some comfort and someone to keep me from breaking NC.
supaflyz Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 I know you have the urge to contact him but don't do it. It's almost 3 months now since my break up, and I still have the urge to contact her some days. I try to practice what I preach now. I just got back from jogging and want to text her but I'm not. The loneliness just makes me want to, but I know I'm stronger than that. I know you are stronger than that as well.
Author louisa220 Posted July 9, 2013 Author Posted July 9, 2013 Thank you for your responses. I just don't have very many friends I can call or go to as a distraction and its hard to not think about it.
Echo000 Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 breaking no contact truly is a bad idea..opens up a can of worms and only prolongs your ability to heal. He broke up with you..remember that. He. rejected. you. If he wants to be back in your life in any way, and if you want him to be in your life, it should require him initiating contact with you. But you need to determine whether you really want that anyway. Its about you, not him. Do you want to be susceptible to going through this again possibly with him? Your life, you need to look out for you. 1
aloneinaz Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 Contacting him won't change anything. It will make you look desperate, needy and pathetic. He told you he didn't want you in his life anymore! What would contacting him possibly do? Work on you and like the others have said, NC is for you to heal and move on.
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