Do guys not find girls who are more quiet/innocent attractive?

[darlin_98]

Hi!! So... I'm 19 and I still haven't had a boyfriend. I've only had one guy ask for my number, and one guy who admitted to a friend that he liked me... I've got a few guy friends though (so me not talking to any guys isn't really my problem), and people tell me I'm pretty.. So I've kind of decided that it has to be because I'm shy/not as outgoing?

 

I mean, I'm only truly socially awkward if I'm in a big crowd, but that's because I'm not loud enough for anyone to hear me, and I know it makes everyone uncomfortable, so I try not to talk to people in those settings..

 

Otherwise, I just don't like talking as much as other girls!! I love sharing my passions with people, and I most certainly have opinions (even though I'm not going to declare them in front of everyone, because I really don't like offending anyone...) I try to be as nice as possible! I always smile when people talk to me, and I'm always really attentive (unless I'm sleepy... sorry, I tend to daydream a little...)... I've got a sensible (if not a little romantic) head on my shoulders, and I'm intelligent. I dress in a flattering, feminine - but modest and natural - way.. I'll be the first to admit that I'm a little weird and nerdy, but I'm pretty interesting, too!!

 

I just tend to blush if I'm talking to a really cute guy, and I really, really, really don't get most dirty jokes (which no, isn't an invitation to just tell me more and laugh because I don't understand:mad:), and like I said, I don't really go out into big crowds so I don't really enjoy big parties... I've got a more sarcastic, dry sense of humor instead of a slapstick type that seems to surprise a lot, and people don't really tend to notice me if I'm sitting with my friends at a big table, or if I'm out with them, etc.

 

I've read a lot on the internet that guys think shy girls are boring/useless and they don't like them at all... It honestly makes me really sad, because it's not exactly like I can help it, but I'm not going to change who I am..

 

But is it true that most guys like the really outgoing, confident, louder and more talkative girls, and that they just don't like my personality/don't notice me?

 

PS: sorry this is so long, I'd just really like your opinion about me, maybe someone can help, give me some pointers!!

[90s kid]

You remind me a lot of myself. I've always been more on the shy side and unfortunately, that can be a hindrance when it comes to dating. From my experience, men like women that loud and outgoing because it takes the burden off of them to approach and strike up a conversation. You don't have to be something you're not, but work on being more open and approachable in social settings.

[Feelin Frisky]

Since I've traveled around the sun close to 40 more times than you may I ask you give my advise a little extra credence? Honestly what most people are doing is exactly what you are at your age--laboring a bit over how they'll be perceived. What that means is no one is really analyzing or judging you. And certainly not as much as you are doing to yourself. They are nervous about themselves and trying not to look it. You can learn to put that to your advantage. It's a lot more comprehensive than just taking louder, trying not to blush r what have you. It's a way of reassuring yourself that most folk are really insecure and nervous and worried about themselves. And guess what that means? it means they often fear you and are nervous about what and how you think of them--expecially if your' the least bit cute. If you discipline yourself--your gut-- to understand this you will become at ease with yourself and confidence will come to you, And always remember that some people are so neurotic at it that they may try to belittle you. those are the weakest of the bunch, It doesn't happen that often but you have to expect it along that way and be sure that the issue is not with you, it's with them. it takes practice but look around and think about what someone else might be thinking about. More often than not there will be "tells" that they are preoccupied with fear of rejection and belittlement. And if you're a nice person, you get friends by reliving them of their worry with your manner. Never be affarid of a loud mouth attention seeker, deep down they are scared little children. Good luck.

[Seductive]

I'm not a man, but I find quiet/innocent girls very attractive. They're classy and elegant. Silence is much more powerful than being a blabbermouth.

 

Don't listen to guys on the internet. Guys that actually get girls and are busy don't need to be wasting time on the internet.