SJ69 Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Serious advice and help needed on what I should do!! I think it was the 28th that I went to her house and that's when things went downhill. Before we left for senior week about 2 weeks before the 28th, she was all over me about me cheating down there and us staying together, all that stuff. Well we get down there and she (now my ex) is sometimey about spending time together, always drunk, looking to party.... Parties at her house every night. Well she was acting weird and I was just fed up with the **** and she saw some messages in my phone from like 2 weeks ago at the point about some other girl and I understood her being mad about it so whatever, she wanted a break over that and I let her have it. Well that night I found out some guy texted her and wanted to hangout and she said no, well I go to the boardwalk after not talking to her all day, and see her talking to this guy on the boardwalk about how the cops got called at her house. I dragged her to the side and told her we were done. 5 minutes later I call her friend and she's crying her eyes out saying everybody at the house including my ex left her there drunk while the cops searched the house and she was in the bathtub crying so I went to her house to deal with her bestfriend, while my ex is drunk on the boardwalk doing whatever she wants, well I get there and things blew up, so I go home and we finish out senior week decently somehow, I took her to dinner, all that. We get home from senior week and we're still arguing over what happened at senior week, something I probably should've let go but it was wrong so, not to mention one night I was drunk and she let me walk 32 streets back to my house. Well... She started acting realllllyy weird. The relationship didn't mean anything to her anymore she wasn't feeling it, idk. So we hangout the 28th and she's just... Weird, not who I remembered her being, talking to people she doesn't even like, hanging out with them, all that. So then I get her phone and see right after senior week she was texting 3 guys, I couldn't see all the messages and it didn't look too bad but I mean.. She was flirting and going way out of her way and norm to talk to these people. Well she said it was innocent and a week ago, but whatever it shouldn't have happened. So I spazzed and just said I gave you my all we're done take me home. Well she did and was just crying her eyes out saying she didn't want to be done but maybe this was best for the long run, saying she didn't know who she was anymore, she was confused, didn't know what she wanted, maybe she took me for granted and won't realize what she had until she lost it, maybe she needs time, all that. So two days later I texted her after she's been partying both days and I said ok look make a decision she said the same things as before, I said no, make a decision, she said I love you and I don't want this but I think we're done. So we ended just like that.... Since then she's been tweeting things like "I been played to the moon and back", "sometimes it's the right person wrong time", talking to and partying with allllll these guys, like talking to nearly everyone on Twitter, flirting, all that, saying "how good life is now", this and that. Then the day before yesterday she texted me asking how I was and about my new tattoo, we talked about 20 minutes then the conversation just died. Since she had the "sometimes it's the right person, wrong time" tweet, "my life is so good right now", talking to and texting different guys, having them come visit her at her place of work, just really seeming like she's loving life right now. And I have no clue what to think or do at all. What would you do? On Twitter, in person, how would you act? I'm so lost with her mess, it's like mind games. Idk if she wants my attention, or is really over it all. Mind you, we haven't talked since the 30th when she told me we were done.. Then the 6th she texted me. And she's been posting pictures of her and all her friends partying and guys on Instagram and liking pictures. What is she trying to accomplish? Note that we both leave for college at the end of August, about 50 minutes away from one another. And on my birthday, 5 days before senior week, we were having a GREAT time. She was so loving and sweet and it was all I could've asked for. She wanted to spend the rest of life with me, me with her, perfect. Then things changed so fast and she's constantly talking to guys and uploading cute pictures of herself online every day. I just need some serious advice on what you would do.
Chi townD Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 I couldn't make heads or tails about what the hell you were talking about with "senior week" and crap. BUT! from what I gathered is she flirting with these other guys and is happy to continue to do so. So, you're not together anymore. The one thing you need to do is stop following her on twitter. Then, you need to block her on Facebook. BLOCK her, NOT de-friend her. Then, you need to go NO CONTACT! If she text you (which, I know she will as soon as she discovers she's blocked and unfollowed) then you need to ignore it. If she calls, let it go to voicemail. Remember, she wanted this, so you are giving exactly what she wanted; you out of her life. I know you'll want to respond. DON'T DO IT! Post here instead. Time to heal and move on dude.
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