GIGS [or whatever you want to call it] and Emotional Affairs

[travelonic]

I've wondered if there are connections between the concept of GIGS / "Sewing your Wild Oats" / WhateverThe****YouWannaCallIt and having an emotional affair behaviorally, how the events pan out, the pain felt by parties [and the idea of "tape delay" if any on the dumpee's part emotionally], etc - if there is a fine divide, or if the two go hand in hand, and if the various possible outcomes are similar, extremely different, or the same.

[Appleness]

I think you're asking too many things all at once. I'll try to answer best I can IMHO.

 

Some people do the GIGS thing and start it off as an emotional affair. Their thinking is "well, I'm NOT cheating. I'm just having these feelings for so-and-so." The feelings fuel the GIGS until the person cheats or dumps their boyfriend/girlfriend for what they perceive to be someone better.

 

The dumpee has no idea what's going on. The signs of emotional cheating is much harder to catch on to, so there is always a "tape delay". That's why everyone advocates NC here because only through maintaining distance can you see the situation objectively. The fact is, the GIGS person made the decision to do what they feel is the right thing for themselves. The person getting dumped has to learn to survive and move on because the person you were in the relationship with is no longer there. They've become a whole different person now.

 

This is just my opinion. Not even sure if this helps to answer your question.

[ConfusedHumanBeing]

I've wondered if there are connections between the concept of GIGS / "Sewing your Wild Oats" / WhateverThe****YouWannaCallIt and having an emotional affair behaviorally, how the events pan out, the pain felt by parties [and the idea of "tape delay" if any on the dumpee's part emotionally], etc - if there is a fine divide, or if the two go hand in hand, and if the various possible outcomes are similar, extremely different, or the same.

 

Honestly, it doesnt matter. None of it matters. If they arent there, they arent there. Really end of story. Trying to rationalze/give definitions for it/ etc etc are just prolonging anything that you can actually be improving like yourself.

[flitzanu]

I've wondered if there are connections between the concept of GIGS / "Sewing your Wild Oats" / WhateverThe****YouWannaCallIt and having an emotional affair behaviorally, how the events pan out, the pain felt by parties [and the idea of "tape delay" if any on the dumpee's part emotionally], etc - if there is a fine divide, or if the two go hand in hand, and if the various possible outcomes are similar, extremely different, or the same.

 

can you try to explain this differently?

 

are you asking how/what the results are, or if they are the same if:

 

1. a person goes through HIWTGBOP and leaves to do that,

and

2. a person invests only emotionally in another person (not phsycially or even geographically)

 

and what happens between each scenario?